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Hello all,
After reading these forums for awhile, I have decided to make an account. I need help. Maybe some of you have experienced what I am currently going through and was hoping maybe you guys can help me handle it better. It is kinda long so please bear with me. I would greatly appreciate your time. I'm not sure if it makes a difference but I am a first generation asian american student with somewhat traditional asian parents.
After graduating last spring, my overall gpa sat at a pitiful 3.0ish and a science gpa of a 2.8ish and was rejected. After months of careful research, talking to dentists, deans, and dental students, I had decided to enroll at a local small university to take upper division biology classes. It was very affordable and the perfect option for me. I knew I had to fix the damage to my gpa by showing a strong upward trend in my classes. I wanted to prove to adcoms that I am a changed person. I had a strong and determined mindset going into last fall. I took anatomy, physiology, micro, and developmental biology all with labs last fall. The result? All A's. A beautiful 4.0. It was the first time I had seen all A's since high school and I was proud of myself. However, it's not enough. I needed to prove myself even more. I enrolled again this semester taking cell biology, molecular biology, and a toxicology class all with labs. I was determined to get all A's again. Then. last night happened. Please let me explain.
My parents are one of the hardest working people I know. They were never "asian" strict but they always expected that I try my best at whatever I do. It's all they ask for. They have always supported me and I am lucky to have them. However, they finally opened up today.
They second guessed that what I was doing (post bac) was a waste of time and that they went on and on about how life is unfair (which is true but do we give up? no.) They told me that I am about to be 23 and that I have done nothing since graduation except for waste time taking "bullsh*t classes". I told them calmly that it was what the deans and adcoms told me was best and they were adamant that "you are nothing to them. of course they will say that." This is literally what they said "You didnt research hard enough. WE think you should be getting another degree to help. You need to get like a masters in nutrition or buisness. That way you can look better." They went on and on about how my dad interviews people for jobs and he always picks the ones who has multiple degrees because its better and blah blah blah.
Again, I told them that those masters wont help and I had plenty of upper division biology classes to take (they still dont understand this.). They strongly believed that what they had to say trumps whatever adcoms tell me. This went on for hours and even today...they finally said that they dont think I would make it because the acceptance rate is "6%" and my gpa was "dogsh*t". They said that everything I have done has been the biggest waste of my time. They called me selfish because I didn't think about the family...they even told me to switch to medical school if I dont get into dental school (you can imagine how that went down). I just left the conversation because I just couldnt deal with them anymore.
I also want to point out that my parents are not paying for my post bac classes. I took out loans, got some grants, and even got a small academic scholarship for my 4.0. I told them not to pay for it because I didnt want to burden the family since they paid for my undergrad degree. After thinking about it, am I selfish? My ultimate goal is to help the underserved. I want to help people smile despite their personal difficulties. I care about people. I truly do. Granted, I have made mistakes with my GPA but I am doing my very best to fix it. I still need to retake my DAT this summer also. I will always love and respect my parents for all they did for me which is why I have always considered their opinions in life changing events. I have ALWAYS called them my "indestructible support system" because they have always supported and cheered me on. But today, I feel like they shot down my dreams and I have no one to ask for help. From a strong and focused mindset, I am reduced to nothing but feelings of disappointment, loneliness, and disbelief. My own parents. Dentistry has been a passion of mines since I was 3 years old. In addition to helping the underserved all patients I come across, I want to def. help my parents out since they had done so much for me. I thought maybe the 4.0 semester was a slight ray of light. A slight chance. Hope. But maybe I should just give up? That is what they are telling me and I just feel so conflicted right now because I had to "think about the family".
Again, I just ask you guys to please give me advice on how to handle this the RIGHT way if any of you guys went through something like this. Thank you so much.
After reading these forums for awhile, I have decided to make an account. I need help. Maybe some of you have experienced what I am currently going through and was hoping maybe you guys can help me handle it better. It is kinda long so please bear with me. I would greatly appreciate your time. I'm not sure if it makes a difference but I am a first generation asian american student with somewhat traditional asian parents.
After graduating last spring, my overall gpa sat at a pitiful 3.0ish and a science gpa of a 2.8ish and was rejected. After months of careful research, talking to dentists, deans, and dental students, I had decided to enroll at a local small university to take upper division biology classes. It was very affordable and the perfect option for me. I knew I had to fix the damage to my gpa by showing a strong upward trend in my classes. I wanted to prove to adcoms that I am a changed person. I had a strong and determined mindset going into last fall. I took anatomy, physiology, micro, and developmental biology all with labs last fall. The result? All A's. A beautiful 4.0. It was the first time I had seen all A's since high school and I was proud of myself. However, it's not enough. I needed to prove myself even more. I enrolled again this semester taking cell biology, molecular biology, and a toxicology class all with labs. I was determined to get all A's again. Then. last night happened. Please let me explain.
My parents are one of the hardest working people I know. They were never "asian" strict but they always expected that I try my best at whatever I do. It's all they ask for. They have always supported me and I am lucky to have them. However, they finally opened up today.
They second guessed that what I was doing (post bac) was a waste of time and that they went on and on about how life is unfair (which is true but do we give up? no.) They told me that I am about to be 23 and that I have done nothing since graduation except for waste time taking "bullsh*t classes". I told them calmly that it was what the deans and adcoms told me was best and they were adamant that "you are nothing to them. of course they will say that." This is literally what they said "You didnt research hard enough. WE think you should be getting another degree to help. You need to get like a masters in nutrition or buisness. That way you can look better." They went on and on about how my dad interviews people for jobs and he always picks the ones who has multiple degrees because its better and blah blah blah.
Again, I told them that those masters wont help and I had plenty of upper division biology classes to take (they still dont understand this.). They strongly believed that what they had to say trumps whatever adcoms tell me. This went on for hours and even today...they finally said that they dont think I would make it because the acceptance rate is "6%" and my gpa was "dogsh*t". They said that everything I have done has been the biggest waste of my time. They called me selfish because I didn't think about the family...they even told me to switch to medical school if I dont get into dental school (you can imagine how that went down). I just left the conversation because I just couldnt deal with them anymore.
I also want to point out that my parents are not paying for my post bac classes. I took out loans, got some grants, and even got a small academic scholarship for my 4.0. I told them not to pay for it because I didnt want to burden the family since they paid for my undergrad degree. After thinking about it, am I selfish? My ultimate goal is to help the underserved. I want to help people smile despite their personal difficulties. I care about people. I truly do. Granted, I have made mistakes with my GPA but I am doing my very best to fix it. I still need to retake my DAT this summer also. I will always love and respect my parents for all they did for me which is why I have always considered their opinions in life changing events. I have ALWAYS called them my "indestructible support system" because they have always supported and cheered me on. But today, I feel like they shot down my dreams and I have no one to ask for help. From a strong and focused mindset, I am reduced to nothing but feelings of disappointment, loneliness, and disbelief. My own parents. Dentistry has been a passion of mines since I was 3 years old. In addition to helping the underserved all patients I come across, I want to def. help my parents out since they had done so much for me. I thought maybe the 4.0 semester was a slight ray of light. A slight chance. Hope. But maybe I should just give up? That is what they are telling me and I just feel so conflicted right now because I had to "think about the family".
Again, I just ask you guys to please give me advice on how to handle this the RIGHT way if any of you guys went through something like this. Thank you so much.