HonieButterfly said:
Blah Blah Blah... I think its unfair to the faculty and unfair to those who are or were wait listed. In such a case it is the applicant duty to understand the offer of admissions in the email/letter/phone call. Most schools usually tell the applicant until what date they have to accept or reject. This was simple and if for some odd reason that date was not present in the offer, its the applicant duty to find out. Yes this is an important decision but no one should suffer because of ones haste to hold down a spot. Thats all I will say and Good Luck with whatever decisions is made.
I do agree that it is unfair and in bad form. it is also not something i take lightly at all - i have been agonizing over this new turn of events. It is not, however, unethical or illegal - the apa policy agreed to by all accredited programs clearly states that before april 15 students may withdraw an acceptance (
http://www.apa.org/ed/accept.html) without any penalty or permission from the school. it also says that their policy should be included with admissions offers, but today was the first time I saw it - i found it myself.
Actually, I had contacted the second school earlier and was told i was out of the running because the prof i had originally listed was no longer accepting students (it turns out another one who had not had previous openings - and therefore i had not listed, suddently has one, and that is why i was contacted late).
Perhaps there are others in a similar situation who would like to know about the policy. It's definitely a tough situation, and I do blame myself for not holding back accepting the first school - ironically i thought i was doing the right thing by accepting and rejecting other offers so that other spots might be opened. now i just want to make sure i do what is right for me and end up at the best fit.
thanks for all your comments and feedback. if there are more thoughts, i would like to hear them!
as to the school, as this is a sensitive situation, i would rather not say (i will probably get blasted for that). i WILL say that i highly suggest contacting ANY school you have not officially received a rejection or acceptance or waitlist from and dont assume you are out of the running. i wish i had.