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24blue8 said:
This is one of the most accurate posts I've ever read on sdn. This right here! Soon you will be so busy that everyone that tries to wish you well will be subconsciously viewed as an annoying time suck.

Ring ring... Who is that? That time suck nag who had the audacity to give birth to you 20 some years ago? IGNORE.

Knock knock...! is that your idiot roommate bothering you with something as stupid as a distraction in the form of food they actually made enough of to share with you?
"No...Senor 24blue8 no esta aqui...mañana..."

I also know people are always worried about long distance relationships in medical school... These things are awesome. Date the hottest, smartest, busiest, most secure person you can find who lives as far away as ****ing possible (ie a NASA astronaut working diligently on raising sea anemones in space). See them once every few orbits around the sun, talk, laugh, have carnal pleasures, then launch them back to ****ing Mars until after your next exam.(Squeeze in some asteroid or lunar eclipse emojis and one phone call if time permits).

Medical school is about the experience but it's also about getting **** done. Don't waste your energy worrying about what your roommate obnoxiously says after you have a drink. He will soon become a time succubus if you smile one too many times in his general direction.

The time will go by fast so make the most of it. Just wait until you're studying for step 1, 2... even 3 and stuff like having to shower or sleep is annoying because you know you should be studying. Your roommate and these worries will be long gone from your mind.
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Totally agree. And LDR has the benefits you said. But, I don't recommend them because at least 50% of the ones I've known of involved cheating at some point.
 
Yo - just do you.

For real. Just be you. If they don't like it, you are still being yourself so it does not matter. You can be anxious, think you are messing up, but if you are being true to yourself then you are the only one to keep yourself accountable to. Slam a beer? Do it if you want to. Run into the street naked? Only if you want to.

These are your decisions.

oshanimalia said:
So before I go into my venting phase, let me just say that I am first and foremost grateful for getting into medical school and still, when it all comes down to it, appreciate my classmates. They like to have fun, care for others (or pretend to), and are good people all around - I can definitely see them becoming good doctors professionally.

However, this past week has already left me fuming and anxious. As an extroverted introvert that values his privacy but can put on a decent effort in being gregarious, I feel pretty aware of how dynamics shift in a roommate and class setting.

I room with a subtly pretentious frat boy (from a prestigious university) and another more chill guy. We do have things in common, and the frat boy is pretty funny in a sarcastic way. But when it comes to social outings I am, for no reason at all, screened as the 'guy that isn't as fun'. Not even given a chance. I never really noticed this as a thing until I got a "wow didn't know he had it in him", "oh now that's a wild card" when I slammed a beer one night. I know that I normally wouldn't care and wouldn't be this little insecure ****wad, but in this case the frat boy roommate makes it a point to purposely dissociate me from any group, and it really is making me stressed seeing as I am going to be spending 4 years with these people. It's like experiencing something from a bad high school musical. Now, he doesn't do it as much, but it's because he doesn't need to now that people's opinion's of others are kind of established. Unfortunately, I am also aware of my race as an asian male and that it DOES play a role in how people perceive me socially (despite many others refusing this as a reality).

On the flip side of the coin, I am beginning to get anxiety thinking if there is something wrong with me. In college, I never had this problem socially. It could be because that my school is so large that I easily found a niche of people I get along with and didn't care about anyone else. Since med school classes are a lot smaller, I feel that people are clamoring to be in a 'niche' and are willing to throw others under the bus while they're doing it. I am asking for two things: 1) Am I just being a bitchy little girl right now (no sexism intended, just finished sensitivity modules) and 2) How do I deal with this sort of "social only" ostracization (we get along fine when we study/read text).
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skiier54 said:
If you want to make friends easily, try getting really good at one particular thing. It can be academic (being the highest exam scorer in the class, being crazy good at anatomy, being "that guy" in lectures (careful with this one) or nonacademic (being a really good beer drinker, being ripped in the gym, being funny, or if you're genetically blessed you can just make friends off of being hot (probably the wrong type of friends though). These are all things that have worked in my class.
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Those don't tend to be real friends, though.
 
skiier54 said:
If you want to make friends easily, try getting really good at one particular thing. It can be academic (being the highest exam scorer in the class, being crazy good at anatomy, being "that guy" in lectures (careful with this one) or nonacademic (being a really good beer drinker, being ripped in the gym, being funny, or if you're genetically blessed you can just make friends off of being hot (probably the wrong type of friends though). These are all things that have worked in my class.
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Are you 12? Or he could just be himself...


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skiier54 said:
If you want to make friends easily, try getting really good at one particular thing. It can be academic (being the highest exam scorer in the class, being crazy good at anatomy, being "that guy" in lectures (careful with this one) or nonacademic (being a really good beer drinker, being ripped in the gym, being funny, or if you're genetically blessed you can just make friends off of being hot (probably the wrong type of friends though). These are all things that have worked in my class.
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This is a nominee for the "Worst Self-Help Advice in SDN History" award.
 
Sardinia said:
Who needs friends when you have Costanzo, a 5-star multi-coloring pencil pack that just arrived from Amazon, and that Microbiology coloring book with the detective on the cover
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I feel personally attacked because I definitely colour in CMMRS with my colour pencils during boring micro lectures (CMMRS is my bae =U).

(On-topic: meh you'll get through it. It won't necessarily get better but it's easy to learn to cope, and the ridiculous workload and the guilt that comes with helps with that.)
 
skiier54 said:
If you want to make friends easily, try getting really good at one particular thing. It can be academic (being the highest exam scorer in the class, being crazy good at anatomy, being "that guy" in lectures (careful with this one) or nonacademic (being a really good beer drinker, being ripped in the gym, being funny, or if you're genetically blessed you can just make friends off of being hot (probably the wrong type of friends though). These are all things that have worked in my class.
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Instant friendship:

"Oh, you didn't pass that exam--too bad. I got a 99 on it, pretty much set the curve. Yeah, I definitely think urology is my future."

At the end of a lecture when a prof has run 15 min over the scheduled end time and is about to finish, raises hand: "Hey Dr. Brown, would you mind explaining X, Y, and Z again?"

Your phone rings at 1 AM: "Hey Joe, I'm drunk, vomiting green-yellow chunks all over the carpet, and really could use a ride home."

Seems legit.

My advice:

1.) Concentrate on your schoolwork when class starts

2.) Find new people to talk to in class

3.) Plan for new roommate/ living situation

It's what people I room with usually do when they can't stand me.
 
skiier54 said:
If you want to make friends easily, try getting really good at one particular thing. It can be academic (being the highest exam scorer in the class, being crazy good at anatomy, being "that guy" in lectures (careful with this one) or nonacademic (being a really good beer drinker, being ripped in the gym, being funny, or if you're genetically blessed you can just make friends off of being hot (probably the wrong type of friends though). These are all things that have worked in my class.
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"Here's a good thing to do if you go to a party and you don't know anybody:
First, take out the garbage. Then go around and collect any extra garbage that
people might have, like a crumpled-up napkin, and take that out too. Pretty
soon people will want to meet the busy garbage guy."
-- Jack Handey
 
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