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Hello - I need help here.
I am a second year resident. I would like to be a chief resident someday. I am a top-performing resident - attendings generally think this about me, based on rec letters and verbal feedback.
1. great assessments/diagnoses
2. great teaching of residents
3. sets an example for other residents
4. team player
5. hard worker
6. smart
I heard from one of the current chiefs that I am (or was?) under consideration for being a next chief, which I would like to do.
However, there is one problem that has increasingly been brought to my attention both by my attending and a resident friend when I asked her for feedback. More than one ancillary staff has complained about me at multiple locations where I have worked - that I use a sharp tone when I speak/raise my voice/I am rude/I make them uncomfortable. I had a talk with an attending about picking my battles wisely/taking the high road a few weeks ago, after the following incident:
An ancillary staff member had refused to do a task related to patient care that I tried to delegate to her (a task anyone can do but it was late and she was the first person I found, and that I could not do because my computer account was down). I scolded the staff member saying that we shouldn't have the attitude of "not my job" when we work in a system. She told me that it was not her job and that I should speak with her supervisor tomorrow. So I spoke with the supervisor the next day (in a collegial way), and the supervisor had expressed that she was frustrated with the system and the attitude that some of these staff had, and that it was partly some of the other supervisors' (not her) fault for promoting such an environment. My rudeness the night before did not come up in this conversation. She seemed willing to address some concrete issues that I brought up for the next staff meeting, so I left feeling like I accomplished something. But the next day an attending called me in stating that the same supervisor reported to him that I was rude to the staff member. He asked me for my side of the story, which I gave. He did not seem like he thought this was worth disciplining me over, state that these conflicts happen in the workplace and that he was frustrated with the system at times too, and suggested that I pick my battles wisely/take the high road. Which I accepted.
I asked a friend (in the same residency) for personality feedback today - and she told me that the word on the vine was that I was rude to ancillary staff. Plenty of ancillary staff had complained about me, even at the VA (or perhaps especially there). Even if my friend did not tell me this, I can tell when I have a sharp tone, and it is usually in response to the following scenarios: 1. People refuse to do what I ask (and what I think they are supposed to do), behaving like it is not their job 2. People don't follow through with what they agreed to such that I have to tell them a second time, 3. People don't have common sense, when I think they should know better. I was born with a quick temper and as I grew up I also developed a critical tongue. The same friend also told me that she thought I complained too much during the monthly resident meetings, and warned me that she didn't think attendings liked complainers, and that they see me as a complainer. I am actually not unhappy with the program, just that I have an opinion about most things, and feel compelled to state them. During my first year I thought I was rude to staff, and wanted to fix it, but it was difficult when I am tired/in a hurry. At the beginning of my first year I was not vocal at resident meetings but became more vocal as the year went on when I formed more opinions, but I was never rude at these. I am collegial with other residents at work generally and am collegial with ancillary staff 80% of the time.
Because I have been thinking about this problem for some time, I took an emotional intelligence test (about 300+ questions of various sorts, from ArchProfile) and scored in the 98th percentile overall. Generally I was average to top for all characteristics:
Emotional competencies (76th percentile)
- ability to identify emotions in self (98th percentile)
- comfort with emotional expression (67th percentile)
- comfort with emotional situations or people (80th percentile)
- emotional reflection (69th percentile)
- emotional regulation (53rd percentile)
- emotional integration (91st percentile)
Social competencies (83rd percentile)
- adaptable social skills (78th percentile)
- social insight (83rd percentile)
- conflict resolution knowledge (86th percentile)
- conflict resolution behavior (88th percentile)
- empathy (98th percentile)
- ability to read body language (68th percentile)
- flexibility (82nd percentile)
Drive (70th percentile)
- goal-setting (59th percentile)
- striving (82nd percentile)
- self-motivation (52nd percentile)
- self-awareness (80th percentile)
Stress management (79th percentile)
- coping skills (63rd percentile)
- emotional selectivity (magnitude) (100th percentile)
- emotional selectivity (precision) (89th percentile)
- resilience (73rd percentile)
- adaptability (83rd percentile)
- contentment (62nd percentile)
- positive mindset (71st percentile)
- extreme rumination (12th percentile)
- values congruence (68th percentile)
Self-regard (78th percentile)
- self-esteem (89th percentile)
- self-confidence (75th percentile)
- assertiveness (67th percentile)
- self-efficacy (87th percentile)
- need for approval (21st percentile)
Questions for you:
1. Should I specifically address these issues at my semi-annual evaluation, and give them my plans for improvement? Or am I just sticking my foot in my mouth?
2. I am thinking of ways to improve on this, but welcome your suggestions
3. Are my chances as chief over? - I get that this depends on who else is in the running - but in general would you prioritize someone who gets along with staff/vocalizes less at resident meetings, if they are not as good at teaching/helping other residents/hardworking?
Thanks for your input.
I am a second year resident. I would like to be a chief resident someday. I am a top-performing resident - attendings generally think this about me, based on rec letters and verbal feedback.
1. great assessments/diagnoses
2. great teaching of residents
3. sets an example for other residents
4. team player
5. hard worker
6. smart
I heard from one of the current chiefs that I am (or was?) under consideration for being a next chief, which I would like to do.
However, there is one problem that has increasingly been brought to my attention both by my attending and a resident friend when I asked her for feedback. More than one ancillary staff has complained about me at multiple locations where I have worked - that I use a sharp tone when I speak/raise my voice/I am rude/I make them uncomfortable. I had a talk with an attending about picking my battles wisely/taking the high road a few weeks ago, after the following incident:
An ancillary staff member had refused to do a task related to patient care that I tried to delegate to her (a task anyone can do but it was late and she was the first person I found, and that I could not do because my computer account was down). I scolded the staff member saying that we shouldn't have the attitude of "not my job" when we work in a system. She told me that it was not her job and that I should speak with her supervisor tomorrow. So I spoke with the supervisor the next day (in a collegial way), and the supervisor had expressed that she was frustrated with the system and the attitude that some of these staff had, and that it was partly some of the other supervisors' (not her) fault for promoting such an environment. My rudeness the night before did not come up in this conversation. She seemed willing to address some concrete issues that I brought up for the next staff meeting, so I left feeling like I accomplished something. But the next day an attending called me in stating that the same supervisor reported to him that I was rude to the staff member. He asked me for my side of the story, which I gave. He did not seem like he thought this was worth disciplining me over, state that these conflicts happen in the workplace and that he was frustrated with the system at times too, and suggested that I pick my battles wisely/take the high road. Which I accepted.
I asked a friend (in the same residency) for personality feedback today - and she told me that the word on the vine was that I was rude to ancillary staff. Plenty of ancillary staff had complained about me, even at the VA (or perhaps especially there). Even if my friend did not tell me this, I can tell when I have a sharp tone, and it is usually in response to the following scenarios: 1. People refuse to do what I ask (and what I think they are supposed to do), behaving like it is not their job 2. People don't follow through with what they agreed to such that I have to tell them a second time, 3. People don't have common sense, when I think they should know better. I was born with a quick temper and as I grew up I also developed a critical tongue. The same friend also told me that she thought I complained too much during the monthly resident meetings, and warned me that she didn't think attendings liked complainers, and that they see me as a complainer. I am actually not unhappy with the program, just that I have an opinion about most things, and feel compelled to state them. During my first year I thought I was rude to staff, and wanted to fix it, but it was difficult when I am tired/in a hurry. At the beginning of my first year I was not vocal at resident meetings but became more vocal as the year went on when I formed more opinions, but I was never rude at these. I am collegial with other residents at work generally and am collegial with ancillary staff 80% of the time.
Because I have been thinking about this problem for some time, I took an emotional intelligence test (about 300+ questions of various sorts, from ArchProfile) and scored in the 98th percentile overall. Generally I was average to top for all characteristics:
Emotional competencies (76th percentile)
- ability to identify emotions in self (98th percentile)
- comfort with emotional expression (67th percentile)
- comfort with emotional situations or people (80th percentile)
- emotional reflection (69th percentile)
- emotional regulation (53rd percentile)
- emotional integration (91st percentile)
Social competencies (83rd percentile)
- adaptable social skills (78th percentile)
- social insight (83rd percentile)
- conflict resolution knowledge (86th percentile)
- conflict resolution behavior (88th percentile)
- empathy (98th percentile)
- ability to read body language (68th percentile)
- flexibility (82nd percentile)
Drive (70th percentile)
- goal-setting (59th percentile)
- striving (82nd percentile)
- self-motivation (52nd percentile)
- self-awareness (80th percentile)
Stress management (79th percentile)
- coping skills (63rd percentile)
- emotional selectivity (magnitude) (100th percentile)
- emotional selectivity (precision) (89th percentile)
- resilience (73rd percentile)
- adaptability (83rd percentile)
- contentment (62nd percentile)
- positive mindset (71st percentile)
- extreme rumination (12th percentile)
- values congruence (68th percentile)
Self-regard (78th percentile)
- self-esteem (89th percentile)
- self-confidence (75th percentile)
- assertiveness (67th percentile)
- self-efficacy (87th percentile)
- need for approval (21st percentile)
Questions for you:
1. Should I specifically address these issues at my semi-annual evaluation, and give them my plans for improvement? Or am I just sticking my foot in my mouth?
2. I am thinking of ways to improve on this, but welcome your suggestions
3. Are my chances as chief over? - I get that this depends on who else is in the running - but in general would you prioritize someone who gets along with staff/vocalizes less at resident meetings, if they are not as good at teaching/helping other residents/hardworking?
Thanks for your input.