Don't apologize, you were right on the mark with your earlier message. If I read one more post from some poor crying slob about how the military "screwed" him/her over because they were matched to someplace they didn't like or to someplace their sig other/fiance' doesn't want to go, I may start stabbing my eyes out!!
Let me try and break it down for those thinking about the military as an option.
Military truisms:
1. The military does not conform itself to you, you conform to it. There are certain standards (hair cuts, PT, whatever..), for the most part, these are not negotiable. If you don't like someone telling you how to dress, look, or act. DO NOT JOIN THE MILITARY!
2. It's not always about you! Just because you did not get the location you desired, doesn't mean you got "screwed", it just means that for whatever reason the military needed a body in your billet and your name came up. Call it needs of the Navy/Army/AF or whatever. That's just the way it is.
3. It's all about attitude! This is true whatever you do. If you have a good attitude, it won't matter where you go, you will have a good time. I'll admit, sometimes this takes alot of willpower to tell yourself that you are having fun but it will be worth it if you are successful. Attitudes are also very infectious so keep yours positive. Nobody enjoys hearing you b!*ch all the time, so stop doing it.
4. The military deploys

!!! This may come as a shocker but it's true. I lost count of how many people at this site are whining about deployments. That's just the way it is with todays environment. You may be one of the lucky ones and stay stateside, but don't count on it or expect it.
5. If you don't like your command, wait 5 minutes. The military is always changing people out and moving people. I was at my first command for nearly five years before transferring, and in that time I went through 3 CO's and 4 XO's and numerous department heads. Everyone had their own way of doing things. In short, if your life sucks be patient and refer to truism #3. You will eventually get transferred or deployed or the person above you will, and things will be different.
6. The military isn't perfect. Change what you can, don't worry about the rest.