Are the majority of your classmates married/in serious relationships?

[ponybreeder4]

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I am getting ready to head off to medical school in the fall, and from what i noticed on my interviews many students and interviewees are already married/ in serious relationships. I am as single as a pickle. Will it be very lonely for me?

 

[BloodnGuts]

I am getting ready to head off to medical school in the fall, and from what i noticed on my interviews many students and interviewees are already married/ in serious relationships. I am as single as a pickle. Will it be very lonely for me?

There are plenty of fish in the sea.

 

[DrYoda]

Will it be very lonely for me?

Undergrad campus😉

 

[topsurgeon2010]

yes a huge majority of my classmates are married/in serious relationships..im single so it sucks but yeah try the undergrad campus lol

 

[cetona]

My school is actually somewhat frustrating for me in the opposite way in that I am one of the few married people in my class. It's been hard to find couples to hang out with, especially considering that the ones who are married are also much older than me and my wife.

 

[swamprat]

I would strongly advise against dating in your class.. take it from my experience. Bad idea.

 

[Smurfette]

My school is actually somewhat frustrating for me in the opposite way in that I am one of the few married people in my class. It's been hard to find couples to hang out with, especially considering that the ones who are married are also much older than me and my wife.

When I was in med school, there were only a few people married in first year. By the time graduation rolled around, it was about 50/50, with most of those who weren't married already engaged or close to engagement. I was still single at the end, but I still had people to hang out with. Don't worry about it.

Don't worry about other people's relationships while you are applying to schools. You will meet people and find people to hang out with regardless. If you are very concerned, get a roommate. Many med schools keep lists of their students wanting roommates to share rent and stuff; try asking the admissions office. My school sent a list out in late spring/early summer to all incoming MS1s.

If you are concerned because you want to date available classmates, be forewarned that med school can be very high-schoolish in that regard, so keep in mind that if things don't work out, you'll still have to be around your ex and possibly deal with rumors.

cetona, you don't have to only hang out with other married couples. I am sure there are people in your class who have been dating someone a while who would be willing to hang out with you and your wife as 'couples'. Or introduce your wife to a group of your classmates....I am sure she'll find someone interesting to talk to in a group setting that could turn into a friendship.

 

[sunset823]

it depends on what region of the country you're in. In the midwest or south, there tend to be more married students than in the big east/west coast cities, I'd assume. However, in my class, only a handful of students are married, and another handful in 'serious' relationships (as in, very likely they will marry the person eventually). Maybe 10-20% of the class total. Lots of people are dating, mostly non-med students, but I don't really look at it as 'serious' until there is a ring on the finger (and even then...).

So yeah, you shouldn't have any problems making friends if you're single. My class is very social and have quite a few social events aka parties. I am not very social but have a couple of friends who are either single or 'dating' (and I'm friendly with the married students) who don't do the party scene. However, I emphatically subscribe to the rule of not dating fellow medical students, and therefore where I live has 0 options on that front. So if you want a healthy dating life (not that you really have time for it), you should try to be in a major city. And not every medical school is in or near an undergrad campus (many of the midwest ones, mine included, are in satellite campuses hours from the nearest frat/sorority house)

 

[2012mdc]

I would strongly advise against dating in your class.. take it from my experience. Bad idea.

Yeah way too much drama involved. Dating up or down can work (as well as a non med student) though. I'm a M3 dating a M2. Also dated a PhD student previously

 

[OpalOnyx]

I am as single as a pickle.

date upperclassmen... residents....attendings... 👍

just kidding.

 

[patel2]

to those at a medical school with an undergrad campus...do you mingle with those in undergrad or find opportunities to? I feel like college is such a bubble that as a med student it would be tough to meet alot of girls in undergrad.

 

[startswithb]

Www.Bradley.edu

it depends on what region of the country you're in. In the midwest or south, there tend to be more married students than in the big east/west coast cities, I'd assume. However, in my class, only a handful of students are married, and another handful in 'serious' relationships (as in, very likely they will marry the person eventually). Maybe 10-20% of the class total. Lots of people are dating, mostly non-med students, but I don't really look at it as 'serious' until there is a ring on the finger (and even then...).

So yeah, you shouldn't have any problems making friends if you're single. My class is very social and have quite a few social events aka parties. I am not very social but have a couple of friends who are either single or 'dating' (and I'm friendly with the married students) who don't do the party scene. However, I emphatically subscribe to the rule of not dating fellow medical students, and therefore where I live has 0 options on that front. So if you want a healthy dating life (not that you really have time for it), you should try to be in a major city. And not every medical school is in or near an undergrad campus (many of the midwest ones, mine included, are in satellite campuses hours from the nearest frat/sorority house)

 

[sunset823]

Www.Bradley.edu

ok, yeah, I guess that counts, but it's not the same as having a huge Big Ten school in your backyard. Plus they don't have many interesting non-sceince or non-medicine lectures going on, which is my pressure release. Though it's interesting Shalikashvili went there, had no idea.

 

[2012mdc]

to those at a medical school with an undergrad campus...do you mingle with those in undergrad or find opportunities to? I feel like college is such a bubble that as a med student it would be tough to meet alot of girls in undergrad.

We ate at the undegrad cafeteria whenever we had long lunches. Also rolled down there on Friday afternoons sometimes as there would be stuff going on in the courtyard.

We would sometimes go to the bars frequented by undergrads and a few times we went down to the big state school - either for a game or a major party.

Grew tired of most of these things during M1

 

[BloodySurgeon]

I live in a very small town and its frustrating meeting people outside of class. Im not looking for a relationship, but people to meet and go out with and know nothing about medicine. The city is filled with older men and women, so bars and clubs are out of the question. I managed to meet a few from mutual friends but now they moved away and my only option is the undergrad campus.

So far, I haven't met a single person from the undergrad. How are you suppose to find parties and events? I don't even know if there is a frat row. 😕

 

[C5toC9]

yeah, almost everyone is in some type of relationship in my class

 

[Brigade4Radiant]

I am getting ready to head off to medical school in the fall, and from what i noticed on my interviews many students and interviewees are already married/ in serious relationships. I am as single as a pickle. Will it be very lonely for me?

If you are a girl probably not. If you are a guy that has moved to a new city so you don't have any close friends while you began medschool then yes it will be lonely.

 

[2012mdc]

If you are a girl probably not. If you are a guy that has moved to a new city so you don't have any close friends while you began medschool then yes it will be lonely.

Ehh I don't think it's that simple. I came in as a single guy and made friends pretty quickly. Naturally you'll gravitate towards the folks with similar interests (sports, going out, videogames etc)

 

[swamprat]

If you are a girl probably not. If you are a guy that has moved to a new city so you don't have any close friends while you began medschool then yes it will be lonely.

Yeah I disagree with that too. When I started med school my first goal was to find a group of dudes I could hang out with - worrying about the women aspect of it later on once I had a crew I could go creeping with lol. So turned out I became friendly with a lot of people although most of the guys I am really close with live in the same apartment building as me, so its convenient to study together and take a cab out from here. The girl situation which I thought was secondary kinda came a long simultaneously and I hooked up with several girls from my class before "wifeing" up one of them which turned out to be a big mistake. My advice to the OP is during orientation, your going to have lots of parties and lots of BS lectures as well - talk to anyone and everyone and things will fall into place - don't just cling on to the first person you meet or whatever, things will work out in the end and trust me I'm a pretty extreme extroverted person and I was worried about making friends/dating in med school.

 

[geogil]

You also might find that some of the married people are cool too, even if you're single. I would also try to find friends that share similar interests but aren't in medical school (gasp!). You might even meet someone to date this way. Depending on where you live, there are probably city league softball games, soccer, ultimate frisbee, and also biking clubs, and other groups who share an interest(climbin, running, skiing, hiking, fly fishing, photography, basket weaving, you name it). I would search the internet for groups like this in your new town. Yes, you will be studying a lot, but MS1 and MS2 are not so insanely busy that you can't have outside interests if you balance your time well, despite what the folks on SDN would have you believe. You can even do these things and do well on the boards (I know this is SDN heresy).

Good luck and things will fall into place if you actively seek friends. If you wait for people to invite you and make you their friend, you might spend 4 lonely years in medical school. Do the inviting yourself.