Classmate drama, inevitable?

[redhotchiligochu]

I'm normally the chill type of guy (at least in real life--my online presence can be described as um... trollish? 🙄) who generally minds his own business, focuses on long-term plans, and prevents himself getting into awkward situations.

Unfortunately, I have been drawn into a very uncomfortable situation during the past month or so involving several of us classmates, some of whom exhibit grade-school level manipulation, clingy-ness, immaturity, utter cringy-ness, and simply no life-smarts. Involving female classmates vying for my attention and jealous/clingy male classmates who can't handle that fact, and friendship ties being broken because of their lack of foresight.

Any stories/drama y'all had to encounter that y'all wouldn't mind sharing?

Edit: Realized my post was way too long and I wanted to respect the privacy of the classmates involved

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[Noice]

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Involving female classmates vying for my attention and jealous/clingy male classmates who can't handle that fact, and friendship ties being broken because of their lack of foresight.
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Damn. How is your life is so much more exciting than mine? I've hardly even met my classmates. Maybe it's a large vs small class size thing.

 

[2TH MVR]

Dude,

Your life sucks. Women wanting to be friends with you and guys are jealous. This is an emergency that can't wait. I would set up a meeting immediately with the dean of students, chair, president of Univ. and explain how your studies are being affected by all this drama. Next up is HR dept. All this opposite sex attention could lead to some bad things. Ask Matt Lauer. 😀

 

[sbdento]

Stay in your lane. It’s only four years and you’ll be done with it.

 

[schmoob]

Tensions tend to run high during finals, don't sweat it.

 

[ourmrsreynolds]

 

[Bernie Sanders]

I'm like you. Typically I keep to myself, I don't give a jack about grades (and all of my classmates knew this from day 1), but I still ran into a lot of conflict with my classmates. From the first week, I could tell that my classmates were either not interesting people or just bad people, or both.
My advice: Find about 5 people you know who are trustworthy, helpful (don't necessarily have to be sociable) be good friends with them, be courteous but keep your distance with the rest, and make your friends outside school.
Try to pick up a new hobby, cause maybe you will be like me and find dentistry 99% boring

 

[SmileItsLife]

It sounds like both of your dental schools have a high school-esq atmosphere. Is that usual in DS? Getting into social turmoil without even trying...

 

[Incis0r]

Is that usual in DS? Getting into social turmoil without even trying...

Absolutely! I have experienced so much drama in my class. A Dolphins fan and an Eagles fan keep making "deflategate" references to me every class. Grr...xD

Haha, in reality, I have experienced no drama so far and I'm almost done (less than 24 hours away) with my first term of dental education.

It might just be because my classmates are awesome, but I really think having a "we're all in this together" mindset goes a long way towards this. My classmates trade notes, answer questions over a group chat, share help resources we got from upperclassmen with each other, etc.

 

[mikebuff]

Hey, do what you have to to and what is good for your future. Friends (if they're real friends) will return. Girls are like this - first they vie for your attention and then you find yourself in the middle of nowhere. It's fun once you're sure of your future, mate. Otherwise don't get distracted.

 

[deleted696582]

Absolutely! I have experienced so much drama in my class. A Dolphins fan and an Eagles fan keep making "deflategate" references to me every class. Grr...xD

Haha, in reality, I have experienced no drama so far and I'm almost done (less than 24 hours away) with my first term of dental education.

It might just be because my classmates are awesome, but I really think having a "we're all in this together" mindset goes a long way towards this. My classmates trade notes, answer questions over a group chat, share help resources we got from upperclassmen with each other, etc.

Yeah we're all pretty chill over here too. There are friend groups and some petty stuff, but everyone is cool and friendly. I try to have a conversation with a few people outside my immediate group every day. There are so many different people from so many backgrounds that you're kind of missing out on some interesting stuff if you don't chat people up in sim lab or between lectures. I could go from talking to someone about their kids and family weekend to someone else about how they partied too hard Friday night at the bars.