Dating in Med School for AAs

[faith2]

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Ohh......

Agreed! I don't quite know where this started to go wrong...

Well, that's a lie. I know exactly what happened, but I'm going to play nice

 

[TaylorMDhopeful]

Agreed! I don't quite know where this started to go wrong...

Well, that's a lie. I know exactly what happened, but I'm going to play nice

Yea, it has taken a little detour. So i'll pose a question. How many of you are going to actively pursue relationships when you get to medical school as opposed to just relaxing and letting things flow as they may?

Do you think it will be much harder finding someone at a PWI? Do you think a relationship will give you a stronger support in med school 🙂 or be something that will lead to issues and problems that will just make med school that much harder?🙁

 

[PinkIvy08]

Yea, it has taken a little detour. So i'll pose a question. How many of you are going to actively pursue relationships when you get to medical school as opposed to just relaxing and letting things flow as they may?

Do you think it will be much harder finding someone at a PWI? Do you think a relationship will give you a stronger support in med school 🙂 or be something that will lead to issues and problems that will just make med school that much harder?🙁

Ooo, good one!

Personally, I'm not one to actively pursue anything. I'll be in med school, so Goal 1 is to prepare to be the best physician I can possibly be. If I just so happen to find a man who piques my interest, then that's great. If not, it's certainly not the end of the world. I firmly believe that the man God has for me does not need to be chased down - our paths will nicely intersect at some point and it'll just happen 🙂

Now, if I wind up going to a PWI (which at this point looks to be the case - only applied to 1 HBCU and haven't heard a peep), then I'll probably be dating a non-URM for the first time! How exciting! I just think that with the low numbers of URMs at most institutions, I will more likely form a family with my other URMs, and then be likely to look at the guys as brothers, not potential boyfriends. Plus, I feel like I'll be thrown back into undergrad where there were about 5-6 URM females for every 1 URM male...not fun and not something I want to replay.

I think relationships are a two-edged sword. Yes they can be great and can provide a solid support network. However, they require so much time and energy, both of which are scarce in med school. Bleh. We shall see...

 

[faith2]

since I do not believe in God or waiting for him to hand me anything i will continue what I have been doing. Meeting men, getting to know them, and if it does not work move on. I would think if I was a believer in God with all the people sick,hungry and jobless his last priority would be to "send me a man". i am glad to be going to Medical school, but my number one priority is family. I can not have another child by sitting by and not trying to make something happen. I know alot of career women with great salaries, but they wish they had a family.

 

[ThingsHopedFor]

i like that question, and i like pinkivy's response. i think the same thing. at times i get restless of being "alone" but then i think about a possibly unhappy alternative. i know God has a plan for me, and i intend to be a part of that plan. i pray i'll be at a school with URM ...

when/if i do see a relationship in my future, it will need to be built on support--i mean, real talk, we'll have to be understanding of one another because this will be an important part of my life. i think he will be busy too. either way, i just think of this time as time to work on myself.

 

[mybubbles14]

Agreed! I don't quite know where this started to go wrong...

Well, that's a lie. I know exactly what happened, but I'm going to play nice

lol 🙄

Yea, it has taken a little detour. So i'll pose a question. How many of you are going to actively pursue relationships when you get to medical school as opposed to just relaxing and letting things flow as they may?

Do you think it will be much harder finding someone at a PWI? Do you think a relationship will give you a stronger support in med school 🙂 or be something that will lead to issues and problems that will just make med school that much harder?🙁

good questions...I've found that whenever you're actively looking it doesn't happen. I suppose it also depends if you're looking for someone who is also in medical school. I'm not opposed to the idea but I also will be in a large city, although who knows how much time I will actually have outside of the library. Coming from a PWI as you all call them 🙄 (not really going with the sarcastic tone I just like the face 🙂) I didn't find that it was difficult at all and the community was pretty close (slash segregated lol) but I know med school is an entirely different beast. I think starting a relationship as opposed to entering med school already in one poses its own additional challenges especially if your SO isn't in medical school and doesn't really have a great awareness of the life of a MS. However, I think if you want anything bad enough you should be able to find a way to make it work (as long as the 2 of you can find SOME kind of happy medium) and keep it fresh while still making sure you are on top of your studies. Having the support of someone you really care about is never a bad thing and has definitely gotten me through many rough times....hopefully I will be lucky enough to continue to have that in medical school.

I also think the fact that we won't be settled in a certain location for a long period of time when you consider residencies and potential fellowships is another hurdle to consider but that's obviously not something that will immediately affect most of us..

 

[faith2]

I thought I would never want to be in a serious relationship with someone that was a doctor since I have dated a few and their ego's were kinda out of control. The friendship I am developing is with someone who want to go to med school, and you are right it is easier because i do not have to explain the process. He has his own life and goals, so he is not looking to hang on to my coat tail. We will see what happens.

And yes I am detouring the conversation....Congrats Bubbles again on your acceptance. We are on our way girl.

lol 🙄



good questions...I've found that whenever you're actively looking it doesn't happen. I suppose it also depends if you're looking for someone who is also in medical school. I'm not opposed to the idea but I also will be in a large city, although who knows how much time I will actually have outside of the library. Coming from a PWI as you all call them 🙄 (not really going with the sarcastic tone I just like the face 🙂) I didn't find that it was difficult at all and the community was pretty close (slash segregated lol) but I know med school is an entirely different beast. I think starting a relationship as opposed to entering med school already in one poses its own additional challenges especially if your SO isn't in medical school and doesn't really have a great awareness of the life of a MS. However, I think if you want anything bad enough you should be able to find a way to make it work (as long as the 2 of you can find SOME kind of happy medium) and keep it fresh while still making sure you are on top of your studies. Having the support of someone you really care about is never a bad thing and has definitely gotten me through many rough times....hopefully I will be lucky enough to continue to have that in medical school.

I also think the fact that we won't be settled in a certain location for a long period of time when you consider residencies and potential fellowships is another hurdle to consider but that's obviously not something that will immediately affect most of us..

 

[faith2]

would anybody consider long distance relatiionship while in Med school

 

[islandprincess]

I'm currently in a LDR, he's a Marine stationed in San Diego and I'm at the NIH in DC. Its already hard but I fly out there once a month. In school I won't be able to do that. However, he is getting deployed soon so school will be a welcome distraction. If I get into UCLA I could see him more often but most likely I'll be on the east coast so we will still be long distance. Seeing as students don't have much time, a LDR might be better but LDRs thrive on communication, texting and phone calls for us, so i dont know how much time I will have for that in school. 🙁

would anybody consider long distance relatiionship while in Med school

 

[jvesco22]

would anybody consider long distance relatiionship while in Med school

It might be rare, but possible. One of my good friends went to med school out of the country. He and his girlfriend did the long distance thing for 4 years, seeing each other for a month at a time. He married her a few years after finishing med school.

It is possible, you just have to have an internal locust of self. Don't look at "statistics" and what not, control your own destiny.

Good luck if that's what you decide to do.

 

[faith2]

OMG they person i am considering is a NAVY man, but at least we are in the same state. Yes you are right school will be a distraction. Again we are just building our friendship but the attraction is mutual. I am just considering long term

I'm currently in a LDR, he's a Marine stationed in San Diego and I'm at the NIH in DC. Its already hard but I fly out there once a month. In school I won't be able to do that. However, he is getting deployed soon so school will be a welcome distraction. If I get into UCLA I could see him more often but most likely I'll be on the east coast so we will still be long distance. Seeing as students don't have much time, a LDR might be better but LDRs thrive on communication, texting and phone calls for us, so i dont know how much time I will have for that in school. 🙁

 

[islandprincess]

I think ppl in the military understand sacrifice and public service so in that respect it would be a good match.. However, military life does include moving around and sometimes deployments. Thankfully you can be a doctor almost anywhere but deployments suck because you already don't have much time together but months apart will be horrible. Just my take on it, I also have a lot to consider as I'm not sure I want to continue this relationship when I get into school.

OMG they person i am considering is a NAVY man, but at least we are in the same state. Yes you are right school will be a distraction. Again we are just building our friendship but the attraction is mutual. I am just considering long term

 

[faith2]

I am seriously considering joining the military that is one of the reasons I thought it will be a good match. I want to have a military life, and I think with all things considered I want a man who believes in our country and is serving as well. Why are you reconsidering your relationship?

I think ppl in the military understand sacrifice and public service so in that respect it would be a good match.. However, military life does include moving around and sometimes deployments. Thankfully you can be a doctor almost anywhere but deployments suck because you already don't have much time together but months apart will be horrible. Just my take on it, I also have a lot to consider as I'm not sure I want to continue this relationship when I get into school.

 

[PinkIvy08]

would anybody consider long distance relatiionship while in Med school

I don't know if I could do a LDR in med school (or period). But, I know this is stems from the fact that I need to be able to see and touch my SO regularly. Otherwise...it would be very difficult. That is unless it was LDR for a short period of time and we entered the long distance phase after being truly committed for a while. I do horribly keeping in touch with people as is if they're not in my local area. I know I'd be no better with a boyfriend. Especially under the time constraints and crazy schedules of med school.

I guess it could work if he were also a med student/doctor or in a profession that demanded a majority of his time. But, I'm still debating whether I'd prefer a fellow medical student/doctor who understands the demands or someone with a completely different career who will pull me back to reality from time-to-time.

Which leads me to another question for yall. Do you think you'd prefer to date/marry a fellow doctor or someone with a completely different career?

 

[TaylorMDhopeful]

I don't know if I could do a LDR in med school (or period). But, I know this is stems from the fact that I need to be able to see and touch my SO regularly. Otherwise...it would be very difficult. That is unless it was LDR for a short period of time and we entered the long distance phase after being truly committed for a while. I do horribly keeping in touch with people as is if they're not in my local area. I know I'd be no better with a boyfriend. Especially under the time constraints and crazy schedules of med school.

I guess it could work if he were also a med student/doctor or in a profession that demanded a majority of his time. But, I'm still debating whether I'd prefer a fellow medical student/doctor who understands the demands or someone with a completely different career who will pull me back to reality from time-to-time.

Which leads me to another question for yall. Do you think you'd prefer to date/marry a fellow doctor or someone with a completely different career?

+1.

More than about an hour or two away is too far for me in terms of a relationship but I would definitely rather have someone who is close. I think with the date/marry a doctor or someone in the medical profession, they would really understand what you are going through and probably be more receptive to your time constraints and other commitments. But with someone of a different field I think it sort of balances you out. I dunno if when I go home I would want to talk about my day as a doctor then have her talk about her day as a doctor/nurse/health professional, if that makes any sense. Maybe I would rather break the monotony and have someone in a different field that I can get to know or have someone who has opposite interests that you can learn more about and share in them. I think both ways have their benefits but im not sure at this point which one I would rather have.

 

[mybubbles14]

I don't know if I could do a LDR in med school (or period). But, I know this is stems from the fact that I need to be able to see and touch my SO regularly. Otherwise...it would be very difficult. That is unless it was LDR for a short period of time and we entered the long distance phase after being truly committed for a while. I do horribly keeping in touch with people as is if they're not in my local area. I know I'd be no better with a boyfriend. Especially under the time constraints and crazy schedules of med school.

I guess it could work if he were also a med student/doctor or in a profession that demanded a majority of his time. But, I'm still debating whether I'd prefer a fellow medical student/doctor who understands the demands or someone with a completely different career who will pull me back to reality from time-to-time.

Which leads me to another question for yall. Do you think you'd prefer to date/marry a fellow doctor or someone with a completely different career?

I agree with most of what you said Pink and I can tell you first hand LDR are hard and suck at times (many times). I'm not a firm believer in them but I think they can only work if you have a strong enough foundation...but sometimes its something that is unavoidable if you think you are with the person that you strongly believe you want to spend the rest of your life wit etc.. I definitely would not consider starting one, but if I was already in a relationship and went to med school in a different location that is something that you can't immediately change (at least until M3 if you're lucky and are that committed). I would at least try my hardest to make things work. I don't think I have a preference necessarily on their career....I wouldn't mind being with someone who had similar aspirations/interests and now that I think about it everyone that I have dated has 🙄.... however I agree w/ TaylorMD as well. It would be nice to have a balance...

 

[AlexxusMichelle]

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[faith2]

I feel you somethings just deserve that reaction. LOL😍😍[



QUOTE=AlexxusMichelle;8891981]"Ohh..." is the best choice of words for me at the moment, too.

Back to lurking, Alexxus.................................😕[/QUOTE]

 

[faith2]

I came to a realization.....Someone told me that now that I am going to be a doctor I would marry a "white" man. I will be on CNN because he ( who also is a doctor) and I would have made some medical break through. I laughed and put his idea in my ignorance box. Fast forwarding to now...Is it that ignorant? I have been asked out by men of other races and I always politely declined.... until Sunday. I have known him for awhile through the gym, but never considered anything except a gym relationship. This weekend has been a trying weekend, and him asking me out was a highlight....so I am going. What does this mean? I do not know....but it seems as though my faith in black men is being questioned, and I will be a lonely old black militant if I continue waiting for them. Wow if my "homies " could see me now LOL

 

[MsKrispyKreme]

*sigh*

I wish people wouldn't lump Black men, Black women, White men, Purple Hermaphrodites, Latino elephants, Green aliens, etc. into categories. We are all different and as such should not be stereotyped. Date whomever you would like, but don't come here with some ghetto ignorance about a specific demographic. There are plenty of power couples (a la the Cosbys) in the Black community just as there are a sizeable portion of interracial couples.

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If you are a single mom/dad and plan to enter medical school, the last thing on your mind should be trying to date. Med students without children struggle to find time to manage relationships so you are really doing your child a disservice if getting a boyfriend is your secondary focus rather than him/her. Free time should be spent with your child.

The people in my class with relationship problems are the ones who are flunking out.

 

[faith2]

If it offends you so much why comment/ I have some wishes as well.....( but due to manners i will not express them) Oh and by the way as a single mom I work full time, while in grad school I graduated with 3.92( which if you do the calculations is one 3 credit B) studied for and took my MCAT, go to the gym volunteered, interviewed for schools etc etc.. it is called multitasking... if you can not do it that is fine but me on the other hand I can. Oh and I know holier than thou medical students that do not have a man or a child and still have flunked out, or has had difficulty passing exams. I am sorry the failing students at your school are the ones in relationships....but that is not the case for all students. Oops sounds like you are stereotyping......

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I am thinking about dating because all of my other goals that has been set for this year has been accomplished. Thank You for your concern again Ms. Krispy Kreme I was allowed to comment on two of your advices in one day.

*sigh*

I wish people wouldn't lump Black men, Black women, White men, Purple Hermaphrodites, Latino elephants, Green aliens, etc. into categories. We are all different and as such should not be stereotyped. Date whomever you would like, but don't come here with some ghetto ignorance about a specific demographic. There are plenty of power couples (a la the Cosbys) in the Black community just as there are a sizeable portion of interracial couples.

Note:
If you are a single mom/dad and plan to enter medical school, the last thing on your mind should be trying to date. Med students without children struggle to find time to manage relationships so you are really doing your child a disservice if getting a boyfriend is your secondary focus rather than him/her. Free time should be spent with your child.

The people in my class with relationship problems are the ones who are flunking out.

 

[2014wanted]

If it offends you so much why comment/ I have some wishes as well.....( but due to manners i will not express them) Oh and by the way as a single mom I work full time, while in grad school I graduated with 3.92( which if you do the calculations is one 3 credit B) studied for and took my MCAT, go to the gym volunteered, interviewed for schools etc etc.. it is called multitasking... if you can not do it that is fine but me on the other hand I can. Oh and I know holier than thou medical students that do not have a man or a child and still have flunked out, or has had difficulty passing exams. I am sorry the failing students at your school are the ones in relationships....but that is not the case for all students. Oops sounds like you are stereotyping......

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I am thinking about dating because all of my other goals that has been set for this year has been accomplished. Thank You for your concern again Ms. Krispy Kreme I was allowed to comment on two of your advices in one day.

-You go girl! You sure told her!

 

[PunkmedGirl]

Note:
If you are a single mom/dad and plan to enter medical school, the last thing on your mind should be trying to date. Med students without children struggle to find time to manage relationships so you are really doing your child a disservice if getting a boyfriend is your secondary focus rather than him/her. Free time should be spent with your child.

The people in my class with relationship problems are the ones who are flunking out.

What's the difference between a married student with kids and a single parent who is dating? Whether your married with kids or single with kids and dating, you still have to shell out some quality time for everyone including yourself. I hear all the time how married students are able to spend time with their SO and kids and still maintain good or passing grades in school. I don't see it being any more difficult for single parents to pull off the same thing.. Yes, it will be hard and sacrifices will be made but its definately not an impossible task to do.

 

[TaylorMDhopeful]

What's the difference between a married student with kids and a single parent who is dating? Whether your married with kids or single with kids and dating, you still have to shell out some quality time for everyone including yourself. I hear all the time how married students are able to spend time with their SO and kids and still maintain good or passing grades in school. I don't see it being any more difficult for single parents to pull off the same thing.. Yes, it will be hard and sacrifices will be made but its definately not an impossible task to do.

I think it will be a little more difficult for a single parent to do it, not impossible, but more difficult because they don't have a SO to help with the care of their child/children. It will be a challenge for anyone, I believe, to find someone in medical school and commit time and energy to nurturing a new relationship. I just think of it as a part of growth, part of life. There will be struggles but God will not give you nothing that you cannot handle. If you want to look for someone while pursuing a career in medicine, then it is up to you. You should know the challenges of doing so but also know that the results can be great if you find a future husband/wife/partner/friend. Just know what you are getting yourself into and stay as focused on your main goal as you possible can bc it wont be a cakewalk.

P.S. Let's not get to testy about this. We are all here to talk about issues and everyone's opinion is welcome.

 

[voitokas]

I came to a realization.....Someone told me that now that I am going to be a doctor I would marry a "white" man. I will be on CNN because he ( who also is a doctor) and I would have made some medical break through. I laughed and put his idea in my ignorance box. Fast forwarding to now...Is it that ignorant? I have been asked out by men of other races and I always politely declined.... until Sunday. I have known him for awhile through the gym, but never considered anything except a gym relationship. This weekend has been a trying weekend, and him asking me out was a highlight....so I am going. What does this mean? I do not know....but it seems as though my faith in black men is being questioned, and I will be a lonely old black militant if I continue waiting for them. Wow if my "homies " could see me now LOL

It can be difficult to break out of the exclusionary mindsets in which we were raised - one's friends and family can be very harsh in their off-the-cuff judgements of an interracial relationship. But if you find the right person and you are happy, the people that matter always come around to accepting you again. 🙂

 

[PunkmedGirl]

I think it will be a little more difficult for a single parent to do it, not impossible, but more difficult because they don't have a SO to help with the care of their child/children. It will be a challenge for anyone, I believe, to find someone in medical school and commit time and energy to nurturing a new relationship. I just think of it as a part of growth, part of life. There will be struggles but God will not give you nothing that you cannot handle. If you want to look for someone while pursuing a career in medicine, then it is up to you. You should know the challenges of doing so but also know that the results can be great if you find a future husband/wife/partner/friend. Just know what you are getting yourself into and stay as focused on your main goal as you possible can bc it wont be a cakewalk.

P.S. Let's not get to testy about this. We are all here to talk about issues and everyone's opinion is welcome.

I agree. I just wanted to make the point that being a single parent doesn't mean that you have to give up having a normal love/dating life. Yes, it will be hard but nothing worth having in life is ever easy. I also think that a lot of people underestimate the time and energy needed to keep a marriage afloat which is by no means easy. Personally, I don't think I will be dating in medical school if I'm still single by the time I start.

 

[faith2]

I can not imagine my whole 4 years not dating it would be lonely. especially since I want to go on the carribean cruise after my step one boards LOL. I just want to try and be more well rounded as a mother, doctor, and a woman. I am accomplishing so much in my life except my love life, and I want to get that together as well.

I agree. I just wanted to make the point that being a single parent doesn't mean that you have to give up having a normal love/dating life. Yes, it will be hard but nothing worth having in life is ever easy. I also think that a lot of people underestimate the time and energy needed to keep a marriage afloat which is by no means easy. Personally, I don't think I will be dating in medical school if I'm still single by the time I start.

 

[njbmd]

Medicine does not demand that you enter the convent/monastery. You can make time for anything that you deem worthy of your time. My fiance lived with me during my medical school years. I likely saw as much of him as my friends with long-distance relationships saw of their SOs.

I chose to study away from home and away from my medical school. I did most of my studying at libraray at USUHS which was located in Bethesda ( a few miles away from my home medical school) because I had fewer interruptions and everything that I needed for study there.

During third and fourth year (other than on my away rotations) we saw more of each other because my hours were a bit more regular. In any event, there is only so much "together time" that I can stand with any other person including the man that I love. Basically, I am a solitary soul who values my alone/quiet time to refuel and relax. He is much the same which is why we are still with each other after nearly 15 years.

I had plenty to do in medical school to keep myself from being the least bit bored or lonely. Things just worked out that way. Through residency and fellowship, we loved my hours because we could plan our "together time" and make it count. Today, we have more time together (dinner and most nights) but occasionally, there can be days were I don't see him (I am on weekend call and in house at the hospital).

 

[AlexxusMichelle]

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[PunkmedGirl]

I can not imagine my whole 4 years not dating it would be lonely. especially since I want to go on the carribean cruise after my step one boards LOL. I just want to try and be more well rounded as a mother, doctor, and a woman. I am accomplishing so much in my life except my love life, and I want to get that together as well.

And there's definitely nothing wrong with you dating in medical school, but for me I'm on a self discovery kick right now and not interested in being in a relationship. NOw, if God sends someone my way, then I might break down and get some act-right. 🙂

 

[AlexxusMichelle]

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[PunkmedGirl]

@ act right... i havent heard that in a while... too funny. Im feeling you on the self discovery part. Im still bleeding from that last break up but im getting better. And im feeling ME right now too... im still boy crazy as ever though... love to look! im just waaay more hesitant to touch...

I think you just described me to a tee. LOL

 

[faith2]

Yea self reflection is good.... I had to have it after my marriage went south......today is thanksgiving and i am watching my daughter eat and play. I love my life and I love reading the things that was said. Life is good. happy Thanksgiving. i am thankful that my biggest problem now is that i am alone and ....things could be worse...Thank you you'll for making me smile.

 

[AB Brown]

This thread is funny to me cause this is an issue (aside from actually getting into Med school, of course) that I've really been thinking about. I went to an HBCU down south and ended up meeting a girl there that I kinda fell for😍. After we graduated she went to school in DC (where she is now) and I went back to the West Coast. Lately we've been talking and texting on a semi regular basis (I'm not gonna lie and say we're in full on dating mode 'cause the 3000+ miles between us kind of prevents that) and now its like I really want to go to school in DC. I don't know if it's the right choice or what, but its like I said I kinda fell for her🙄. So I know how a lot of y'all feel.

 

[AlexxusMichelle]

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[faith2]

Girl I am a sucker for love too. I wonder how many of us are left in the world? I wish I had it in me to date 50 guys at once, it would lead to less heartache. I do not have the time or energy for that. I am really falling for someone, and it is confusing. As for the one that hurt you he will realize his lost and come crawling back...they always do, mines is crawling and begging and I have no interest whatsoever. LOL

aww this soooo cute... I would say make DC one of your choices and apply wherever else you wanna go... I wouldnt just make my only choice DC... have you guys talked about if you would be together if you were closer to eachother? I got burned from a LD relationship.. so until i finish "rehab" from the last one... I dont think Ill do a LD for a while... but i will say this... im a sucker for love and if i thought the person was the one or could be one of the ones.. then i would go for it...Im sooo happy you found someone... congrats 😍

 

[AlexxusMichelle]

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[PunkmedGirl]

ALOT of us... i think its human nature... i know dating alot would lessen heartbreak...

LOL... he already did.... and i put him in the "less fortunate" bucket and moved on...

SELF... i love u sooo much...

Uhmmmmmm I love Me some ME!!!!!!!!!!!!! Lol...Now I need a pedicure.😀

 

[faith2]

Yeah two people I love the most: me and my daughter....I died the hair to my blond, cut it shorter, and I am getting my relaxer on friday. I am going out this weekend and enjoy myself....😍😍

 

[PunkmedGirl]

Yeah two people I love the most: me and my daughter....I died the hair to my blond, cut it shorter, and I am getting my relaxer on friday. I am going out this weekend and enjoy myself....😍😍

I should also correct my statement...I love me some ME and My Journey LOl...but then again that goes without saying.😀


BOOOOO relaxer!!!!!!!...Why put that chemical fire in your hair!!!!!!!😀

I will probably get flamed for this LOL.

 

[faith2]

LOL girl I did the natural afro, weave, braids, dreads...now I like the short cut. I love trying differnt looks. When I first moved to MIA it was natural, but the humidity out here is OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!😍

I should also correct my statement...I love me some ME and My Journey LOl...but then again that goes without saying.😀


BOOOOO relaxer!!!!!!!...Why put that chemical fire in your hair!!!!!!!😀

I will probably get flamed for this LOL.

 

[PunkmedGirl]

LOL girl I did the natural afro, weave, braids, dreads...now I like the short cut. I love trying differnt looks. When I first moved to MIA it was natural, but the humidity out here is OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!😍

I hear ya. I'm natural 4 Life. LOL

 

[JaySmoove]

My girlfriend of 4 years is natural. She has a huge afro. Its pretty hot!!!

 

[faith2]

Maybe if I kept my dreads my marriage would have worked......LOL

My girlfriend of 4 years is natural. She has a huge afro. Its pretty hot!!!

 

[AlexxusMichelle]

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[faith2]

LMAO that is the most of hilarious thing ive heard on here... i think all kinds of hair is cute though... but i get the perm thing and i get the natural hair thing too....

too BLONDE? like platty blonde? wooow lol.... hope you get a chance 2 fix it.... some chics can really rock the blonde.

I been thinking natural for a while.... but for now im texlaxed and im cool with that but the FL humidity is a BEAST...


OMG i met this guy!!!! I dont know abut him though... he is 23.... Errr umm ima see what he talks about.😍

~Alexxus

No my hair is honey blonde. I had to dye it black and grow it out for interviews, but once i got accepted in celebration I had to go back to what i call my "ghetto" blond LOL

But more importantly you met someone.......Is he a papi?I know how you feel about them.....I am happy for you girl, hopefully at least you can try and go out over the winter break. I have no new news about this dude because he is studying and is very busy and he does not live in MIA.......

 

[Jolt21]

i'm biracial (50% italian, 50% haitian), and have yet to date an AA woman. i've tried, but everytime i think i'm making progress, it fails. after my last relationship, i vowed to give it one more shot in med school. However, i fear that since i'd go to Mayo out of all the places i've been accepted thus far, it's probably as tough there as it is here in NH. Hopefully i can make the trip out to Minneapolis once in a while and meet someone.

 

[PinkIvy08]

i'm biracial (50% italian, 50% haitian), and have yet to date an AA woman. i've tried, but everytime i think i'm making progress, it fails. after my last relationship, i vowed to give it one more shot in med school. However, i fear that since i'd go to Mayo out of all the places i've been accepted thus far, it's probably as tough there as it is here in NH. Hopefully i can make the trip out to Minneapolis once in a while and meet someone.

Hmm...I'm 100% "regular Black" and yet I feel the exact same way about AA men! Interesting... (on a slight aside, the geographic locations you are picking aren't the best for having a large population of AA women to draw from )

I think there is a fundamental problem in the "Black community" (I haven't seen it be an issue in the Latino community) with base communication between men and women. With false expectations and just flat out lies infecting these interactions. I hope that the population of URMs that make it thru to med/dent/vet/pharm school have less time to b.s. than my peers in undergrad. I swear, that right there would solve many problems.

Personally, I don't want to write AA men off, but I am more than open to someone outside my own race than ever before. This interest grows each and every day...

 

[Jolt21]

Hmm...I'm 100% "regular Black" and yet I feel the exact same way about AA men! Interesting... (on a slight aside, the geographic locations you are picking aren't the best for having a large population of AA women to draw from )

I think there is a fundamental problem in the "Black community" (I haven't seen it be an issue in the Latino community) with base communication between men and women. With false expectations and just flat out lies infecting these interactions. I hope that the population of URMs that make it thru to med/dent/vet/pharm school have less time to b.s. than my peers in undergrad. I swear, that right there would solve many problems.

Personally, I don't want to write AA men off, but I am more than open to someone outside my own race than ever before. This interest grows each and every day...

yea, originally from South Flo. and Queens, NY...when i go back to any to those places, i ask myself why.

i am kinda the opposite. everyday i'm not with a URM, i want one even more.

 

[PinkIvy08]

yea, originally from South Flo. and Queens, NY...when i go back to any to those places, i ask myself why.

i am kinda the opposite. everyday i'm not with a URM, i want one even more.

Ha. I honestly don't know where I stand. My interest and faith in a URM relationship wanes daily. Right now, it's clear where I'm at, but tomorrow I could be head-over-heels for an AA man! Who knows...it's love/hate, with more emphasis on the love. I'm keeping some hope for med school though...some. Eh, for things like dating I don't like to make plans. I prefer to just live and see what happens 🙂

Oh, and Happy Founders' Day Pham! Yall getting kinda old 😉