Another long distance question

[ScottW3]

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I know this sort of thing has been asked many times before, but I just wanted to get some idea of what the majority thinks about long distance relationships. I've been together with my gf for almost 4 years now. She is starting her first year in grad school in St. Louis this year and I'm applying for my first year in dental school for Fall '05. I could be as close as 30 minutes or as far away as a 2 hr flight (most likely I'll be in Memphis- a 4.5 hr drive). I don't think I'll have a problem getting into UT memphis, but the close school Southern Illinois is up in the air. I like UT better than SIU, but am willing to make a sacrifice when it comes to this. My gf really would like me to go to SIU so we could be close but isn't making my decision for me. Personally I think we could do the long distance thing, but I'm worried that she won't be able to. I don't know for sure until I start, but if I lived in memphis, I'm thinking we could see each other 2 times a month. I guess I'd just like to see how many people think that a LDR is doable. Thanks

 

[MJTig]

Its possible, man... its hard, but its possible.

I am glad that both of you are letting the other live their life and you will deal with how it falls. That alone shows that you ahve trust in your relationship. Abd turst is very important, as is communication and not assuming anything (assuming how the other person is feeling and making a decision on it).

My bf is in his 3rd yr of Dental school. He is 2 hours (driving) away in Indianapolis, I am in Cincinnati. Thats smaller than your distance, but many of the same things apply because there will be times that you feel very disconnected. For a long time B and I averaged once a month, now its higher because he is in his clinical years= less studying. We got through it. Ask her what she is worried about, her fears... maybe they are things that you can make a conscious effort to dispel?

Its possible. 🙂
That said, I am looking forward to him being back in town permanently.

 

[drina]

While I was finishing my undergrad, my fianc? and I were about 350 miles apart (Rochester, NY and Philadelphia). It was doable, but we had to work at it.

I spent a lot of time on the road between the two cities, and we both spent funds on calling cards, since we tried to talk at least once a day on the phone.

AIM or text messaging, or unlimited walkie talkies are definitely your friends....and a 4.5 hour drive still leaves a nice weekend for both of you.

 

[MJTig]

AIM has been our slavation.

and both of us had free internet through our schools (which still hasn;t been cut off for me even though I graduated in June woohooo).

 

[ScottW3]

Thanks everyone. I guess the take home message is just what I had expected... Its hard work but it can be done. I guess I just needed people to say those words. "It can be done." Thanks again.