Best time to get married in medical school?

[anony mouse]

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What if we are both in med school, but one year apart in class rank? What is the best way to stay together for when I start residency and she is in 4th year? I know it's possible because two students from my school in the same situation did it recently.

Are you at the same school? You could think about splitting your 4th year, not sure about how all schools feel about this, but mine borderline encourages it, and from what I have seen it can only help in the match. Take some time to do some research or community service . . . sounds nice.

 

[Psychiatrypd]

How much do you love her? Are you ready to be married? Make sure you leave time for premarital counseling, which might be available through student health. I was married in medical school and loved it. Still am married. Remember that the wedding is not the same as the marriage. The wedding is one day. The marriage is your years of living together and being together. I would suggest planning a wedding in early July of the summer after your first year, assuming you two are ready to be married. If you leave it to the end of the summer, you will obsess about every little detail. Get married, then you have the summer to enjoy your memories, write all the thank you notes, set up housekeeping together, go camping together, enjoy each others' company, and get mentally refreshed and ready for your 2nd year. Keep the wedding simple. You do not need the parade of 50 elephants. Anytime someone wants to help, and they seem reliable, let them. have backup plans. Then remember that even if the power goes off, the caterer does not show, and the musician gets sick, you still love each other and will be married by the end of the day. It is the marriage, the many years of living together and loving each other that really matters. Good luck

 

[sewcurious]

this was the first post that made me want to get married during medical school 🙂

 

[thedoctor8706]

Are you at the same school? You could think about splitting your 4th year, not sure about how all schools feel about this, but mine borderline encourages it, and from what I have seen it can only help in the match. Take some time to do some research or community service . . . sounds nice.

If everything goes well, and I don't know why it wouldn't, then yes we will be in the same school. I have found that splitting 4th year is an option that some people have done here, so it sounds like a reasonable option!

How much do you love her? Are you ready to be married? Make sure you leave time for premarital counseling, which might be available through student health. I was married in medical school and loved it. Still am married. Remember that the wedding is not the same as the marriage. The wedding is one day. The marriage is your years of living together and being together. I would suggest planning a wedding in early July of the summer after your first year, assuming you two are ready to be married. If you leave it to the end of the summer, you will obsess about every little detail. Get married, then you have the summer to enjoy your memories, write all the thank you notes, set up housekeeping together, go camping together, enjoy each others' company, and get mentally refreshed and ready for your 2nd year. Keep the wedding simple. You do not need the parade of 50 elephants. Anytime someone wants to help, and they seem reliable, let them. have backup plans. Then remember that even if the power goes off, the caterer does not show, and the musician gets sick, you still love each other and will be married by the end of the day. It is the marriage, the many years of living together and loving each other that really matters. Good luck

Really good post, thanks 👍

 

[aggie08]

Wait til after med school...every doc I talked to said you don't wanna be married during med school. You have enough to worry about. Keep your relationship strong by all means but I personally don't wanna get married til I'm done

This must depend on your personality type. The doc I shadowed in undergrad said he never would've made it through med school if he wasn't married. I LOVE being married in med school. We celebrated our first year in July, which was between my M1 and M2 years. Our first year of marriage was absolutely great and med school did not hurt our relationship in the least. It totally depends on your relationship with that person and both your personalities - I personally like coming home to someone who doesn't wanna talk medicine, who can help me with dinner & laundry and who will hug me when I'm stressed about a neuro exam. I'm also married to someone who is very laid back, very good with money, a great communicator and doesn't get his feelings hurt if I'm not cooking every meal or vacuuming every week. I would suspect if you have an uptight/high maintenance/needy spouse then it may not be as easy.

I was married in medical school and loved it. Still am married. Remember that the wedding is not the same as the marriage. The wedding is one day. The marriage is your years of living together and being together. I would suggest planning a wedding in early July of the summer after your first year, assuming you two are ready to be married. If you leave it to the end of the summer, you will obsess about every little detail. Get married, then you have the summer to enjoy your memories, write all the thank you notes, set up housekeeping together, go camping together, enjoy each others' company, and get mentally refreshed and ready for your 2nd year. Keep the wedding simple. You do not need the parade of 50 elephants. Anytime someone wants to help, and they seem reliable, let them. have backup plans. Then remember that even if the power goes off, the caterer does not show, and the musician gets sick, you still love each other and will be married by the end of the day. It is the marriage, the many years of living together and loving each other that really matters. Good luck

Glad I'm not the only one who really enjoys my marriage. 🙂 GREAT advice too.

 

[Runforlife]

I will be an M1 in the fall and thinking about getting married the summer after my first year. If I get married and go on a honeymoon during that time will I still be able to participate in activities that other students do to pad their resumes for residency like research? Maybe just a short honeymoon? haha. Anyone else able to do both?

 

[sinombre]

I will be an M1 in the fall and thinking about getting married the summer after my first year. If I get married and go on a honeymoon during that time will I still be able to participate in activities that other students do to pad their resumes for residency like research? Maybe just a short honeymoon? haha. Anyone else able to do both?

You will have more than enough time to do both. The summer after M1 is a great (and probably the best) time to get married.

 

[Psai]

I will be an M1 in the fall and thinking about getting married the summer after my first year. If I get married and go on a honeymoon during that time will I still be able to participate in activities that other students do to pad their resumes for residency like research? Maybe just a short honeymoon? haha. Anyone else able to do both?

Ain't no time like the present

 

[fancymylotus]

Short honeymoon = minimoon

It's totally a thing. Do it.

 

[DermViser]

I will be an M1 in the fall and thinking about getting married the summer after my first year. If I get married and go on a honeymoon during that time will I still be able to participate in activities that other students do to pad their resumes for residency like research? Maybe just a short honeymoon? haha. Anyone else able to do both?

Why not this coming summer?