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"Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes

off

your goal."

- Henry Ford







> This is a good one...

>

>

> Why do some people get all the luck while others never get the

> breaks they deserve? A psychologist says he has

> discovered the answer.

>

> Ten years ago, I set out to examine luck. I wanted to know

> why some people are always in the right place at the right time,

> while others consistently experience ill fortune.

>

> I placed advertisements in national newspapers asking for

> people who felt consistently lucky or unlucky to contact me.

> Hundreds of extraordinary men and women volunteered for my research

> and, over the years, I have interviewed them, monitored their

> lives and had them take part in experiments.

>

> The results reveal that although these people have almost no

> insight into the causes of their luck, their thoughts and

> behaviour are responsible for much of their good and bad

> fortune.

>

> Take the case of seemingly chance opportunities. Lucky people

> consistently encounter such opportunities, whereas unlucky

> people do not. I carried out a simple experiment to discover

> whether this was due to differences in their ability to

> spot such opportunities. I gave both lucky and unlucky people a

> newspaper, and asked them to look through it and tell me how many

> photographs were inside. I had secretly placed a large message

> halfway through the newspaper saying: "Tell the experimenter

> you have seen this and win ?250." This message took up half of the

> page and was written in type that was more than two inches high. It

> was staring everyone straight in the face, but the unlucky people

> tended to miss it and the lucky people tended to spot it.

>

> Unlucky people are generally more tense than lucky people, and this

> anxiety disrupts their ability to notice the unexpected. As a

> result, they miss opportunities because they are too focused on

> looking for something else.

>

> They go to parties intent on finding their perfect partner and

> so miss opportunities to make good friends.

>

> They look through newspapers determined to find certain types

> of job advertisements and miss other types of jobs.

>

> Lucky people are more relaxed and open, and therefore see what is

> there rather than just what they are looking for.

>

> My research eventually revealed that lucky people generate good

> fortune via four principles.

>

> They are skilled at creating and noticing chance opportunities,

> make lucky decisions by listening to their intuition, create

> self-fulfilling prophesies via positive expectations, and adopt

> a resilient attitude that transforms bad luck into good.

>

> Towards the end of the work, I wondered whether these principles

> could be used to create good luck. I asked a group of

> volunteers to spend a month carrying out exercises designed

> to help them think and behave like a lucky person.

>

> Dramatic results: These exercises helped them spot chance

> opportunities, listen to their intuition, expect to be lucky,

> and be more resilient to bad luck.

>

> One month later, the volunteers returned and described what had

> happened. The results were dramatic: 80% of people were now

> happier, more satisfied with their lives and, perhaps most

> important of all, luckier.

>

> The lucky people had become even luckier and the unlucky had

> become lucky.

>

> Finally, I had found the elusive "luck factor". Here are my four

> top tips for becoming lucky:

> Listen to your gut instincts - they are normally right

> Be open to new experiences and breaking your normal routine

> Spend a few moments each day remembering things that went well

> Visualise yourself being lucky before an important meeting or

> telephone call.

>

> Luck is very often a self-fulfilling prophecy..
 

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pinktooth, i feel much better now after reading this..let me imagine i am lucky :p :p
 
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wiztooth, how did you become young again, i mean the picture..or isn't that you:laugh:
 

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Sorry pinktooth, but since we're already on the topic, I'm hijacking your thread. :D

This are pieces of an interesting article I found,

Emotional Intelligence: What Cartoons Can Teach
http://encarta.msn.com/encnet/Features/Columns/?article=emotionalintelligencemain

"Intelligence matters--but maybe not the way you think

Have you ever wondered why some of the brainiest people you know don't make the most money and don't have the most friends? Shouldn't a high IQ be a guaranteed ticket to a wonderful and successful life? You'd think this was true, considering all the emphasis colleges put on test scores and grades.

In reality, though, there is a lot more to success and happiness than braininess. In 1995, a psychologist and journalist named Daniel Goleman wrote a book that shattered the idea that your IQ is your destiny.

Instead, Goleman asserts, something called "emotional intelligence"--defined by such things as self awareness, impulse control, persistence, zeal, self motivation, and empathy--matters at least as much as your IQ, if not more.

And here's the really mind-boggling part: Unlike with IQ, you can improve your emotional intelligence.
.................................

When you look at it this way, our ability to think rests on our capacity for emotion. If the emotional part of our brain is turbulent, we aren't able to think very well. Here's an image to help remember this: You might be strong enough to carry a 50-pound tray of sandwiches, but you'll drop it if the floor starts to rumble.

This is what happens, Goleman says, when smart people get "hijacked" by their emotions. "
 

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Hi Meggs,
You are more than welcome to hijack my thread with your beautiful thoughts:)
And thanks a lot to mib,wiztooth,solafide and gsmm.I always like reading such inspiring thoughts so I thought I might as well post them maybe my SDN friends to enjoy reading them,,:)
Take care
 

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really encouraging . thanks a lot for posting it here.
 

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Originally posted by gsmm
wiztooth, how did you become young again, i mean the picture..or isn't that you:laugh:

hey....gsmm...so u remember this ol' man!!:smuggrin: Well,actually I had this magic potion brewed by Getafix which made me turn this way:laugh: :laugh: ((remember that druid from"Asterix" comic series:D !!)......ciao...take care:)
 
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