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I'm rotating on the specialty I want to match in and having a great time. I have one problem that I don't know what to make of, however: my attending acts super awkward around me. He's sometimes abrupt and seems to purposely avoid looking at me. It's a bit difficult to explain, but overall, he just doesn't seem as relaxed as he does with the others. I'm the only female in the group, and it seems like while he jokes around with the guys, he's afraid to do the same with me. He's young, so I don't think it's really a sexist thing, just a social awkwardness thing. I'm really not an uptight person- if anything, quite the opposite- and get along fine with most people. In fact, all of my evals so far have complimented my ability to fit into situations easily and engage both coworkers and patients. I also get along great with the rest of my team. Granted, I do get pretty nervous when presenting on rounds and tend to stumble… maybe my anxiety gives him anxiety?! The handful of times I've had one on one interactions with this attending, sometimes we'll just talk and be completely cool, although still seemingly not to the same extent as with the guys, and other times he's just completely weird and acts uncomfortable. I can't think of any single incident that seemed to precipitate this- it's literally been going on since day 1, before he knew me well enough to draw any conclusions about me. If he was just some a**hole, I wouldn't care, but I can see that he's a cool person and very knowledgeable. I really like and respect him, and I may rank my home institution, so I want us to be on good terms. What gives?!
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