Couples Advice for Which School to Commit To:

[throwthrowthrowaway]

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Sorry if this is the wrong thread. If so, please let me know. So my partner and I need help with which school to put by the April 30 Deadline, but here's the dilemma:

• SO #1 and SO #2 both interviewed at School A and School B
• SO #1 was WL'd at Schools A and B (will commit to School C in the meantime and probably won't hear from WL until after the deadline)
• SO #2 was accepted at School A and accepted at School B
  

What school should SO #2 commit to? We'd like to go to the same school, but it sucks that SO #2 might commit to the wrong school (assuming SO #1 gets 1 acceptance from the other school). Is there any way around this???



Hope this all makes sense and appreciate any advice!

 

[Ninefingers]

Would be helpful to know which schools

 

[Gilakend]

In your example there is absolutely no difference. The only information you gave was A and B and WL at both. There is no way to tell any difference.

Maybe giving more backstory/school names would help? But doubtful. A letter to each (or one) school explaining your situation would be my best idea.

 

[lalalallala]

1. contact schools A and B and let them know that SO #2 would really like to go but this is the situation and is there any way to know the likelihood of SO #1 getting off the waitlist so SO #2 can pick the acceptance that is most likely to help yall stay together - (don't just call the secretary - ask to speak to someone in admissions or write a letter) assuming they give no info then:

2. SO #2 should pick the school that they would most like to go to if SO #1 is at school C. So if school A is closer to school C then maybe pick that one. If school B is SO #2's dream then that's what they should pick

3. if schools A and B are identical in geography, fit, how much SO #2 likes them then: pick the school that SO #1 has the best chance to get in to - say school A accepts a lot of students off of the waitlist - say school A is lower ranked than school B - then have SO #2 pick school A

 

[throwthrowthrowaway]

Thanks for the responses everyone. I think we will try contacting the schools to get an idea on WL movement. Was just curious to see if there’s any way around picking a certain school come April 30. I also agree that we should assume the least favorable outcome (which would be attending School C) and having the other SO choose based on that. 🙂

 

[lalalallala]

Thanks for the responses everyone. I think we will try contacting the schools to get an idea on WL movement. Was just curious to see if there’s any way around picking a certain school come April 30. I also agree that we should assume the least favorable outcome (which would be attending School C) and having the other SO choose based on that. 🙂

Unfortunately I do not think there is any way around making a choice on April 30th. Pick based on as if one person was going to school C - but best of luck to yall and do update us how it turns out. if you want more help then perhaps share the specific schools on a x vs y thread