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What is it with you people and your World of Warcraft?!:laugh:

I'm avoiding it like the plague. If I start, I won't stop.:laugh::laugh::laugh:

It's not world of warcraft! It's warcraft III, way better than world of warcrap :laugh:
 
The story is the same. It's the heroes of WC3, but without the RTS or micromanagement. It's an MMORPG.

Except it also requires ridiculous more time, and is highly addictive. A friend of mine works for nvidia right now but he was on the verge from graduating physics/math/EE triple major in 3 years to dropping out of college due to World of Warcrack/Warcrap.

Shameless plug from a FanATIc: Nvidia sucks!!!
 
Still headachey 🙁


ohhhh no. Are you taking anything! I used to get chronic headaches and they would essentially prevent me from getting anything accomplished. I always had them on the right side of my head...and it turns out they were caused by a prolactinoma (benign pituitary tumor)...yeah not fun. I am not suggesting you have anything like that at all, but I understand how you feel.

I hope you feel better olemiss!
 
I never had any interest in that game. I've played Warcraft/Starcraft maybe <5 times in my life. I guess it's a good thing though considering how many people say it's so addictive.
 
crap. Forgot I need to ship out some magic cards.

This is what I get for spending ridiculous amounts of money on magic this summer, and then realizing to own at it, I had to continue spending ridiculous amounts of money, so I quit after 3 weeks.

I've sold most of the higher valued cards but I'll probably still come out with a loss of quite a bit of money because of the stupid commission fees


Talk to you guys later!
 
Missed the bus cuz I was too busy SDN'ing 🙁

Next one in 8 mins
 
Hello there folks!
 
wow. some people are... interesting. I just saw a post saying women should not be physicians because they can't be a mother & a professional at the same time. I'm going to crawl back into my cave 😀

Well...I'm not saying that they shouldn't but I'm sure wondering how I'll do both!

Me either. I get much too frustrated with the issue.

It's a complicated issue. On the one hand you don't want to close doors for women, but I can tell you that, with two kids, my mom really had no choice but to quit her job. And let me tell you, I'm grateful for every moment she spent making sure we were healthy, educated, and happy.

Hehe so did I. It always amazes me that people actually still think children are ruined by not having a stay at home parent. Kind of interesting.

Ruined, no. But I know it made a lot of difference for me in my formative years. I had trouble focusing and paying attention. My mom put a lot more love and energy into me than any kind of sitter would have been able to.

People don't realize that there's such a thing as overmothering/overparenting as well. I don't like my parents up in my space 24/7. It's tiring and irritating.

Yeah, I agree with that, too. But I think when I was younger, I needed that kind of guidance.

Same here. Also seem to have turned out alright. Honestly, children are a lot more resilient than people give them credit for, sheesh.

Well at the same time, it's a priority for me to have one parent home at all times. I know Mr. Nola is willing to put in the work for kids. But my dad wasn't really able to be home very much due to the nature of his job and due to his own nature, too, I guess...so my mom did have to remain at home. Not everyone is fortunate enough to have a partner who is both willing and able to take care of children in the way that children need.

Some children may be resilient...but others might not. And I'm not a big fan of taking chances with my offspring...:/
 
I would just like to say that I do think that there's a lot of pressure on women these days. Times have changed.

Not-working is not an option for women and working women may look down at their stay-at-home counterparts and act like they're not contributing...

I'm still wondering what in the heck I'm going to do with my children before the age of 2. I keep hearing all these horror stories about inattentive (or bad-tempered) nannies who shake children, or ignore them, etc. etc.

My mom relied on day care as little as possible, but she did have to use it a few times. She came home early one day and found me locked in a closet, wailing my head off...

I dunno, being a good parent >>> being a doctor, IMHO.
 
being a good parent >>> being a doctor, IMHO.

Ditto. I'll cut my hours and work different shifts from my husband if I have to so our kids can have a parent with them as much as possible.

I know my parents will be a big help as well. They can't wait to have grandchildren. I can only hope that my future hubby's parents are as involved 🙂
 
Ditto. I'll cut my hours and work different shifts from my husband if I have to so our kids can have a parent with them as much as possible.

I know my parents will be a big help as well. They can't wait to have grandchildren. I can only hope that my future hubby's parents are as involved 🙂

😀 Yeah, I think Mr. Nola and I are pretty much gonna be on our own. I have a small nuclear family (so maybe my mom will be able to help us a little?) and his family, well, I don't know how much they're in a situation to help (they've got some of their own problems, I guess 🙁).

I've told Mr. Nola that any sacrifices that need to be made for a family will be made willingly.
 
Wow... you're at the "talking about kids" stage, Ms. Nola? 😱

You must be in 😍!!!

(yes, I overreact a little about these kinds of things... I guess I'm a hopeless romantic 😳)

... Yay!
 
Eh, I had a nanny up til age 9ish and after that I was largely on my own. It wasn't fun, but it taught me a LOT of valuable lessons. It made me extremely independent. It's part of the reason why I can move anywhere and I've never felt tied down by anything. I love my family dearly and I'm very close to them, but I am definitely used to taking care of myself. I am even a good cook because of it! I really just think you can teach kids different kinds of valuable lessons and still be a successful parent.
 
Wow... you're at the "talking about kids" stage, Ms. Nola? 😱

You must be in 😍!!!

(yes, I overreact a little about these kinds of things... I guess I'm a hopeless romantic 😳)

... Yay!

Hehe, is it totally weird that we probably talked about kids the second week in? (To be fair, we weren't talking about US having kids, but kind of what we would each want for our offspring individually. Interestingly, we were exactly on the same page).

And we are TOTALLY on the same page about weddings interestingly. I think he's kind of relieved I'm not a $900K wedding sort of gal 😉

I talk about kids early in my relationships, as soon as it's feasible.

Having a family is one of the most important things to me.


kids>>>marriage 😆

Well, seriously, you want to know up front if the guy has had a vasectomy and vowed never to produce offspring. I mean, on the one hand, you don't want to force a relationship to go unnaturally fast. But on the other, if there's a dealbreaker, do you want to find out about it when you're 6 months in and madly in love?
 
I talk about kids early in my relationships, as soon as it's feasible.

Having a family is one of the most important things to me.


kids>>>marriage 😆

Really? Even after 4 years, I still have to pull teeth to get Ms. Spurs to talk about kids and the future and all that stuff...
 
Eh, I had a nanny up til age 9ish and after that I was largely on my own. It wasn't fun, but it taught me a LOT of valuable lessons. It made me extremely independent. It's part of the reason why I can move anywhere and I've never felt tied down by anything. I love my family dearly and I'm very close to them, but I am definitely used to taking care of myself. I am even a good cook because of it! I really just think you can teach kids different kinds of valuable lessons and still be a successful parent.

I'm glad you feel that way, cause I'm pretty ignorant about what it would mean to have a nanny around, and I know I'm gonna need some sort of help if I have children.

Yeah, if I had a nanny I would want to find someone that I would trust in my home. That's not a small deal. I'm sure it works out for a lot of people, but I would want to make sure I found a situation that worked for me. And it may or may not include a nanny.

I mean, atm, I don't know exactly how I'm going to deal with this. But Mr. Nola's a smart guy and he's always wanted children (try finding several men who feel that way 😛). So we'll make it work somehow.
 
I'm glad you feel that way, cause I'm pretty ignorant about what it would mean to have a nanny around, and I know I'm gonna need some sort of help if I have children.

Yeah, if I had a nanny I would want to find someone that I would trust in my home. That's not a small deal. I'm sure it works out for a lot of people, but I would want to make sure I found a situation that worked for me. And it may or may not include a nanny.

I mean, atm, I don't know exactly how I'm going to deal with this. But Mr. Nola's a smart guy and he's always wanted children (try finding several men who feel that way 😛). So we'll make it work somehow.

🙂 she really truly was a wonderful nanny. Stern and kind at the same time. I think a lot of moms are sort of afraid of nannies not only because they might not be good at what they do, but also because the children might love her more than their mother. Honestly, I didn't have a problem with that. I just felt like I had 2 moms, one who was always running around everywhere and the other who was home with me when my first mom was off somewhere. Anyways, she was great. When I moved to the US she stayed back home, got married, and had a baby of her own, and I am his godmother 😀.
 
Both of my parents worked full-time when I was a kid. I lived with a nanny probably till I was 6 or so, and then our grandma came to live with us and took care of us until my brother was half through middle school. I seem to have turned out alright.

My brother, on the other hand, fell into drugs in middle school and high school, and fair or not, my mother has always felt somewhat that maybe she could have made some difference if she'd been home for him to watch him personally. She then quit her job to come take care of us, but it didn't make any difference- he made the decisions he wanted to make, and it didn't matter if she was watching or not.

Two kids, same upbringing... very different results. I think at the end of the day, kids can succeed or fail in any environment that they're raised in, and they're going to make (mostly) the same choices regardless of whether the parents work or not. So parents should do what will make them most happy and make them feel most fulfilled at the end of the day, because you just can't control everything your kids are going to do under any circumstances.
 
I mean, atm, I don't know exactly how I'm going to deal with this. But Mr. Nola's a smart guy and he's always wanted children (try finding several men who feel that way 😛). So we'll make it work somehow.

I do! 🙂 Actually, the first time I was asked what I wanted to be when I grew up, I said "stay-at-home" dad :laugh:

Ms. Spurs seems to vacillate... some days, she really wants them, and other days she thinks they'd get between us.
 
Hah I definitely can't positively say I want children, but that's cause I'm way too selfish right now. I'm so incredibly far from being ready that I can't know how I'll feel about it when I am mature enough and financially secure enough to have them (not to mention when I finally feel like I've done everything I want to do pre-being tied down to one place).

I actually find that men tend to be more sure that they "want kids" than women are, maybe because their plans for the future wouldn't be affected nearly as much as women's are. That has been my experience, anyway.
 
Hah I definitely can't positively say I want children, but that's cause I'm way too selfish right now. I'm so incredibly far from being ready that I can't know how I'll feel about it when I am mature enough and financially secure enough to have them (not to mention when I finally feel like I've done everything I want to do pre-being tied down to one place).

I actually find that men tend to be more sure that they "want kids" than women are, maybe because their plans for the future wouldn't be affected nearly as much as women's are. That has been my experience, anyway.


That's probably fair. I think Ms. Spurs is very similar to you.
 
🙂 she really truly was a wonderful nanny. Stern and kind at the same time. I think a lot of moms are sort of afraid of nannies not only because they might not be good at what they do, but also because the children might love her more than their mother. Honestly, I didn't have a problem with that. I just felt like I had 2 moms, one who was always running around everywhere and the other who was home with me when my first mom was off somewhere. Anyways, she was great. When I moved to the US she stayed back home, got married, and had a baby of her own, and I am his godmother 😀.

Aw, that's really nice. 🙂 I'm not really worried that my child will love someone else more than s/he will love me, but I would be worried about providing consistency and an appropriate example for my growing child...I don't know that having 5 nannies over the course of 3 years would provide a lot of stability for my family.

Two kids, same upbringing... very different results. I think at the end of the day, kids can succeed or fail in any environment that they're raised in, and they're going to make (mostly) the same choices regardless of whether the parents work or not. So parents should do what will make them most happy and make them feel most fulfilled at the end of the day, because you just can't control everything your kids are going to do under any circumstances.

Yeah. I think I would have been far more laid back about school and life in general without my mom. Maybe I would have gone to college, maybe not. Medical school? Probably not.

I do! 🙂 Actually, the first time I was asked what I wanted to be when I grew up, I said "stay-at-home" dad :laugh:

Haha, I used to want to marry a guy who'd be willing to be a "stay-at-home" dad 😀.

I actually find that men tend to be more sure that they "want kids" than women are, maybe because their plans for the future wouldn't be affected nearly as much as women's are. That has been my experience, anyway.

Yeah that makes sense. I guess Mr. Nola has made it clear that he sees himself on diaper duty and as a source of support when things like feedings every three hours come into play. Also he's the kind of calm, confident kind of guy that kids instinctively trust.

But I know my own dad was more along the lines of 'wanting kids' but expecting my mom to bear quite a lot of the responsibility.
 
Hehe, is it totally weird that we probably talked about kids the second week in? (To be fair, we weren't talking about US having kids, but kind of what we would each want for our offspring individually. Interestingly, we were exactly on the same page).

And we are TOTALLY on the same page about weddings interestingly. I think he's kind of relieved I'm not a $900K wedding sort of gal 😉



Well, seriously, you want to know up front if the guy has had a vasectomy and vowed never to produce offspring. I mean, on the one hand, you don't want to force a relationship to go unnaturally fast. But on the other, if there's a dealbreaker, do you want to find out about it when you're 6 months in and madly in love?


At this rate you are gonna be married before orientation week :laugh::laugh::laugh:
 
At this rate you are gonna be married before orientation week :laugh::laugh::laugh:

Haha, nah, but that's the beauty of it -- we both agree that we want to wait as long as is reasonable before getting married (probably several years).

But it's nice to have the security that marriage isn't the last thing on everyone's mind.
 
Haha, nah, but that's the beauty of it -- we both agree that we want to wait as long as is reasonable before getting married (probably several years).

But it's nice to have the security that marriage isn't the last thing on everyone's mind.

I see, but if he's willing to move for you, it will basically be like a marriage without the actual marriage 😀
 
I see, but if he's willing to move for you, it will basically be like a marriage without the actual marriage 😀

You know, I hadn't consciously thought about it that way, but I think you're right...
 
Wow, a lot of grown-up talk in here today.
 
Wow, a lot of grown-up talk in here today.

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Hah I definitely can't positively say :wtf:lol. I want children, but that's cause I'm way too selfish right now. I'm so incredibly far from being ready that I can't know how I'll feel about it when I am mature enough and financially secure enough to have them (not to mention when I finally feel like I've done everything I want to do pre-being tied down to one place).

I actually find that men tend to be more sure that they "want kids" than women are, maybe because their plans for the future wouldn't be affected nearly as much as women's are. That has been my experience, anyway.
Not from my experience, but I think it probably varies amongst people from different age groups.
 
I am back in the building yall!
 
I think I can hit 2,000 tonite!
 
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