Asking for letter with strangle marks/hickie's on my neck?

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sooo cut to the chase yes it's what it sounds like, me and my girl were getting pretty hot and frisky and I asked her to strangle me - first of all I did NOT know it would leave these marks on my neck, and second I did not tell her to give me hickies

anyway, the professor has already seen me - I am in his class and it's very probable that he noticed (some people in the class already commented on it). so should I just act casual and ask for the letter? I do not know how long these marks will be on my neck and I want to ask for the letter soon to give him time

do you think it will affect the letter quality? what is he asks about them? would it be okay to just politely say it is none of his business/it's personal?

thanks
 
Yeah, email is probably your best option, and then maybe wait for the marks to go away before you talk to him in person?
 
TheAppleJuice said:
sooo cut to the chase yes it's what it sounds like, me and my girl were getting pretty hot and frisky and I asked her to strangle me - first of all I did NOT know it would leave these marks on my neck, and second I did not tell her to give me hickies

anyway, the professor has already seen me - I am in his class and it's very probable that he noticed (some people in the class already commented on it). so should I just act casual and ask for the letter? I do not know how long these marks will be on my neck and I want to ask for the letter soon to give him time

do you think it will affect the letter quality? what is he asks about them? would it be okay to just politely say it is none of his business/it's personal?

thanks
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I'm sorry, what kind of a question is this? Forget about asking for a letter - I wouldn't ask any professor for anything with a black and blue neck. Although as long as it's bruises they should heal rather quickly. I think email is your best bet. and lay low for a bit. No big presentations.
 
doctorcocter said:
You asked her to strangle you? Who’s the man in the relationship?

Jokes aside does email not work?
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I would rather ask my letter writers in person... I feel like it's more professional than just shooting a email
 
Maybe it's because I come from a party school... but who gives a ****? Just walk up to your professor and ask for the letter.

If your professor asks you, look them dead in the eyes and tell them you and your partner are experimenting in the bedroom. If it's a science professor, they'll properly want more details in order to make sure you have adequate control groups and are using proper experimental protocol. If your bedroom experiments aren’t scientifically sound, that could hurt letter quality.

This might add a bit of paperwork into your life though, as you should always use an IRB when experimenting on human subjects.

Edit: In case anyone needed to know, I'm only joking after the first paragraph.
 
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Maybe it's because I come from a party school... but who gives a ****? Just walk up to your professor and ask for the letter.
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That's also 100% an option. You didn't do anything wrong, you were just having a good time with your gf. Yeah, it's weird, but I mean stuff happens. He probably won't say anything. In fact, he's a college prof. He's probably seen worse.
 
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Picture of OPs gf

This is my new favorite thread.
 
TheAppleJuice said:
sooo cut to the chase yes it's what it sounds like, me and my girl were getting pretty hot and frisky and I asked her to strangle me - first of all I did NOT know it would leave these marks on my neck, and second I did not tell her to give me hickies

anyway, the professor has already seen me - I am in his class and it's very probable that he noticed (some people in the class already commented on it). so should I just act casual and ask for the letter? I do not know how long these marks will be on my neck and I want to ask for the letter soon to give him time

do you think it will affect the letter quality? what is he asks about them? would it be okay to just politely say it is none of his business/it's personal?

thanks
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You've got to learn how to apply foundation and concealer. It's an essential skill for anyone that values sloppy and vicious makeouts
 
TheAppleJuice, I expect some sort of update to this thread in the upcoming days/weeks where you tell us how you ended up going about asking for the letter and what your prof's reaction was
 
Better yet, just tell your professor you were choked by a psychotic patient while volunteering at your local psych ward (Points for volunteering with underserved communities) and that your physician prescribed numerous sloppy kisses to the area Q6.
 
Haha haha. Oh this is great. You could wait till it goes away before you ask. Or you can just ask now and if he or she brings it up tell her/him what you told us and I'm sure they'll get a kick out of it.
 
The Apple juice: "punish me babe"

Apple juice girl: 😱😱😱

Apple juice girl:😉:punch::rage:

Apple juice: 🙂

Please… just tell me this. What's your safe word? Please be something medically relevant…
 
Haha but a semi serious answer to the question is, how could strangle Mark's on your neck not effect the letter writers opinion of you??:laugh:
 
I know that premeds go to greats pains in this process, but this one chokes me up. The professor’s letter doesnt have a strangle hold over this process and you shouldn’t feel restrained by this all. Yes, this process can leave marks on a candidate but it doesnt mean you cant take your lashes and keep on going. Perhaps you need to be whipped into shape over all this or kept on a short leash.
 
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gonnif said:
I know that premeds go to greats pains in this process, but this one chokes me up. The professor’s letter doesnt have a strangle hold over this process and you shouldn’t feel restrained by this all. Yes, this process can leave marks on a candidate but it doesnt mean you cant take your lashes and keep on going. Perhaps you need to be whipped into shape over all this or kept on a short leash.
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gonnif said:
I know that premeds go to greats pains in this process, but this one chokes me up. The professor’s letter doesnt have a strangle hold over this process and you shouldn’t feel restrained by this all. Yes, this process can leave marks on a candidate but it doesnt mean you cant take your lashes and keep on going. Perhaps you need to be whipped into shape over all this or kept on a short leash.
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@LizzyM @Goro and @HomeSkool all approve the puns in this post :clap::clap::clap:
 
I envision the convo with your prof going something like this:

AJ: (in a raspy voice) Would you please write me a letter of recommendation?

Prof: (staring at AJ's neck) Umm...sure...ahh...what happened...there?

AJ: It's kind of a long story involving a pair of fuzzy dice, a can of gopher repellant, and a Charlie Sheen lookalike. And I'm not allowed back in the campus bookstore until next semester.

Prof: ...

AJ: ...

Prof: A Charlie Sheen--

AJ: (interrupting, looking away) I don't want to talk about it.
 
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Wear a turtleneck or scarf to cover it. Your writer might not care, but those marks can be distracting...
 
I don't know where the bruise is and how it looks, but you could go with collared shirt which might hide some. I would say you can also do with pull over hoodie if weather is not so warm. Otherwise, concealer is your best friend. It works like charm, just get the good one with your help of gf.
 
Put a broken condom in your hair to complete the trifecta.

If you don’t, you might give the professor the idea that you’re not thorough.

I’m sorry, this thread was too good to pass on 🤣
 
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