Hello everyone,
I'm new here and just wanted to get some input on what I should be expecting with my SOs third year starting in a little under two months.
We have been together since undergrad and she got straight into medical school. We are currently living together with her now studying for STEP 1 and me working full time. It has been a rough first two years because of it. I work 45 hour weeks and she is usually studying so it has made getting together a bit rough sometimes. I'm usually tired fro a long day of work whereas she sees the time she has spent on school during the day and is full of energy when I get home. She is somewhat unique with the amount of energy she has. She definitely likes to go go go. Because of our differing personalities (me being more lax and her being the go getter that she is) it has lead to some frustrating times where sometimes I just don't have the energy to do something after work and her wanting to reward herself for studying by doing something special with me.
This is where my predicament comes in. With her starting third year soon I know that our schedule may very well be turned upside down. It has been hard enough to make things meaningful when we see each other every night but I can't even imagine how that will be when our schedules don't match up. I've sometimes been the fall guy in the past staying up later than I should just to get some time together and see her smile but with added responsibilities at work I can't afford to waste my sleep schedule. Any tips?
Also, as I mentioned before I am more of a relaxed person and I like to keep my work and home life separate. I personally like to get home get out of work clothes and just relax the rest of the night. I'm getting worried because my SO recently told me that she thinks I should do something now that I will have some more time on my hands with her busy schedule. Her idea was to join a professional society or volunteer. While I have nothing against them and I do think they do great things they just aren't for me and I have told her that. She's mentioned in the past how much she adores super couples and I think she would like us to be one. I just don't think that is me and I'm getting worried as the whole med school thing progresses. I'm a normal guy and I am fine with that. I just don't think I can live up to the type of life she may want us to have and it gets me worried. I know I just wrote a novel but none of her friends have SOs who aren't also in med school so I'm sort of lost for advice. Thank you for the outlet and if you read all of this you're a saint.
Cage
I'm new here and just wanted to get some input on what I should be expecting with my SOs third year starting in a little under two months.
We have been together since undergrad and she got straight into medical school. We are currently living together with her now studying for STEP 1 and me working full time. It has been a rough first two years because of it. I work 45 hour weeks and she is usually studying so it has made getting together a bit rough sometimes. I'm usually tired fro a long day of work whereas she sees the time she has spent on school during the day and is full of energy when I get home. She is somewhat unique with the amount of energy she has. She definitely likes to go go go. Because of our differing personalities (me being more lax and her being the go getter that she is) it has lead to some frustrating times where sometimes I just don't have the energy to do something after work and her wanting to reward herself for studying by doing something special with me.
This is where my predicament comes in. With her starting third year soon I know that our schedule may very well be turned upside down. It has been hard enough to make things meaningful when we see each other every night but I can't even imagine how that will be when our schedules don't match up. I've sometimes been the fall guy in the past staying up later than I should just to get some time together and see her smile but with added responsibilities at work I can't afford to waste my sleep schedule. Any tips?
Also, as I mentioned before I am more of a relaxed person and I like to keep my work and home life separate. I personally like to get home get out of work clothes and just relax the rest of the night. I'm getting worried because my SO recently told me that she thinks I should do something now that I will have some more time on my hands with her busy schedule. Her idea was to join a professional society or volunteer. While I have nothing against them and I do think they do great things they just aren't for me and I have told her that. She's mentioned in the past how much she adores super couples and I think she would like us to be one. I just don't think that is me and I'm getting worried as the whole med school thing progresses. I'm a normal guy and I am fine with that. I just don't think I can live up to the type of life she may want us to have and it gets me worried. I know I just wrote a novel but none of her friends have SOs who aren't also in med school so I'm sort of lost for advice. Thank you for the outlet and if you read all of this you're a saint.
Cage