Weil-Felix,
I have not completely read this thread nor have I read Dr. Polk's book. However, I tend to agree with spidey when he calls you naive. I used to work in Domestic Relations (the government office which handles child and spousal support claims) as a conference officer. My job was to act as a mediator between the parties and TRY to arrange an agreement for support. This entailed the parties testifying in my office, presenting educational and professional certifications, and proof of income. I would then, based upon Stat Support Guidelines, Statutes, and Case Law make a recommendation to the court for support.
In my two years in this job, I can remember over 30 cases in which a male doctor was sued for spousal support (I'm not even getting into child support claims) and the wives were purely gold diggers. In one case, the man was just out of residency and chose to acccept an attending position in a hospital instead of a private practice job that he was offfered (for substantially more money) She argued that I should give him an earning capacity of 175,000/year (the private practice job) instead of using his actual income (105,000/year)! I used the actual income. In another case, I had a woman who left her husband because he chose EM instead of surgery. She actually said " I didn't live in a dink apartment for the last three years to be the wife of Mark Greene--I wanna be Mrs. Romano (of Er fame)"! And in yet another case, I had a woman who wanted support because she "sacrificed her career, so that he could be a doctor". She even went into detail about how she waitressed/secretaried during his med school, instead of going to college herself. However, when I asked her about her current employment (they had been seperated for almost a year) she said "why should I have to work? He makes 600,000 a year." And when I asked her of her plans for the future, thinking she might re-invent her self and try to accomplish her goals she said "I'm dating a stock broker right now".
Take it from me, the gold digger woman is not a myth. They are real, hungry for money, and waiting for you at the local med-student hangout! So beware! Sorry to shatter your perfect image of the 2003 woman.