This is a fair assessment, but it is important to realize that rumors are rumors. They should not be held against applicants. If they are, that's probably a program you don't want to be at. You do want to be at a program where, "productive dialogues" are welcome. This has been true from my experience anyway. Also realize that this is going to be a job, and you should approach it as one. You will have to work hard and that is how you will be judged. You can not work hard if you are not happy. This isn't a one size fits all. You should find a program that is suitable for you and that you think you would fit into. The internet/technology has changed the dynamics of medicine. We need to embrace that (especially radiation oncologists) and use that to our advantage, rather then turn away from it because it is unfamiliar territory. I may have rushed to judge your post, but it seemed like it was aimed at minimizing criticism, which is the greatest tool these student doctors have at this juncture in their application.