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What do you do when your patients ask you to join them in prayer before going off to sleep? This happens to me a couple times a year. I just stand there and give them their time.
What do you do when your patients ask you to join them in prayer before going off to sleep? This happens to me a couple times a year. I just stand there and give them their time.
Same, just play along. Unless they are Episcopalian, I dont tolerate that.What do you do when your patients ask you to join them in prayer before going off to sleep? This happens to me a couple times a year. I just stand there and give them their time.
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This is not about your beliefs; this is about the patient's God/placebo-linked GABA-receptor. Seriously, think about it as an effective placebo sedative medication. I am sure you are a good doctor who cares deeply about his/her patients (otherwise you wouldn't have any dilemma).Thanks for all the responses.
It's an uncomfortable dilemma for me. I don't want to debate religion with a patient immediately before their procedure. It is obviously not the right setting for that. And I want to develop rapport and connection and support them as much as I can. One the other hand, I feel disingenuous and inauthentic participating in such an exercise. I respect their beliefs but I do feel it's an imposition when they ask me to participate. In the end I stay and observe without actively participating.
I had a patient who I had taken care of a few times in the hospital who had her family bring in a homemade (christian /had a cross attached) rosary for me. I told her I am not christian (thought saying I am an atheist would be too much of a shock for her) and did not feel right accepting.Thanks for all the responses.
It's an uncomfortable dilemma for me. I don't want to debate religion with a patient immediately before their procedure. It is obviously not the right setting for that. And I want to develop rapport and connection and support them as much as I can. One the other hand, I feel disingenuous and inauthentic participating in such an exercise. I respect their beliefs but I do feel it's an imposition when they ask me to participate. In the end I stay and observe without actively participating.
I used to kind of worry about the insincerity of my passive presence, but they don't seem to care, so why should I?
I had a patient who I had taken care of a few times in the hospital who had her family bring in a homemade (christian /had a cross attached) rosary for me. I told her I am not christian (thought saying I am an atheist would be too much of a shock for her) and did not feel right accepting.
The patient said it would make her happy if I accepted it. So I did. I did not read much into it except that she wanted to express her appreciation.
I am a Christian, but I don't care if they want to pray to Big Bird, I'll oblige. I can respect someone's religion but not believe in it. Big difference. Everyone feels like they need to express their opinion on hot button subjects. Sometimes, it just isn't necessary. There is no personal harm to me or my patient if I just respect their wishes and bow my head to Big Bird.
I wouldn't argue with them about religion. I wouldn't interfere with their desire to talk into thin air that they imagine is listening and gives a ****. I just don't take part. There's a big difference between respecting people's RIGHT to believe (not the beliefs themselves) and being obliged to join the delusion. They can believe whatever they want as long as they keep it to themselves. They should respect our rights to not believe and leave us out of it.
My belief is to NOT pray. I don't try to force it on them. They should have the same consideration. The most participation they get is my allowing the surgical delay caused by their mumbo-jumbo.
What do you do when your patients ask you to join them in prayer before going off to sleep? This happens to me a couple times a year. I just stand there and give them their time.
Point out that since God has their back, they can gtfo and go home; they don't need to be here, God has their back. Unless of course, they're willing to admit that he doesn't, and that if he needs to be asked, he's either not omnipotent, or some kind of sadist who likes to hear you beg.
Point out that since God has their back, they can gtfo and go home; they don't need to be here, God has their back. Unless of course, they're willing to admit that he doesn't, and that if he needs to be asked, he's either not omnipotent, or some kind of sadist who likes to hear you beg.
I acknowledge the fact that there is no higher-powered beardy God watching everything to whom we can ask for assistance via the ritual of prayer. It's a very silly proposition, right up there with asking Santa Claus to bring gifts.
With that perspective, prayer becomes less about supplicating to an invisible friend, and more about calming the nerves, or thinking that one has "done everything" before going in before a big procedure.
I bet lots of Jesusy types would kick themselves for not praying if something went wrong, and would conversely say that it was "God's will" if they had prayed and the fan was still hit with crap.
When I was in these situations I'd just play along. To do otherwise due to atheism is a kind of zealotry in my opinion. If they asked I told them I did not share their faith and that the faith I hold (none) was something I would rather keep to myself.
Sounds like you're committing the fallacy of the excluded middle, at least for religions which believe God uses means like medicine to heal (e.g. orthodox Jews, many if not most Christians excepting faith healers).
On a practical note, could you really say to someone who asks, "Since God has your back, GTFO and go home. You don't need to be here"? If so, you're a harder man than I am.
Pretty *****ic embarrassed to be in the same profession as someone like this.
What if a patient said he was nervous and would feel better snuggling into your bosom (if you had one)?
...so we aren't actually expected to do things we find inappropriate just because it might make a patient comfortable.
It would be wildly inappropriate to ever prod or antagonize a patient under your care "to make a point" about religion - this is something that is self evident to normal people, and covered in basic ethics classes to catch the people clueless enough to need to be told. Perhaps you haven't taken that class yet?To make a point, yes. Though I certainly wouldn't kick them out or anything.
I would have more fun engaging in a prayer to the devil than another "higher power".I would pray with a Muslim, Jew, Buddhist, or whatever else is out there. Maybe not a devil worshipper. I may draw the line there. It's all about the greater good for the patient. I'm sure the God I pray to would understand.
Apples. Oranges.
True. I would be more uncomfortable with the religious invasion than the physical one.
What interesting post. To be honest I feel kind of relieved there are so many other atheists out there. I keep my atheist religious beliefs to myself and rarely would admit them outside of an anonymous forum. I've often felt like I was the only atheist doc in the hospitals I've worked in since so many religious people wear their religion on their sleeve. I'm glad there are so many others that believe in reason and not superstition or to just believe what they were taught when they were young despite the lack of evidence!
This is a fantastic analogy.Many times, children come into preop holding their teddy bear security blanket. They like it when I talk to the teddy bear and play along with their pretend world where the bear is real. They like it when I put a mask on the bear first. Watching the bear "go to sleep" helps them accept the mask. I know the bear isn't real and isn't really going to sleep, but I have no problem playing along.
There are some much older "children" who need a more elaborate version of the teddy bear security blanket fantasy. They have an invisible, omnipotent teddy bear in the sky. They like it when I talk to their teddy bear, or at least respectfully listen to them talking to him before they go to sleep. It helps them be at peace. I know the bear isn't real, but I have no problem playing along.
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Good oneYou don't need to be *****ic embarrassed; regular embarrassed would be okay.
You are NOT alone. And although the United States is a highly religious nation, there is a relatively high incidence of atheism among scientists and scientifically trained individuals. In a way, science is the belief system.
I do hope one day when a patient asks me to pray with them, they can just accept an answer like "No thanks, I'm an atheist" without judgement or reaction.
I am a Christian, but I don't care if they want to pray to Big Bird, I'll oblige. I can respect someone's religion but not believe in it. Big difference. Everyone feels like they need to express their opinion on hot button subjects. Sometimes, it just isn't necessary. There is no personal harm to me or my patient if I just respect their wishes and bow my head to Big Bird.
That would be great. It would be even better if they didn't ask...
At least big bird is a real puppet.