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To all my fellow SDN friends: Unfortunately, I will not be posting under the name Tissy anymore. I had a private message from someone on here telling me he needed to talk to me. I had previously been emailing back and forth for a while with this person discussing topics for the DAT. Anyways, he told me he needed to talk to me so I gave him my number. He called me and congratulated me on Columbia. Of course, he kept asking the usual on what was on my application and what got me an interview.. This person has similar scores as I do. So I told him a lot of things that I have done in the past and presently. To make a long story short…he calls me about ten minutes ago telling me he went to talk to admissions today at Columbia telling them my SDN name “Tissy”, my real name, and my scores. He said the person he was talking to knew who I was and told him my last name. I’m sure they had a discussion about me.. “Is it legal for admissions to give out someone’s last name to another person”. Anyways, basically he was asking what he had to do to get an interview b/c someone with low scores/gpa did “me”.
When he was telling me that he did this today, I became soo upset. Well he didn’t see the point on why I was so upset. He just kept asking what are your experiences and blah blah blah. I started to wonder what the hell is really going on. He completely ingnored the fact that I was upset and kept asking me to help him with some volunteer pointers for some paragraph he said he had to write to the committee. Point is…I’m extremely upset..people on this forum have helped me and not once will I reveal their identity..…

Come on people..if we help each other use common sense..don’t be out there to hurt others..I’m so sad and upset at the same time..what a disappointment.

Am I wrong for being upset? Wouldn’t you be upset?
 
tissy said:
To all my fellow SDN friends: Unfortunately, I will not be posting under the name Tissy anymore. I had a private message from someone on here telling me he needed to talk to me. I had previously been emailing back and forth for a while with this person discussing topics for the DAT. Anyways, he told me he needed to talk to me so I gave him my number. He called me and congratulated me on Columbia. Of course, he kept asking the usual on what was on my application and what got me an interview.. This person has similar scores as I do. So I told him a lot of things that I have done in the past and presently. To make a long story short…he calls me about ten minutes ago telling me he went to talk to admissions today at Columbia telling them my SDN name “Tissy”, my real name, and my scores. He said the person he was talking to knew who I was and told him my last name. I’m sure they had a discussion about me.. “Is it legal for admissions to give out someone’s last name to another person”. Anyways, basically he was asking what he had to do to get an interview b/c someone with low scores/gpa did “me”.
When he was telling me that he did this today, I became soo upset. Well he didn’t see the point on why I was so upset. He just kept asking what are your experiences and blah blah blah. I started to wonder what the hell is really going on. He completely ingnored the fact that I was upset and kept asking me to help him with some volunteer pointers for some paragraph he said he had to write to the committee. Point is…I’m extremely upset..people on this forum have helped me and not once will I reveal their identity..…

Come on people..if we help each other use common sense..don’t be out there to hurt others..I’m so sad and upset at the same time..what a disappointment.

Am I wrong for being upset? Wouldn’t you be upset?
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holy ****. im sorry honey. thats REALLY wrong. im so sorry :/
 
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That's soo weird! I'm so sorry to hear that 😱 You are totally right to be upset.
 
that guy is a jealous, freaky, unworthy psycho!...the level of competition still amazes me!
i can't believe that happened to you.
...also, he could just be messing with you. this could be his way of trying to get more info out of you. keep that in mind.
 
Really unfortunate... 🙁 That tactic reeked of desparation and I'm sorry to hear that. But did you really have to give the guy your digits?? And your application is supposed to be confidential, so I don't know what this guy is trying to pull on you.
 
i'm sorry this happened to you and i hope it doesn't interfere with your application - i don't see how it could.

he should not have done that but that's out of your control. what you did have control over was giving out too much personal info. at the same time, the person he was talking to did not have the right to confirm your identity or give him your last name.

i don't know what's going to happen but i do hope this is reflected poorly on him than on you.
 
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He didn't know my last name but knows it now....he said from the some girl Angela he talk to at Columbia....I haven't posted anything bad on here...Thank goodness!!
 
Wow..
I'm really sorry to hear that. I know that there's a sort of trust among SDN members because everyone is going through the same thing but it's unsafe to reveal anything too personal to people you met on the internet. Needless to say it's wrong for them to discuss another candidate with another candidate it seem almost unethical.

SO you have all right to be upset Tissy!
 
dont sweat it, it just makes that individual look desperate, you were just being friendly and nice...dont worry about it just know there are lot of weirdos out there...haha you should blow up the persons spot that way it doesnt happen to someone else
 
i am in shock!!! that is so crazy. i would be livid. is there anyway to report this person to the moderator on here and at least get them banned?
 
i dont think he violated any SDN rules...i was just thinking how much of a loon that person is, in my wildest dreams i would never even think of doing something like that
 
egots said:
i dont think he violated any SDN rules...i was just thinking how much of a loon that person is, in my wildest dreams i would never even think of doing something like that
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What I dont understand is how someone in an admissions office can discuss someones personal file with another person? Is this allowed? If so, I didnt realize😱
 
egots said:
i dont think he violated any SDN rules...i was just thinking how much of a loon that person is, in my wildest dreams i would never even think of doing something like that
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yeah, i just looked. it doesn't look like they can be banned for this AND she can't blow the f*ckers cover 😡
 
amsie said:
What I dont understand is how someone in an admissions office can discuss someones personal file with another person? Is this allowed? If so, I didnt realize😱
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i dont want to change the topic but i found that shocking, i was talking with this first year dental student i randomly met at a party 2 weeks ago and she goes to a school i applied to, and she goes to me give me your last name im gonna call up and see where you are in the application process and see what they think...i was like 😱 ill pass but i was in shock that she could do that and get information i thought my file was private!!!
 
amsie said:
Good call-tissy,i think you should do that.
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the important message to get out of this is to be more careful. without being completely dog-eat-dog, you can still do things to protect yourself.

plus, he can always use another name or email . . .

tissy, you're fine. you've been careful about what you post, you're an honest person, you have decent stats to back that up -- i wouldn't ne worried. (i'd be angry at that jerk but not worried)

plus, the secretary doesn't review your app, they just paper push. this angela in particular isn't very good at keeping her mouth shut about other ppl's personal info -- a pity but i doubt will affect your app.
 
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amsie said:
What I dont understand is how someone in an admissions office can discuss someones personal file with another person? Is this allowed? If so, I didnt realize😱
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agreed- that is just as, if not more alarming than what the weirdo did by going to the adcom. i really feel like either the person is making the situation up OR that this needs to be investigated at the school to find out if this in fact is allowed to happen.

however, i would warn you, if you bring this up you may have jeoparidized your chances of admission at the school b/c you are being seen as problematic. this is just not a good situation.🙁 i feel so badly for you (((((hugs))))))
 
laelialudisia said:
agreed- that is just as, if not more alarming than what the weirdo did by going to the adcom. i really feel like either the person is making the situation up OR that this needs to be investigated at the school to find out if this in fact is allowed to happen.

however, i would warn you, if you bring this up you may have jeoparidized your chances of admission at the school b/c you are being seen as problematic. this is just not a good situation.🙁 i feel so badly for you (((((hugs))))))
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why feeel bad, it will never come up!!! dont worry just dont trust ppl with personal info!! or at least make sure you can validate the other persons so if they try to pull some **** like this u can getem back 😀
 
laelialudisia said:
however, i would warn you, if you bring this up you may have jeoparidized your chances of admission at the school b/c you are being seen as problematic.
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how can that be? the guy isn't going to steal your identity or replace your scores with his.

be confidant in your own standing. he didn't make or break you.

i don't see why you would need to bring it up as i don't think this affects anything but still, if admissions wanted him, they would've asked him for an interview.
 
Clover said:
how can that be? the guy isn't going to steal your identity or replace your scores with his.

be confidant in your own standing. he didn't make or break you.

i don't see why you would need to bring it up as i don't think this affects anything but still, if admissions wanted him, they would've asked him for an interview.
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😕 what? i am saying that if she calls up the school as some, including myself have suggested, to find out if adcoms are allowed to reveal personal info. like this she may be viewed as a "problematic" applicant. i have no idea if that would in fact be the case, but i think it should be entertained b/c the last thing she wants to now happen is to make the situation worse.
 
egots said:
why feeel bad, it will never come up!!! dont worry just dont trust ppl with personal info!! or at least make sure you can validate the other persons so if they try to pull some **** like this u can getem back 😀
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i feel badly for her b/c clearly she is upset, as she stated, as i would be if this had happend to me. it would be very violating regardless of what happens.
 
Nope..I don't believe him that they gave him my name. He figured out my name by caller ID i'm sure so I would never call the school and ask questions. Honestly, after today...I'm not evev going to ever talk about because I'll be over it tomorrow. I got better things to do..i'm just warning others about what can happen and wanting my SDN close friends that I will no longer be on here b/c of what happen..
 
wow that is simply ridiculous, I am sorry to hear that tissy. You have been nothing but NICE to people here. I guess in this day n age, it really sucks to be the nice one. I don't think you need to worry about anything as others said that person can't really do anything.
 
I think we must all be careful on sharing our personal information from now on. This is just way too psycho and crazy. The crazy thing is that the person didn't even realize how wrong he was doing 😱 wtf?
 
What a dick. :wow: I'm kind of curious to know who this user is, just so that I don't become all chummy with him.
 
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i sure hope i dont end up in dental school with some stupid mofo like that...
 
tissy said:
Nope..I don't believe him that they gave him my name. He figured out my name by caller ID i'm sure so I would never call the school and ask questions. Honestly, after today...I'm not evev going to ever talk about because I'll be over it tomorrow. I got better things to do..i'm just warning others about what can happen and wanting my SDN close friends that I will no longer be on here b/c of what happen..
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Wow that really sucks.. I would address it head on, use it to your advantage.. If it EVER came up on your interview, just tell em your in a profession that helps people... You were just giving some helping advice to a fellow colleague.. (which is all true..)
 
It's pretty bad we have people like that. Tissy, I feel bad for you, like everyone else. I encourage you to be careful, as this situation is very precarious.
 
Something is obviously missing in the brain..screw not tight enough to have common sense..umm..sad
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I think we must all be careful on sharing our personal information from now on. This is just way too psycho and crazy. The crazy thing is that the person didn't even realize how wrong he was doing 😱 wtf?
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I guess this goes to serve a reminder to everyone that anyone could be reading what you write. Who knows if they can figure out your real identity, but it is now obvious that it is possible. Everything you say, be it slang, bad grammar, swearing, intolerance reflects on your image and allows people to form an opinion of you. I'm sure that you have formed plenty of opinions about many people on this forum, both good and bad. Overall I believe that the people who post here are responsible young adults, hoping to be professionals. Even though "someone watching" should not be the only motivation for acting professionally, it should at least give you one reason. Most of the people on this forum will someday be your colleagues, you may one day want someone to refer patients to you, so you should treat them as you would the dentist that you shadow. Good luck tissy, you have represented yourself on this forum well, you should have no problems.
 
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I actually had a bad feeling that giving up too much info on this board could cause trouble for me or someone else. I used to have my interviews and all of my gpa and dat scores in my signature but I took it out after realizing that a dental school official could probably look at that and know exactly who I am.

95% of my posts on here are serious and many are just offering advice if I know something but sometimes I joke around on here and I wouldn't want some joke posted on a message board affecting some adcom's opinion of me.
 
Egots is right, Tissy. You didn't do anything wrong, and if he does anything to try to sabotage your application he will likely just be seen for the unstable person he is. More likely, there is nothing he can or will do. I'm rooting for you all the more! You've learned a lesson. You're a good person. You'll just be a little more careful. You have good karma. Good things will happen to you.
 
aggie-master said:
95% of my posts on here are serious and many are just offering advice if I know something but sometimes I joke around on here and I wouldn't want some joke posted on a message board affecting some adcom's opinion of me.
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Ninety-five percent of my posts are jokes. 🙄
 
Californians are generally very open to outsiders and usually do not backstab them
cause they are all different and they are who they are

BUT you learned hard lesson
by telling loser about your stats... losers are very jealous if they
are not par with you cause they think they deserve better.😡 😡

A few of them may even go to adcom and tell them about all about you.... they want to screw you so they can take your spot... they are desperate losers...

I do not know you personally but I read your posts all the time..... Just go to
Santa Monica pier and take a long long walk.... It's done and never do it again.

Losers want your spot .... not by hard work but by **** way..cause they can't compete fair... All they gonna say is "WHAT ABOUT ME? ME? ME?...:idea: :idea: :idea:

I wish you good luck!! you will get in....Columbia wants you not him....😍 😍
 
odinGingi said:
Californians are generally very open to outsiders and usually do not backstab them
cause they are all different and they are who they are
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i'm from LA. in LA, people are competitive and need their space. i think northerners are a bit more mellow.

anyway, sorry to hear that tissy. i dont mind competition but if it's to deter someone from succeeding, that's just plain bullshi*. isn't one of the ideal qualities as a dentist to help others out? anywho, what's the freak's name? if u feel uncomfortable posting on the thread, PM me =P i dont wanna end up being lab buddies with him. this guy seems to have a red flag personality.
 
wow. I hope you consider this guy the exception not the rule. don't let this form other relationships with ppl. but you should be firm when something seems odd like this kid off of sdn asking for your number. just say no, sorry.

good luck, you're a sweetheart and I'm sure God's got a great plan for you.

all the best.
 
that is absolutely unbelievable.....if someone did that to me there would be some serious consequences......unreal....i cant believe that this story is real....wowowowowowowowowowow!!! so i guess the real question here is do u know this guys real name? what do u know about him? mabye he made all this up , who knows, i can't begin to understand what kind of a person would do something like that..wow! How did the people at columbia know your last name anyways?, was it b/c he allegedly told them your first name and your stats? i find it very hard to believe that the admissions people at columbia knew your sdn screen name without you telling them...mabye we aren't giving these people enough credit for browsing these forums......what is this guys screen name that we are talking about? that is just too ******ed to believe...wow! 😎

Im so sorry to here that u were the victim of such a disrespectful ******ed individual and his absolutely insanely stupid and uncalled for actions...what a joke this guy must be😎
 
That guy is seriously "missing a sensitivity chip". It's scary to think that he could be a future practitioner.
 
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