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Don't know if this is the right forum... Anyways, for the past month or two I have been spending most of my time studying, going to the gym, and hanging out with my friends/gf. I am 2 weeks away from my MCAT exam and out of all the times, my girlfriend is now grilling me for not spending enough time with her during crunch time for the exam. She says I don't have enough "give". I am trying my best to spend time with her, which usually is 2-3 hours a day and pretty much the whole evening on the weekends! However, I can admit I don't have much "give" when it comes down to going to the beach and swimming...doing all the fun summer stuff. Right now I don't care about those things. I would rather just hangout casually and talk and use the little time I have with her productively! I am too stressed to even enjoy going to the beach right now. In addition, I don't want to go out and drink alcohol on the weekends, as it could risk having an unproductive hangover day!
It is now down to the point where this could influence our relationship. I am sure she is lonely and is tired of this studying crap, but what about me? I am the one taking the exam. I am the one that is determined to get a good score that could be the ticket to my lifelong dream of becoming a doctor! The least she could do is stop adding stress on top of the current situation of having a very important exam to worry about. She continues to call me after her work and ask "What are you doing?" ... 9 times out of 10 I will respond: "Just studying..."... it goes on and on like clockwork. Then the cycle repeats itself: she asks to hang out, I tell her I still need to go to the gym, then she plays the guilt trip game, and then she almost acts surprised. Like she doesn't know I study all day and that I am trying to stay focussed?
Sorry for the long rant. I just need some advice and how to approach this. She is a good girl, but she is VERY extroverted. She will literally go insane after 2 hours of not speaking to another human-being. That makes the situation much much much more difficult, as she is constantly requiring attention. I have already tried to explain it to her, but I am not very good at communicating my feelings and/or reasoning. What do you guys think I should tell her to resolve this issue?
It is now down to the point where this could influence our relationship. I am sure she is lonely and is tired of this studying crap, but what about me? I am the one taking the exam. I am the one that is determined to get a good score that could be the ticket to my lifelong dream of becoming a doctor! The least she could do is stop adding stress on top of the current situation of having a very important exam to worry about. She continues to call me after her work and ask "What are you doing?" ... 9 times out of 10 I will respond: "Just studying..."... it goes on and on like clockwork. Then the cycle repeats itself: she asks to hang out, I tell her I still need to go to the gym, then she plays the guilt trip game, and then she almost acts surprised. Like she doesn't know I study all day and that I am trying to stay focussed?
Sorry for the long rant. I just need some advice and how to approach this. She is a good girl, but she is VERY extroverted. She will literally go insane after 2 hours of not speaking to another human-being. That makes the situation much much much more difficult, as she is constantly requiring attention. I have already tried to explain it to her, but I am not very good at communicating my feelings and/or reasoning. What do you guys think I should tell her to resolve this issue?