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Haha Glad I could do that...But I think you need to get some hobbies to make your day more entertainingJust made my day lol
Haha Glad I could do that...But I think you need to get some hobbies to make your day more entertainingJust made my day lol
Haha Glad I could do that...But I think you need to get some hobbies to make your day more entertaining
Thank you thank you!Fun is important, especially in times of stress! Congratualtions by the way!
Being played, strung along, or rejected. I had a few disappointing experiences with dating online. Not all of them but a few were really crushing.
Noted! Now that application cycle has wind down entertainment for me is stressing out about where I will be in the next 4 months.
Noted! Now that application cycle has wind down entertainment for me is stressing out about where I will be in the next 4 months.
How difficult is this especially for Black women? What do people do? Any stories or advice about being Black and dating during med school? I've heard that at some med schools, none of the Black students will date because it is like dating someone in your family which I don't get. Is that the general case? What about at HBCUs? I appreciate any opinion on this!
Thanks for sharing.
The "dating difficulty" of being a black female in medical school honestly depends on the location of your medical school. If dating is really important to you, I'd suggest trying to get into a medical school in a diverse state/town/city. Alternatively, if you end up attending medical school in the middle of the country, you have to be open to online dating. This is what I can say about your question.
(1) If you are adamant about dating an educated black man, you NEED to be in an environment where there are educated black men around (e.g. Atlanta, DC etc). Remember, this will NOT be the case if you go to school a state where the population of minorities is already really low to begin with (e.g. Montana, some Midwestern states etc). Otherwise, you may need to sign up for Eharmony, Match, OKCupid, BlackPeopleMeet etc to find your educated black man. You will probably find yourself in a long distance online relationship if you go this route.
(2) If race is not an issue, the environment will impact your dating life. Are you in a state where inter-racial couples are the norm? If so, you will have no problem meeting people when you go out. However, if you are in a state where inter-racial couples are non-existent, then you will face some difficulties. I, unfortunately, go to school in the latter state. There have been classmates who are obviously attracted me (men can be really obvious when they like a girl ) Unfortunately, they afraid to approach me because they are worried about what people will think. They will flirt on Facebook & other social media but act like they do not know you in public.The first time this dawned on me, I was really hurt. It's painful to see your classmates pairing off while you are left out in the cold. This happened many times to me so I am numb to the pain at this point.
Solution? Online dating may be the way to go for a black female in medicine. Feel free to agree or disagree with me. I am curious to hear other people's experiences.
The "dating difficulty" of being a black female in medical school honestly depends on the location of your medical school. If dating is really important to you, I'd suggest trying to get into a medical school in a diverse state/town/city. Alternatively, if you end up attending medical school in the middle of the country, you have to be open to online dating. This is what I can say about your question.
(1) If you are adamant about dating an educated black man, you NEED to be in an environment where there are educated black men around (e.g. Atlanta, DC etc). Remember, this will NOT be the case if you go to school a state where the population of minorities is already really low to begin with (e.g. Montana, some Midwestern states etc). Otherwise, you may need to sign up for Eharmony, Match, OKCupid, BlackPeopleMeet etc to find your educated black man. You will probably find yourself in a long distance online relationship if you go this route.
(2) If race is not an issue, the environment will impact your dating life. Are you in a state where inter-racial couples are the norm? If so, you will have no problem meeting people when you go out. However, if you are in a state where inter-racial couples are non-existent, then you will face some difficulties. I, unfortunately, go to school in the latter state. There have been classmates who are obviously attracted me (men can be really obvious when they like a girl ) Unfortunately, they afraid to approach me because they are worried about what people will think. They will flirt on Facebook & other social media but act like they do not know you in public.The first time this dawned on me, I was really hurt. It's painful to see your classmates pairing off while you are left out in the cold. This happened many times to me so I am numb to the pain at this point.
Solution? Online dating may be the way to go for a black female in medicine. Feel free to agree or disagree with me. I am curious to hear other people's experiences.
I am a black male who goes to a medical school in NYC. Our class is in the 130 range. It has been nearly 3 months and I have been unable to find anyone. I am pretty quiet and I stick to myself. I have made a handful of friends on campus; I study by myself and don't socialize with my classmates. I find this is the best way to conserve the limited time you have to soak in the material. I would try to date the black girls on campus but am scared of the likely rejection and making any girl feel uncomfortable around me. I live in Harlem, thus, surrounded by black people all day, everyday. I have been trying like crazy to find someone off campus using dating sites, but I have had no luck. I am 24, yet have never had any type of relationship with the opposite sex. The most has been 3 dates with a girl I met off POF. This is making me feel terrible because I am in the prime of my life yet I can't do something that is routine for others.
I think a lot of the concern black females have is do to the fact that they never approach men. If you were to approach when you were interested in somebody, many of you wouldn't be alone. It drives me crazy when a girl tells me that she can't find a guy when she refuses to approach someone because she is afraid people will say she is "thirsty".
For the record, I am 6'0", 220 or so pounds, well spoken and in really good shape (gym everyday).
I am a black male who goes to a medical school in NYC. Our class is in the 130 range. It has been nearly 3 months and I have been unable to find anyone. I am pretty quiet and I stick to myself. I have made a handful of friends on campus; I study by myself and don't socialize with my classmates. I find this is the best way to conserve the limited time you have to soak in the material. I would try to date the black girls on campus but am scared of the likely rejection and making any girl feel uncomfortable around me. I live in Harlem, thus, surrounded by black people all day, everyday. I have been trying like crazy to find someone off campus using dating sites, but I have had no luck. I am 24, yet have never had any type of relationship with the opposite sex. This is making me feel terrible because I am in the prime of my life yet I can't do something that is routine for others. Ideally, I could approach a girl in my class and ask for some type of casual sexual relationship, but the odds of failure and magnitude of that failure make it a particularly harrowing ordeal.
I think a lot of the concern black females have is do to the fact that they never approach men. If you were to approach when you were interested in somebody, many of you wouldn't be alone. It drives me crazy when a girl tells me that she can't find a guy when she refuses to approach someone because she is afraid people will say she is "thirsty".
For the record, I am 6'0", 220 or so pounds, well spoken and in great shape (gym everyday).
I am a black male who goes to a medical school in NYC. Our class is in the 130 range. It has been nearly 3 months and I have been unable to find anyone. I am pretty quiet and I stick to myself. I have made a handful of friends on campus; I study by myself and don't socialize with my classmates. I find this is the best way to conserve the limited time you have to soak in the material. I would try to date the black girls on campus but am scared of the likely rejection and making any girl feel uncomfortable around me. I live in Harlem, thus, surrounded by black people all day, everyday. I have been trying like crazy to find someone off campus using dating sites, but I have had no luck. I am 24, yet have never had any type of relationship with the opposite sex. This is making me feel terrible because I am in the prime of my life yet I can't do something that is routine for others. Ideally, I could approach a girl in my class and ask for some type of casual sexual relationship, but the odds of failure and magnitude of that failure make it a particularly harrowing ordeal.
I think a lot of the concern black females have is do to the fact that they never approach men. If you were to approach when you were interested in somebody, many of you wouldn't be alone. It drives me crazy when a girl tells me that she can't find a guy when she refuses to approach someone because she is afraid people will say she is "thirsty".
For the record, I am 6'0", 220 or so pounds, well spoken and in great shape (gym everyday).
That's not my nameNabongo!! It is your name that is chasing them away . I wouldn't want to date a woman named "Nabongo"
I am totally kidding around and hope you can forgive me
Good for you.
Most of my white friends said AA women have great issues with anger management. On the other hand, they love black women from Africa. Ask me!!!! In fact this is a white dude thought: women from Africa are caring; they have determination; they are hard workers, great coccinera, and very respectful.
LOL. In this black male's case, I'm not afraid of addressing this topic, but I do want to try to steer as clear from my laptop as I possibly can. I use the dang thing for studying and class (which is always no less than 12hrs/day) so I'm quite sick of it! But I'll stomach it for a little personal disclosure at this point .
I've been in a serious relationship with a woman who is not black since freshman year of college. I haven't really dated around, and I dont plan on letting her go for someone else, so...oh well lol. In high school (I dont actually believe im going there) I did ask out black girls, as I did all other kinds of girls. I guess I just never really saw color, just who was interesting to me. I couldn't really tell you whether or not I got a lot of love from black women, since my dating life didn't really last long by any means .
In the end, you really have to look at a persons situation, since everyone has their reasons. If a black man says "I wont date black women because of...(insert here, attitude, looks, other women are more attractive etc)", then thats just not right. If it just happens that he ends up with a woman of another race, then thats quite a bit different, there shouldnt be anything wrong with that.
My response to any black woman that comes at me with the question of "why arent you dating a black woman?" I'll respond with two questions. First, "Are you looking to be with me specifically?" and secondly, "Are you trying to raise muslim children?" If the answer to both aren't yes, I'm not tryin to hear that anger.
In the end, race is nothing but skin color. There's more genetic diversity between African tribes than all the "races" compared to each other. Think about that for a minute...
There is no way I could date someone in my class, come to think of it. There are very few women in my class that I could see spending that much time with...at least at surface level. To me, its better to be with someone on the outside and involve them in what you are learning and doing. Its so much better to have a non-med student opinion on thing. When youre talking about medicine all day everyday, its nice to talk to someone not involved in the same stuff youre doing, so you can actually talk about what you both did today, individually. If youre in the same class, you already know what's going on, at least in the pre-clinical years. FWIW, I'm very glad my sweetie is not in med school .