Dating patients

[You]

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There are times where patients find dentist and or their staffs hot and wants to date them. I know during my high school years, I had a crush on one of my earlier dentists. Something about her eyes just mesmerize me while she worked on my mouth and I think she knows it too. lol. I know a friend who wants to date or marry her dentist badly...she drops so many hints on him that she wonders if he's resiting or just rejecting her. I guess it's normal since we're all human. Some day, I'm sure you'll have invitations, temptations, or something similar, how will you react? Have you experience this in your dental field yet? Just curious, what's your take on this? Any stories to share? I imagine most of everyone response is to not mix business with pleasures.

 

[Mustt Mustt]

There are times where patients find dentist and or their staffs hot and wants to date them. I know during my high school years, I had a crush on one of my earlier dentists. Something about her eyes just mesmerize me while she worked on my mouth and I think she knows it too. lol. I know a friend who wants to date or marry her dentist badly...she drops so many hints on him that she wonders if he's resiting or just rejecting her. I guess it's normal since we're all human. Some day, I'm sure you'll have invitations, temptations, or something similar, how will you react? Have you experience this in your dental field yet? Just curious, what's your take on this? Any stories to share? I imagine most of everyone response is to not mix business with pleasures.

DON'T DO IT. AGAIN DON'T DO IT.

 

[da8s0859q]

DON'T DO IT. AGAIN DON'T DO IT.

+1

 

[HuyetKiem]

. Some day, I'm sure you'll have invitations, temptations, or something similar, how will you react? Have you experience this in your dental field yet? Just curious, what's your take on this? Any stories to share? I imagine most of everyone response is to not mix business with pleasures.

It's against the law. The state dental board will hunt you down and revoke your license. 😳 😳

 

[scalpel2008]

tell her to find another dentist...then have at it.

 

[deerhunter]

hmm, yeah i agree don't do it; all sorts of bad things could happen. However, new question: If you are a single dentist, you'll obviously want to date at some point in time. Is it a requirement that any person you date not become a patient of yours? Similarly, if you meet someone as a patient in your practice, are they totally disqualified as a potential date?

 

[Tooth]

Gold diggers love dentists. You should get married before you finish dental school.

 

[capisce?]

Gold diggers love dentists. You should get married before you finish dental school.

Have you ever wondered why so many dentists end up ending marriages by sleeping with their hygienists or assistants? It's not because all of us are models, it's because they want in on the lifestyle.

Stay away.

 

[Avrelian]

It's against the law. The state dental board will hunt you down and revoke your license. 😳 😳

I'd say, don't do it! Till she pays it all. And then go for it!
Or this is against the law as well?

 

[HuyetKiem]

I'd say, don't do it! Till she pays it all. And then go for it!
Or this is against the law as well?

In Texas, you must discontinue your doctor-patient-relationship for at least 2 years. I don't know about other states though.

 

[Avrelian]

In Texas, you must discontinue your doctor-patient-relationship for at least 2 years. I don't know about other states though.

This is ridiculous. 2 years? Poor texans.

 

[1992Corolla]

If you can't get game unless you screen your patients....

With that said, never date anyone in or related to your practice. Too much to worry about. I would even stay away from my hygienists cousin, even if it was eva longoria. (simple solution, fire the hygienist and go out with cousin).

But I am married and don't have to worry about it.

I have also heard of storis where a dentist is going to interview someone and she comes to he office later when all the staff have left. The dentist lets her in and she demands money or she will sue for seual harassment.
It happens, don't mess with an open can of anything.

 

[I'mFillingFine]

If you can't get game unless you screen your patients....

With that said, never date anyone in or related to your practice. Too much to worry about. I would even stay away from my hygienists cousin, even if it was eva longoria. (simple solution, fire the hygienist and go out with cousin).

But I am married and don't have to worry about it.

I have also heard of storis where a dentist is going to interview someone and she comes to he office later when all the staff have left. The dentist lets her in and she demands money or she will sue for seual harassment.
It happens, don't mess with an open can of anything.

Same with patients...I've heard to always bring an assistant for weekend emergencies, if you can (even if it's a family member.) Patients can always claim they were harrassed, or harrass the dentist themselves.

I guess Texas is a tad more strict, but I imagine that if you release the patient and then ask him/her out in a purely non-work setting (don't even meet at the office), I don't see how that could be wrong. Maybe give 2-3 hours after you release at least 🙄 .

Isn't it odd that it's fine to treat a boyfriend/girlfriend, but you need to release the person FIRST, then wait, then you can treat him/her again?

haha...what we do for professional ethics! 👍

 

[dentalman]

That is a good point. ALWAYS have an assistant in the room. ALWAYS.

 

[ElDienteLoco]

I don't know...I married the hygienist from the office where I was assisting. Seemed to work fine.

I don't think you should pick up on your patients or reciprocate any advances, but not treating your girlfriend? C'mon. Like you're gonna tell her she really should go to the butcher down the road who will want to charge her full price for something you can do for the cost of materials and overhead? I'm not buying it.

 

[You]

tell her to find another dentist...then have at it.

Funny thing is she did find another dentist BUT she sounded mad at him for not answering her dropping tons of hints even though he's single as if he was rejecting her. LOL! She said she can tell from her woman instinct that he likes her alot but resisting to move forward. Probably he's afraid like what others been saying about "Don't do it" and not know what to do.

 

[You]

It's against the law. The state dental board will hunt you down and revoke your license. 😳 😳

State or nationally?

 

[You]

tell her to find another dentist...then have at it.

I guess this is the best solution if you are still single by then.

But a woman probably takes it as a rejection...

 

[You]

Same with patients...I've heard to always bring an assistant for weekend emergencies, if you can (even if it's a family member.) Patients can always claim they were harrassed, or harrass the dentist themselves.

Great idea! In addition, I was thinking of having monitoring cameras in all treatment rooms at all times and disclaim it in noticeable signs to cover my butt.

Sexual Harassment...scary thoughts. Hopefully I'm married by then so I can plaster the room with wife and kids pic so no women try crazy frival lawsuit.

 

[You]

(simple solution, fire the hygienist and go out with cousin).

LOL. That's wacked! Poor hygienist.

This reminds me of my previous company. The company was started by the wife and husband. At first they were hiring a good looking girl for the receptionist...but soon later was causing too much distraction to most other men at the office, so the wife (President) fires the receptionist and replace her with an OLD LADY...since then no more guys doing out-of-ordinary things (including her husband) at the office.

But I am married and don't have to worry about it.

I have also heard of storis where a dentist is going to interview someone and she comes to he office later when all the staff have left. The dentist lets her in and she demands money or she will sue for seual harassment.
It happens, don't mess with an open can of anything.

Did he ever get an invitation from the Jerry Springer show?

 

[DrJeff]

Date a patient, never, never, never!!! Bad idea, bad idea, bad idea!!!

Sometimes though patients, when their in your chair, with their mouths open and your fingers in their mouths are in some what of a vunerable situation, and many times they may misconsture what is small, friendly talk as an advance. Afterall, some of what we do in this profession is psychological in nature, and as a restorative dentist, the patient that likes you/feels comfortable around you is more likely to be a "good" patient.

So what may get looked on by the patient as flirting by the dentist may actually be in the dentists mibnd casual small talk and vice versa

 

[aggie-master]

I think the best solution is to get married before becoming a dentist and to only have affairs at conventions and when taking continuing education courses.

😉

 

[I'mFillingFine]

I think the best solution is to get married before becoming a dentist and to only have affairs at conventions and when taking continuing education courses.

😉

👍 👍

 

[You]

Date a patient, never, never, never!!! Bad idea, bad idea, bad idea!!!

Sometimes though patients, when their in your chair, with their mouths open and your fingers in their mouths are in some what of a vunerable situation, and many times they may misconsture what is small, friendly talk as an advance. Afterall, some of what we do in this profession is psychological in nature, and as a restorative dentist, the patient that likes you/feels comfortable around you is more likely to be a "good" patient.

So what may get looked on by the patient as flirting by the dentist may actually be in the dentists mibnd casual small talk and vice versa

How often does this happen to you?

 

[You]

I think the best solution is to get married before becoming a dentist and to only have affairs at conventions and when taking continuing education courses.

😉

Whatever happens in Vegas stays in Vegas?

 

[alexlist]

Find those Las Vegas dentists here 🙂

 

[da8s0859q]

Find those Las Vegas dentists here 🙂

Lame. 🙄

 

[groundhog]

All good advice.

There was an actual study done a few years back which concluded that male dentists attract more gold diggers in proportion to their numbers than do males in other high paying health care professions. Either that, or male dentists were found to be more susceptible to the wiles of gold diggers (I can't remeber which). Anyway, the end result was often financial disaster for the male dentists who fell prey.

The issue falls into the basic category of "office romance" which is an area that human resource professionals advise their constituents to either avoid or approach with great caution.

As an aside, if I were a male gold digger with no morals, I think I would go after female pathologists. Then again maybe not. They might have the best knowledge on how to poison a person without leaving tracks that death was other than by natural causes.

 

[groundhog]

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[ProHeartBreaker]

Great post! I'll be watching my back for these things....

 

[Shunwei]

There are times where patients find dentist and or their staffs hot and wants to date them. I know during my high school years, I had a crush on one of my earlier dentists. Something about her eyes just mesmerize me while she worked on my mouth and I think she knows it too. lol. I know a friend who wants to date or marry her dentist badly...she drops so many hints on him that she wonders if he's resiting or just rejecting her. I guess it's normal since we're all human. Some day, I'm sure you'll have invitations, temptations, or something similar, how will you react? Have you experience this in your dental field yet? Just curious, what's your take on this? Any stories to share? I imagine most of everyone response is to not mix business with pleasures.

No, no, and no. Unprofessional, incredibly risky (imagine sexual lawsuits taking half of your hard-built practice?), and lame (come on, get a life outside of the office).

 

[toofache32]

Don't dip your pen in the company inkwell.

 

[WHO DAT]

I think the saying "Don't shi* where you eat" applies here

 

[drhobie7]

ooooh man, there's one of my patients in particular I'd love to date....*salivating*

 

[DrJeff]

ooooh man, there's one of my patients in particular I'd love to date....*salivating*

Is this before or after you edentulate them😀😉😆

 

[tinker bell]

I would imagine it's "the after thanks & hugs things"

 

[toofache32]

Is this before or after you edentulate them😀😉😆

oh. my. god. 😱

 

[Dr.Millisevert]

That is a good point. ALWAYS have an assistant in the room. ALWAYS.

These days digital video recording and Massive HD space to back up the data is getting dirt cheap. Would it be possible to just put a video camera in every surgery? Then if someone tried to claim you harassed them, you would have proof nothing happened.

Certainly video proof would hold up better in court even than having a DA vouch for you.

As long as you could put in writing at the bottom of your consent forms that each procedure is being recorded (for educational purposes maybe? Or whatever other excuse sounds good).

Might save your ass in the future!

Thoughts?

 

[Cold Front]

I imagine most of everyone response is to not mix business with pleasures.

They call it the "Dental-Patient Romance"... it's more common in urban areas than rural. I wouldn't expect it happening in small towns (i.e. with 5,000 population), word goes out pretty fast!

http://thewealthydentist.com/SurveyResults/38_DentalPatientRomance_Results.htm

 

[Bifid Uvula]

ooooh man, there's one of my patients in particular I'd love to date....*salivating*

U should just tell "HIM" and maybe you will score that date... afterall, the patients are truly the "attending's patients" not yours.

I kid, I kidd....