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That is very funny because I was going to add "No..this thread isn't about WisNeuro".Well, at times it is hard being ridiculously good looking, but I get by.
But on a more serious note. I don't know if this is odd, and not that I can't control myself obviously, but if possible, I prefer to work with people that I don't find that attractive. It's simply less stressful ,and my focus would be better, and things would be less awkward.
I'm upset that this thread wasn't about me.
Let's just say that I wouldn't want to work with you.I'm upset that this thread wasn't about me.
Ways to tell someone hasn't met me yet.modesty
This happens in therapy as well. There are attractive people in the world, and they suffer from the same issues as everyone else so attraction will be part of a dynamic that you have to learn to acknowledge and work through.
To me, attractiveness is highly based on personality. I don't stay away from people with attractive personalities.But on a more serious note. I don't know if this is odd, and not that I can't control myself obviously, but if possible, I prefer to work with people that I don't find that attractive. It's simply less stressful ,and my focus would be better, and things would be less awkward.
The number of times that still happens is amazing to me- or how often it happens in questionable circumstances. And not at junky schools- big name R1 schools that I see mentioned on here fairly regularly.The examples I have heard about where faculty and grad students (more recently, not the 70s/80s) becoming romantically involved have often ended poorly.
I believe it. I've seen it and its almost bound to happen in any big name program with an unattached younger faculty (unfortunately, from what I hear its usually a male faculty member).The number of times that still happens is amazing to me- or how often it happens in questionable circumstances. And not at junky schools- big name R1 schools that I see mentioned on here fairly regularly.
The number of times that still happens is amazing to me- or how often it happens in questionable circumstances. And not at junky schools- big name R1 schools that I see mentioned on here fairly regularly.
If you start the sex with "This is NOT what to do.." I've heard you get a pass from the ethics board.In what circumstances is this NOT questionable?
In what circumstances is this NOT questionable?
The number of times that still happens is amazing to me- or how often it happens in questionable circumstances. And not at junky schools- big name R1 schools that I see mentioned on here fairly regularly.
When it's wuv, twue wuv- obviously.In what circumstances is this NOT questionable?
Ditto. I've watched first hand as multiple professors ask grad students they are actively teaching on dates, start serious relationships with them, etc.I can name multiple faculty at my R1 school who had sexual relationships with undergraduate and/or graduate students. Happens so often you'd think no one had a problem with it.
Can't agree more.It's like working with your cousin/brother/sister/etc. While you can objectively acknowledge that a person is attractive, it really shouldn't have any bearing on the personal or professional relationships. There are huge consequences if that isn't the case.
There's probably a similar phrase for strip clubs and deciding if you should take that woman home from the bar
It's like working with your cousin/brother/sister/etc. While you can objectively acknowledge that a person is attractive, it really shouldn't have any bearing on the personal or professional relationships. There are huge consequences if that isn't the case.
"multiple regression, who?"
Let's be real here (and not so derogatory to the female sex)...or deciding if you should take Magic Mike home...:
Wasn't trying to be derogatory to women at all. There are strip clubs for men, women, trans, and pretty much any sexual orientation out there.
The pick'ens are slim for romantic prospects at work. The examples I have heard about where faculty and grad students becoming romantically involved have often ended poorly.
One of the best supervisors that I ever had was extremely attractive. I don't think it ever really got in the way of my listening to her and I think it also helped me to learn to stay focused on what someone is saying and maintaining professionality despite sexual feelings or even thoughts. Patients can be attractive for a variety of reasons, not just sexual. I had one kid I worked with who reminded me of myself when I was their age and at times it was hard to not become his buddy because we had such similar perspective and interests. There is also the wanting to adopt the cute little kids who need a family.