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Anyone know how to cope with success? I did not do well in high school...too busy clowning around, started off at a local cc and now got accepted to a US med. school. I don't know how to describe it...but it's weird.
 
Sounds weird. Obviously, don't let get to your head. You crossed the first barrier but the road is still long and arduous... Grats though!
 
RedSHIFT said:
Anyone know how to cope with success? I did not do well in high school...too busy clowning around, started off at a local cc and now got accepted to a US med. school. I don't know how to describe it...but it's weird.
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you've obviously never succeeded at anything in your life if you have to ask that at this point.
 
I think you only worry about these kind of questions when you are:

1) Bill Gates
2) Obama
3. Angelia Jolie
4) Tiger Woods
5) President of Harvard

🙂
 
hahha. silly kid. if u think med school is success.. think again
 
While some may make fun of you, there may be multiple explanations for this.

A lot of people who become successful after, well, not being successful feel out of place. For instance, in families there are often certain roles that people take on. One sib could be the "do gooder," one could be the "trouble maker," and one could be the "comic." When these roles change often times people in the family have trouble adjusting. This can even get to the point where family members are wishing for the person to fail, whether they are aware of it or not.

Then again it could have nothing to do with family dynamics, and everything to do with you. Maybe you feel that you are not worthy of your success?

Anyways, I am no psychologist, these are just a few things my aunt has told me (she is a family councilor). My advice would be to talk to a professional if it disturbs you enough.
 
Seriously dude. Getting into med school is not a major achievement. It's an achievement envied by many, but in the grand scheme of things it's not a big deal.

I concur with some of the above posters on these points:
1. You've evidently not had much success if you're asking about this now. Go figure it out on your own how you deal with things. Everyone's different.

2. Seriously, unless you're in the top of your chosen profession, I would not call it a success. Getting into medical school merely gives you the opportunity to be successful in the long term (like 10-20 years down the road). This is the beginning of an arduous challenge. The letter of acceptance is not a success.
 
Here's what you do... go back and visit your high school, and show off to all the teachers who thought you were a lazy good-for-nothing bum.
 
Forget these haters. If you count this as a success, then it is a success.

Run up a bar tab and start getting your condescending on.
 
RedSHIFT said:
Anyone know how to cope with success? I did not do well in high school...too busy clowning around, started off at a local cc and now got accepted to a US med. school. I don't know how to describe it...but it's weird.
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U deal with success the same way u deal with failure........... u DRINK!!!! 🙄🙄🙄
 
schrizto said:
Here's what you do... go back and visit your high school, and show off to all the teachers who thought you were a lazy good-for-nothing bum.
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This. :highfive:

FWIW: I think it's a big accomplishment. It takes a lot of hard work and dedication. Don't let any sour sally piss in your cheerios. Med school acceptance is definitely an earned accomplishment.

Make us proud by kicking ass in med school!
 
The right Path said:
Don't let any sour sally piss in your cheerios.
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This made me laugh.

But seriously, if you don't stop and enjoy what you do right, then when are you going to get any enjoyment out of life? That is why I have a hard time agreeing with those on this thread who are saying getting into med school is not a success. I think it is kind of dangerous to think of success as something that one can only achieve 20-30 years down the road. One might wake up at 60 and realize that they are "successful" but did not enjoy the journey.
 
haha, I don't think anyone is telling him not to enjoy his acceptance; he should celebrate his achievement, for that matter. But the only thing he should be dealing with is a hangover.
 
What the eff are some of these post-ers thinking? Um, YES getting into medical school is a big accomplishment...Dang not all of us are finding the cure to cancer everyday.
 
wow sounds tragic. I hope you can cope.
 
learnmdabc said:
I think you only worry about these kind of questions when you are:

1) Bill Gates
2) Obama
3. Angelia Jolie
4) Tiger Woods
5) President of Harvard

🙂
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Definitely need to add Larry Page, Sergey Brin to that list. Angelina Jolie?! Definitely not on par with the rest of them. And Obama's success has plummeted these days.
 
I think the only real way to deal with success is by understanding how much luck is involved with our lives.
 
You should savor it while it lasts because once you get hit with the first round of medical school tuition you might not feel so snazzy. 😛

learnmdabc said:
I think you only worry about these kind of questions when you are:

1) Bill Gates
2) Obama
3. Angelia Jolie
4) Tiger Woods
5) President of Harvard

🙂
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Interesting choice for #4 based on recent events and the dropped endorsements. 🙄

randombetch said:
Definitely need to add Larry Page, Sergey Brin to that list. Angelina Jolie?! Definitely not on par with the rest of them. And Obama's success has plummeted these days.
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Why not? She is probably more well off than the president of Harvard and is a Hollywood A-lister. If you earn $20 million a movie and people pay millions of dollars just to see baby pics of your kids that is pretty darn successful.
 
Well, yeah. Tiger dealt with success in an unique way. As for Angelina Jolie? Well, most Asian kids can call her mom, so she dealt with success in high fashion as well. (thanks gervais!)

schrizto said:
You should savor it while it lasts because once you get hit with the first round of medical school tuition you might not feel so snazzy. 😛



Interesting choice for #4 based on recent events and the dropped endorsements. 🙄



Why not? She is probably more well off than the president of Harvard and is a Hollywood A-lister.
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learnmdabc said:
As for Angelina Jolie? Well, most Asian kids can call her mom, so she dealt with success in high fashion as well. (thanks gervais!)
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I think most of her adoptions were from Africa, not Asia, or am I misunderstanding something?
 
As with many things, too much of this can be lethal. To counteract the effect of your recent success I recommend you begin regimented amphetamine use.
 
What is with Asians calling Jolie mom?
She has chicken feet. scrawny. out with her.
 
into the pot then
with soy sauce?
I dont like them. too much hassle. I prefer the thighs.
 
just be proud of yourself and raise your kids to be happy people
 
chman said:
I think most of her adoptions were from Africa, not Asia, or am I misunderstanding something?
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Two kids from Asian countries (Cambodia and Vietnam) and one from Ethiopia.
 
I generally cut myself to make sure I can still bleed and am, in fact, human. I also have my fiance whisper "You are not a god, you are just a man" in my ear, when needed.
 
littlealex said:
Seriously dude. Getting into med school is not a major achievement. It's an achievement envied by many, but in the grand scheme of things it's not a big deal.

I concur with some of the above posters on these points:
1. You've evidently not had much success if you're asking about this now. Go figure it out on your own how you deal with things. Everyone's different.

2. Seriously, unless you're in the top of your chosen profession, I would not call it a success. Getting into medical school merely gives you the opportunity to be successful in the long term (like 10-20 years down the road). This is the beginning of an arduous challenge. The letter of acceptance is not a success.
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Someone piss in your cheerios?

thamsenman said:
I think the only real way to deal with success is by understanding how much luck is involved with our lives.
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Strong external thought process. I'm sure the grades he got in his classes were based on luck and had nothing to do with him studying for countless hours. I'm sure getting a decent score on the MCAT had nothing to do with his consistent and everlasting prep for the test. And so on and so forth my man.

Luck is evident at times, but please, don't give it too much credit...

To the OP:

Congrats on your acceptance. I guess success is just like wealth, some people obviously have different standards. I for one consider it a great accomplishment.
 
Thanks for the advice. In addition to reading the posts on this forum, I read a handful of articles on this topic and found them very helpful.

I understand acceptance into medical school is NOT "an accomplishment to end all accomplishments." It is, in my eyes, an accomplishment that acts as a stepping stone to reach other goals.

In terms of success...I've succeeded in other aspects in my life...being a great guitar slinger, star baseball outfielder, and chess player. It's just probably that this was my third time applying...and it was a process filled with disappointment as well as great joy.
 
Congrats then! Three times is really some superb dedication you have.
 
littlealex said:
Seriously dude. Getting into med school is not a major achievement. It's an achievement envied by many, but in the grand scheme of things it's not a big deal.
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Quit being the turd in the punch bowl. Maybe in absolute terms, getting accepted to med school is not a major achievement, but for nearly everybody who is accepted, it represents years of hard work and dedication coming to fruition - the pinnacle of success up to this point. Nobody is going to give you a medal for getting accepted but that doesn't mean it is not important or should not be celebrated.

I (kind of ?) understand where OP is coming from - maybe feeling intimidated by the amount of work and dedication and responsibility that will be required down the road, but I agree with most posters that OP is using the incredibly irritating "subtle-bragging-disguised-as-asking-for-advice" tactic and should not be surprised at being ridiculed.
 
littlealex said:
Seriously dude. Getting into med school is not a major achievement. It's an achievement envied by many, but in the grand scheme of things it's not a big deal.
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Yes it is. Forgetting to pull out and doing nothing for nine months isn't an accomplishment. Conforming to societal norms and ending your life/getting married isn't an accomplishment. Gaining an admission to a U.S. medical school after working your ass off for the past 4 years is an achievement.
 
I like to think of accomplishments in terms of metaphors... Life is like a big old mountain. You start out at the bottom, and begin climbing. Your accomplishments are resting spots along the climb to the summit.

Graduate HS. Stop, enjoy the view! Resume climbing.
College? Same.
Med School acceptance letter? Well, the peak just got a little taller, but enjoy the view until August!
The list goes on. Marriage? Baby? Promotions? New house? All spots to stop, enjoy the fruits of your labor, and then resume your climb towards the next goal.

Bad news...The climb never ends.
Good news... The feeling each time you reach a goal is INDESCRIBABLE!
 
May I suggest the consumption of copious amounts of alcohol? Preferably tequila?
 
redsbear said:
I like to think of accomplishments in terms of metaphors... Life is like a big old mountain. You start out at the bottom, and begin climbing. Your accomplishments are resting spots along the climb to the summit.

Graduate HS. Stop, enjoy the view! Resume climbing.
College? Same.
Med School acceptance letter? Well, the peak just got a little taller, but enjoy the view until August!
The list goes on. Marriage? Baby? Promotions? New house? All spots to stop, enjoy the fruits of your labor, and then resume your climb towards the next goal.

Bad news...The climb never ends.
Good news... The feeling each time you reach a goal is INDESCRIBABLE!
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Agreed. Just one opposition: I think the fact that the climb never ends is the good news, not the bad.

It is particularly important for those considering to go into medicine to realize that becoming a physician doesn't mean that one day you will be able to say, "I'm done! I've worked hard and have finally succeeded!" Although becoming a doctor is an extraordinary success, it isn't solely about graduating with a M.D.

Especially considering the current rate of the discovery of novel scientific information (and, unfortunately, the ever-changing political system), if one pursues medicine in hopes of reaching a certain "top" or point in their professional career where they can say they are "done" they will probably be greatly dissapointed. Medicine requires continuous optimism, progression, and improvement.

It is just another way to look at success. Getting into medical school is a great accomplishment/success that should be celebrated: You did it!
Graduating from medical school is an extraordinary accomplishment/success: You did it! ...etc.
Each success IS significant, but it isn't about a particular success. Enjoy and celebrate each and every success, be it minor or significant, along the way, but continue to strive for improvement and you will surely acheive what ever it is that you want.
 
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