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I don't expect anyone to have an answer but I am just feeling very alone. My BF and I have been together for three years, and I helped to support him when he did not get a residency during his first match. He is now halfway through his PG1 year, and it seems to be going very well for him. I, on the other hand, have not been able to create a life in our new city. I went from a major metropolis where I was a student, to a tiny city where I have not been able to find a job in my field. I went from living in a place with a support network to a place where I know no one. Finally, and perhaps most alienating of all, I am currently learning how to drive, and in this new city there is almost no public transportation, so I can't go anywhere. I have suggested moving closer to town or that I work on a third degree and get a job out of my field (zoology) so that when we move elsewhere I will still be relevant, but he worries about the cost.
He and the other male residents keep trying to push their GF's and wives into being friends, but none of us have clicked, and more importantly, we are not 6-year-olds going to a party with the promise of "kids your age" being there! I have joined clubs, started volunteering, and tried to make friends, but this whole city feels like an opiate strewn, post-apocalyptic, wasteland. I am not discounting the fact that some of this could be SAD (terrible winter) or exhaustion from finishing my master's thesis a month ago. I need him to stop worrying about money, I have no student debt, and if I do another degree, the amount I would add to our debt is almost negligible in comparison to his med school debt. I have told this to him, but he keeps just worrying about the money. I feel like a woman in a tower, and I hate it. How have other people dealt with this alienation?
He and the other male residents keep trying to push their GF's and wives into being friends, but none of us have clicked, and more importantly, we are not 6-year-olds going to a party with the promise of "kids your age" being there! I have joined clubs, started volunteering, and tried to make friends, but this whole city feels like an opiate strewn, post-apocalyptic, wasteland. I am not discounting the fact that some of this could be SAD (terrible winter) or exhaustion from finishing my master's thesis a month ago. I need him to stop worrying about money, I have no student debt, and if I do another degree, the amount I would add to our debt is almost negligible in comparison to his med school debt. I have told this to him, but he keeps just worrying about the money. I feel like a woman in a tower, and I hate it. How have other people dealt with this alienation?