Are your residents as unfriendly as mine?

[nope80]

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This is my first rotation of third year (obgyn) and was wondering how other peoples residents compared to what I've seen?? I've actually been kinda surprised about how unfriendly, untalkative and almost bitter the ones I have come into contact seem. Its hard making conversation with them as they seem stone cold and totally uninterested. I really hope the rest of the year isn't like this!! Is this expected or am I just stuck in a rotation with unusual residents?

Its so crazy how around the med student they act one way (bitter, talk behind patients backs, etc) and then to the patients face, in front of attendings, basically in front of people that matter they turn around and put on a totally different show - change in voice tone, change in mannerisms, small talk, charm, you name it. But then around me, its mumbling, flattened affect and just plain bitterness. One girl I worked with for an entire week, I saw her in the hall today as she passed - I said hi with a big smile on my face and i'm not even sure if she said anything back, just the typical angry, stressed out, fu look. 🙁🙁

Any experiences?

 

[lord_jeebus]

I also experienced the same thing on my first rotation, which was OB/Gyn.

I was relieved to later discover that this is an OB/Gyn phenomenon and does not reflect the residents in any other field.

 

[psychbender]

That pretty well described my interactions with my OB resident back in third year, and some of the OB residents just last month (though, most of them have been quite nice to me this year). Residents in the surgical fields tend to be a bit more stressed and harried than those in other fields, and med student interactions will mirror that. There are definitely exceptions, though, and it also helps to be disarmingly relaxed and composed around the more stressed out/bitter ones.

 

[Droopy Snoopy]

I also experienced the same thing on my first rotation, which was OB/Gyn.

I was relieved to later discover that this is an OB/Gyn phenomenon and does not reflect the residents in any other field.

Seconded. OB/Gyn is an altogether different vagina... er, animal.

 

[vir0n]

The majority (10/12) of my OB/GYN residents are cool as hell! Then again the department chair is one of the nicest guys you'll ever meet and I know he looks for a similar type of resident. He has a great sense of humor, knows his ****, extremely successful/well known, but doesn't take himself too seriously.👍

 

[sprinkibrio]

I've had a medicine resident like this.

 

[Substance]

The residents on obs where I was at were super nice and personable. They loved obs and consistently were trying to convince me to go into it.

The least pleasant residents I've encountered were:

1. Medicine: they weren't mean - just tired and not personable. I think they were overworked.

2. Plastic surgery: I think this was just the general atmosphere of the place I was at. Word on the street was that all the attendings hated each other. I'm certain these bad attitudes trickled down to the residents too. None of them had anything positive to say about basically anything, and were all clock-watchers.

3. Family medicine: I think the ones I met had a severe case of little man syndrome. They knew they were lowly FP residents so they had to act extra smart-alecky. But since no other resident from any other program would even tolerate that crap for one second, they only acted this way around the students. I called them on it (the attending liked me better than them for the particular rotation I was on), and they shut up fast.

And of course there were a few residents here and there I didn't gel with, but I think that was just due to personality incompatibilities and not due to any fault of anyone.

 

[a winner is you]

There are friendly and unfriendly residents in every specialty. It's luck of the draw, that's really all there is to it.

 

[SLUser11]

And of course there were a few residents here and there I didn't gel with, but I think that was just due to personality incompatibilities and not due to any fault of anyone.

What?!? No way!

 

[Renova]

I actually really liked almost all of my OB residents and attendings...to the point where I even considered going into OB for about 2.5 seconds before coming back to my senses.

In my experience, the gen surg residents were a lot more like what the OP is describing...I think I can count the genuinely nice/approachable surgery residents/attendings I worked with on 1 hand.

 

[USArmyDoc]

Welcome to medicine.....it is full of bitter people and in my opinion I do not blame them. It is your first rotation and I promise you'll see alot more.

Let us know how you feel in a year or so

 

[nope80]

Its really interesting though because what I have found is that the attendings are so cool. I love working with them!! Its such a relief. I'm learning, they actually talk, communicate, don't make you feel like you are out of place. But unfortunately, in this rotation (and I have no idea how other rotations will be or if this is how it works at other schools) but we mostly only work with residents. One on one time with attendings is a rare luxury. Yesterday I finally got to work with a nice resident - she actually talked to me and let me do things. Much more rewarding and I felt like I was helping.

 

[JStub]

My OB residents were the meanest. I wouldn't let it get you down though. They have a reputation of being the meanest residents for some reason and you will encounter nice residents down the road.

 

[Currantjelly]

I'm doing my internal med rotation right now and everyone has been simply great. I have been truly amazed at how outstanding everything has been so far, but I was not impressed by the quality of the first two years of medical school. Probably the best thing is that everyone I have worked with, from the attendings down to the interns and sub I's, have taken the time to answer my questions, even in hectic clinic type settings. They have always also listened to my thoughts and plans for treatment even when I was incorrect. So basically, there is a lot of respect going each way which is all that I could really hope for.

 

[nope80]

Your really lucky that you are working with such an awesome team - people that actually take the time to answer your questions, orient you, let you know whats going on (at least the first day) so you don't feel totally out of place and out of the loop is really something to be appreciative of. I'm on another week of obgyn, with two other residents and its the same story. There are a few nice ones that I haven't worked with one on one but talk in the hallways and just seem really great to work with - unfortunately I'm not working with them.

I feel really lost on this rotation, like I'm not contributing as a valuable member of the team...and that everything I want to do, or any information, has to be extracted from the residents...! Not fair at all🙁 I'm kinda at a loss of what to do to make it better...All day today I felt like I was "shadowing".

 

[SupaManu]

All of our OB/GYN residents are awesome, i have had no problems or complaints with any of them.

 

[indo]

All of our OB/GYN residents are awesome, i have had no problems or complaints with any of them.

Dude, we're not grading you. You don't have to lie to kick it.

 

[Re3iRtH]

Most of my rotation experience as a med student was mostly like that, you're mostly shadowing with a few minor add-ins of real work here and there. I had a classmate once boast they let her do an EKG once. I was always joked by attendings that as student you're dying to put in nasogastric caths and as an intern you do it so many times you wish to barf and cry yourself to sleep everytime you have to put in one. Sure went true to me.

I did rotate one subject interacting more with residents and interns. The interns were usualy stressed and didn't talk much so that left you with the residents. Most of them were nice, just one of them was a complete jerk. I also had a horrible experience rotating OB/GYN as a student, they never let you do anything and made you feel like you're wasting your time there. Luckily the rotation will end and maybe if you feel like Ob/Gyn is still worth it you may rotate a second time and get a better experience. I personally like it, cept you just really kill yourself because there's too much work.



Probably because they are no longer sleep and nutrient deprived. Try working 30 hours straight with no sleep and virtually nothing to eat and chances are you don't want to chit chat the next morning with everyone.

Nutrient deprived? The human body can go 2 weeks without any food at all without any physiological/mental impairment (heard it on Man vs. Wild), so I say as long as you are drinking water, 30 hours ain't nothing.

 

[Droopy Snoopy]

Nutrient deprived? The human body can go 2 weeks without any food at all without any physiological/mental impairment (heard it on Man vs. Wild), so I say as long as you are drinking water, 30 hours ain't nothing.

🙄

 

[45408]

the male OB/gyn residents were all cool. some of the girls were cool, but my chief resident was a huge pain in the ass. I gave her the worst evaluation out of any resident I've ever had. Overall, I was expecting worse.

 

[TopSecret]

This is my first rotation of third year (obgyn) and was wondering how other peoples residents compared to what I've seen?? I've actually been kinda surprised about how unfriendly, untalkative and almost bitter the ones I have come into contact seem. Its hard making conversation with them as they seem stone cold and totally uninterested. I really hope the rest of the year isn't like this!! Is this expected or am I just stuck in a rotation with unusual residents?

Its so crazy how around the med student they act one way (bitter, talk behind patients backs, etc) and then to the patients face, in front of attendings, basically in front of people that matter they turn around and put on a totally different show - change in voice tone, change in mannerisms, small talk, charm, you name it. But then around me, its mumbling, flattened affect and just plain bitterness. One girl I worked with for an entire week, I saw her in the hall today as she passed - I said hi with a big smile on my face and i'm not even sure if she said anything back, just the typical angry, stressed out, fu look. 🙁🙁

Any experiences?

Welcome to ob/gyn. 🙂

They are all probably sleep deprived and resent the fact that they cannot use you to perform scut work.

 

[DivaDoc12]

The majority (10/12) of my OB/GYN residents are cool as hell! Then again the department chair is one of the nicest guys you'll ever meet and I know he looks for a similar type of resident. He has a great sense of humor, knows his ****, extremely successful/well known, but doesn't take himself too seriously.👍

What school are you at? Also I am confused was the first post about the UT memphis residents? I am interviewing there for OB/GYn. I am trying to get away from my school because everyone is so unfriendly and miserable. This is very disconcerting.

 

[efex101]

OB/Gyn residents during my medical school days were mean spirited, douche bags. All others including surgical were phenomenal.