Accepted but pregnant....how do I/when should I tell schools? Help!

[somersetsays]

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I've been very fortunate to have been accepted to three schools already as a non-trad. I discovered I was pregnant after my last interview and the baby is due a month before classes begin.

My top choice is a local medical school 10 miles from my very supportive husband's job (flexible hours & low stress). We will move next to campus. My mom is going to stay with us to help care for the baby and we are looking for a part time nanny. I am entirely comfortable handing the reigns to this capable team in order to do well in school.

When do I break the news to the medical schools? Should I even bring it up? How should I tell them? Will this cause the admissions committees to change their mind about my ability? Can they take back their offer?

 

[KGflyboy]

You don't have to disclose that info... Ever. Unless you plan on missing a mandatory class/lab at school for some reason, which should happen rarely if ever, it is irrelevant.

 

[xffan624]

I've been very fortunate to have been accepted to three schools already as a non-trad. I discovered I was pregnant after my last interview and the baby is due a month before classes begin.

My top choice is a local medical school 10 miles from my very supportive husband's job (flexible hours & low stress). We will move next to campus. My mom is going to stay with us to help care for the baby and we are looking for a part time nanny. I am entirely comfortable handing the reigns to this capable team in order to do well in school.

When do I break the news to the medical schools? Should I even bring it up? How should I tell them? Will this cause the admissions committees to change their mind about my ability? Can they take back their offer?

First, congrats! Pretty sure it would be illegal for them to revoke their acceptance for that reason. Lots of people have kids in medical school and it doesn't become an issue until it actually affects your ability to attend mandatory events and from what you've said that doesn't appear like it will be the case. Since you will have the baby prior to school, I don't think it would be an issue. But depending on the school, you could defer for a year if you wanted to spend that first year with the baby more. It's completely your choice.

 

[midnight0il]

I've been very fortunate to have been accepted to three schools already as a non-trad. I discovered I was pregnant after my last interview and the baby is due a month before classes begin.

My top choice is a local medical school 10 miles from my very supportive husband's job (flexible hours & low stress). We will move next to campus. My mom is going to stay with us to help care for the baby and we are looking for a part time nanny. I am entirely comfortable handing the reigns to this capable team in order to do well in school.

When do I break the news to the medical schools? Should I even bring it up? How should I tell them? Will this cause the admissions committees to change their mind about my ability? Can they take back their offer?

Congratulations!!! You have absolutely nothing to worry about. My friend, who will also be starting in the Fall, is due two months before the beginning of classes. If anything, now is probably the best time to have a baby according to her.

You don't have disclose anything to schools. Even if you did, I'm sure admissions would also just offer congratulations and be happy for you. There are plenty of parents in medical school, especially among us nontrads.

 

[KGflyboy]

I agree that your timing is ideal. It is much easier to have a baby before starting than after you start. Congrats!

 

[somersetsays]

Thank you all so very much for your well wishes and advice! This has been incredibly helpful and I am relieved. I have the next few months to relax and enjoy this bun in the oven. Best of luck everyone!!

 

[Bru]

I guess the only reason you would tell them is if you are considering a deferral of acceptance.

Are you considering a deferral?

Or are you concerned that if you did so they would pull some sort of hijinks?

 

[Five0tomed68]

While planning out our path, my wife decided she wanted our 2nd child before she started medical school (on the presumption she was going to get in). We had our little one in April 2008. She was accepted in May (I think). She started in August. Looking back, I don't think she could have planned it better. Congrats!

 

[somersetsays]

I guess the only reason you would tell them is if you are considering a deferral of acceptance.

Are you considering a deferral?

Or are you concerned that if you did so they would pull some sort of hijinks?

Thanks for asking! I don't plan on deferring a year. I'm incredibly excited to start in August which is why I have recruited the services of mr. mom, grandma, and nanny. I've already signed up for the local daycare and am on the waiting list.

My concern was if I was required to disclose and in doing so, would some school rescind the offer of admission.

 

[somersetsays]

While planning out our path, my wife decided she wanted our 2nd child before she started medical school (on the presumption she was going to get in). We had our little one in April 2008. She was accepted in May (I think). She started in August. Looking back, I don't think she could have planned it better. Congrats!

Thanks and I'm sure you wife is incredibly lucky to have your support! I joked with my husband that I would have him walk up to the podium with me during graduation since he's been my cheerleader every step of the way.

 

[Indianarn]

I've been very fortunate to have been accepted to three schools already as a non-trad. I discovered I was pregnant after my last interview and the baby is due a month before classes begin.

My top choice is a local medical school 10 miles from my very supportive husband's job (flexible hours & low stress). We will move next to campus. My mom is going to stay with us to help care for the baby and we are looking for a part time nanny. I am entirely comfortable handing the reigns to this capable team in order to do well in school.

When do I break the news to the medical schools? Should I even bring it up? How should I tell them? Will this cause the admissions committees to change their mind about my ability? Can they take back their offer?

I agree with KGflyboy. Thats something you don't have to tell them. However, when they get your physical done before the start of classes, they will find out. But that's something that should effect anything. If you mom is going to help you, you got everything covered. Go for it girl. Your child is going to thank you later for it. Plus, thats something you can always tell him/her that they were born when you were in Medical school.

 

[Five0tomed68]

Thanks for asking! I don't plan on deferring a year. I'm incredibly excited to start in August which is why I have recruited the services of mr. mom, grandma, and nanny. I've already signed up for the local daycare and am on the waiting list.

My concern was if I was required to disclose and in doing so, would some school rescind the offer of admission.

For non-trads with families, which my wife was being that she had our first at 18 just out of high school, it is a huge team effort. Hopefully, we get to go through it again soon.

 

[cougariffic]

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