Ok in reply to all your questions. first off, thanks for all the posts--- it seems like this topic is important to a lot of people. I actually got my 4th choice for anesthesia, at a pretty well known program in the east. I'm happy, really (i guess). when i made my rank list, i did it according to where i wanted to end up academically for training. but now i've come to realize that life is about quality of life, and with all the sacrifices we've made in medicine, i feel that location and being around the people you want to be around is not one of the sacrifices we should be making, b/c after all, we've made way too many sacrifices already. so while i got a fantastic spot, it's not anywhere near my family, signficant other, etc. and now i'm willing to compromise on this fanatastic spot for a place closer to where i want to be. i guess the issue now is whether i can find an EQUALLY great/university/name program that is willing to transfer me/and more necessary, one that will have open spots as well. my post here was just to get a guage on the situation: should i even contact PDs at other programs to see if they have open spots (and if so, when is a good time, now or into my internship year or into my CA-1 year)....b/c by contacting PDs, you're putting your name on a black list which could even compromise me getting any fellowships at these other places in the future. overall, it has nothing to do with the place that i'm at now. i just am so sick of giving things up for medicine, and have realized that all the things I had so pursued in the past 8 years are not the things that really matter in life. ....
thanks all to your recommendations