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I have been accepted but so far none of my friends have, not one. My friends are all very smart and very hard workers. We all went into a pre-professional masters program in biology because we did not make it in last year. I would say that for most if not all of us it was the MCAT so we all retook it and enrolled in this program. We didn't have bad MCATs I had a 27 and one of my friends even had a 31 and still didn't make it.

We were told that medical school won't even look at us till next year because they wanted to see our fall grades. However, I was lucky enough to be accepted early. I want to be happy and celebrate with my friends, who are happy for me, but I feel very uneasy talking about it with them. Not sure what to do, one of my friends has now decided that he is going back to undergrad to study abroad, part of this maybe because he thinks that because he has not heard back as early as I have that he wont get in. Anyone else out there who feels a little unsure how happy to be around your pre med friends who have not been accepted yet?

ps feel not fell, my bad now u see why i didnt make it in the first time.hahah
 
i probably can't offer good advice as i can't stand most premeds, and hence i don't got many premed friends. that being said, i think well you should just be yourself, don't treat them differently but just watch watch what you say ie. (i am glad i am accepted = no no), but you probably already knew that. in anycase i am probably going to be one of those gloomy bums who doesn't get accepted anywhere, but congrats hehe. *shakes fist* haha j/m
 
Respect is good, but be careful, as false modesty can be the most patronizing of all.
 
Ashamed? Yeah right.
 
I hadn't taken the mcat yet at this point (ended up going to med school several years after graduating college) but a friend of mine was one of the only individuals in my class to get accepted into med school that year. I thought it was a little sad because when she got her MCAT score, she couldn't celebrate with her classmates because they all did poorly (10-15 points lower) She didn't even tell anyone in the class because she was afraid of how it would make people feel. She told me (since I wasn't applying) and I was very happy for her.
I don't know what to tell you about your friends - definitely don't gloat, but I think most likely your friends are happy for you. Obviously the fact that your accepted has nothing to do with your friends lack of accceptance, so they shouldn't be irritated with you.
 
szhao said:
i probably can't offer good advice as i can't stand most premeds, and hence i don't got many premed friends. that being said, i think well you should just be yourself, don't treat them differently but just watch watch what you say ie. (i am glad i am accepted = no no), but you probably already knew that. in anycase i am probably going to be one of those gloomy bums who doesn't get accepted anywhere, but congrats hehe. *shakes fist* haha j/m
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I believe this is a good piece of advise for a healthier/happier, undergraduate pre-med experience.

Now, you don't need to avoid ALL pre-meds, as some of them might end up being good support, but it's been my experience that the thing we do best when in each other's company is stress each other out. Avoid especially those who like to talk loudly about their grades, exam questions, etc (read= those who are plain obnoxious).
 
baylormed said:
I believe this is a good piece of advise for a healthier/happier, undergraduate pre-med experience.

Now, you don't need to avoid ALL pre-meds, as some of them might end up being good support, but it's been my experience that the thing we do best when in each other's company is stress each other out. Avoid especially those who like to talk loudly about their grades, exam questions, etc (read= those who are plain obnoxious).
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Most of my friends and housemates are engineers. I suppose it's good for the soul to be taken down a peg by people calling you a slacker for majoring in a "softer science" like biochemistry.
 
HumbleMD said:
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Most of my friends and housemates are engineers. I suppose it's good for the soul to be taken down a peg by people calling you a slacker for majoring in a "softer science" like biochemistry.
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???? what is a hard science hahaha, like physics and ece?
 
Most of my friends were premeds, but we really didn't have a competitive program. I never felt like there was any competition amongst us at all. I sort of competed with one girl who was only a few points ahead of me on tests, (I'll admit that I was slightly glad to find there was one course we took together that I performed better than she did) But there was never serious competition and she was one of my better friends in college. Now she's at WashU, and I wish I'd kept in contact with her to see how she's doing.
 
I can tell you as being the only one of my friends who didn't get accepted last year, it's a lonely feeling, but your friends have each other for suport. I was extremely happy when all my friends got accepted because they definitly deserved it and I couldn't think of better people to get acceptances. Just don't rub it in, don't talk about it obssively, and if they are really your friends, they should be happy for you. Sure htey may wish to be accepted also right now, but there's still time left for your friends as well. It's not like the application season is over.
 
If you plan on having friends who are premed- make sure they're a year above or below you, then you won't have to worry about comparing MCAT scores or acceptances. Heck, you can even be a source of inspiration for premeds in grades lower than you while learning from the footsteps of older premeds. As for me, I was accepted early into medical school, and yes I do feel awkward, so to speak, when even others bring it up. Unless 100% of the people I care about in my SMP get into medical school in the program I am in, than I will never, ever bring up the fact that I got into medical school unless I am asked,or if someone else brings it up- its tactless (like people who joke on SDN about having a myriad of acceptances while people are still waiting for an interview). This was always my MO, I have always been a pretty humble and modest guy (Buddhist virtues I guess- but who knows)- I don't boast (whats the point to anyway?), nor talk myself up if someone wants to pick at my accomplishments. But yes, I do feel guilty about getting into medical school, I know I shouldn't but hey, thats all a part of being human. The people I do show my enthusiasm about getting into medical school with, is my significant other, my family, and my close friends who also happen to not be involved in medicine. Good luck to everyone.
 
IMHO: well the 1st time you tell them you can be as happy as you want. but if you talk about it again and again it might become hurtful to them, but you know them best. i imagine that since you have "suffered" together, they will be happy for you.

i always thought soft sciences = social sciences. (most engineers are cocky. didn't you know?)

and, simply, make friends with people who will be honest, sincere, and supportive. premeds and nonpremeds both can do that.

congratulations for getting in!
 
I would say be yourself. If you are excited about getting into school, you should have to hide it from your friends. If they are your true friends, they would be happy for you regardless of their own situation. However, humility is still important.

Now, if you are their true friend, you would be doing everything in your power to help them get into medical school next year.

There is nothing greater than supporting or having the support of someone that shares in your interests.
 
Be proud. Just don't boast, but don't forget that there is a reason why you got in and they didn't, so don't beat yourself up over it.
 
szhao said:
... i was just curious, what he meant by soft science, i mean logically if there is a soft there is a hard, so i was just curious.
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lol, is that how you learned about sex?:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
 
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