Dating & Relationships

[Shino’s Beetles]

Any recent thoughts on trying to date and relationships while in Pod school. I was told dating during residency is a nightmare and I should look for something while in school or preferably before school since time permits. Some other forums seem to encourage it during their school years so wanted to know if Podiatry does too.

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[Weirdy]

Any recent thoughts on trying to date and relationships while in Pod school. I was told dating during residency is a nightmare and I should look for something while in school or preferably before school since time permits. Some other forums seem to encourage it during their school years so wanted to know if Podiatry does too.

Podiatry is a medical profession.

Why would it be any different?

That being said: Have seen people date in my class rampantly. Some date classmates, some prefer (and for good reason) to date outside of the class or medical field completely. Some have long distance relationships continuing. Some are married. Some met their spouses during residency. Some are still single after residency.

Really depends what you want. I locked it down before starting school. Sure its nice to flex your white coat pics and get dates in a different city, but its also nice being married and having something consistent and stable when you're being doused by the fire hose that is school. My relationships affect how I do in class. If my relationship is rock solid going in, I can focus on school without having to worry about break ups, depression, insecurities, all the drama and emotional drain associated with dating.

It is completely doable and you will have time. But you need to understand people outside of this realm do not realize how much time you need to commit to school.

 

[Shino’s Beetles]

Podiatry is a medical profession.

Why would it be any different?

That being said: Have seen people date in my class rampantly. Some date classmates, some prefer (and for good reason) to date outside of the class or medical field completely. Some have long distance relationships continuing. Some are married. Some met their spouses during residency. Some are still single after residency.

Really depends what you want. I locked it down before starting school. Sure its nice to flex your white coat pics and get dates in a different city, but its also nice being married and having something consistent and stable when you're being doused by the fire hose that is school. My relationships affect how I do in class. If my relationship is rock solid going in, I can focus on school without having to worry about break ups, depression, insecurities, all the drama and emotional drain associated with dating.

It is completely doable and you will have time. But you need to understand people outside of this realm do not realize how much time you need to commit to school.

Agreed, probably still plan on flexing the white coat pics lol heard the ladies love a man in white

 

[Podstar]

I would definitely encourage you to date during school. Just be careful if you decide to date within your class, you still have to see that person from time to time if you break up or things go south with a FWB.

 

[OnePodRanger]

Any recent thoughts on trying to date and relationships while in Pod school. I was told dating during residency is a nightmare and I should look for something while in school or preferably before school since time permits. Some other forums seem to encourage it during their school years so wanted to know if Podiatry does too.

It honestly depends on what you and your partner wants. For example, I am currently dating a girl that lives in my hometown but I attend at Des Moines University. It can be hard sometimes but we both occupy our time to what we are currently doing. Also, we FaceTime each other for almost everyday that could be 10 minutes to an hour. We both believe that the relationship will work if you respect each other's goals and time.

As for dating someone in school, it depends too. You have to be careful of dating with another classmate because it might cause issues later on if the relationship does not work out at the end of the day. Yes, it is nice to be with someone that you probably see everyday but at the same time, it might affect your performance for exams because you want to spend time with that person but you still want to do well in your classes at the same time. Again, it is up to you and your partner of how you want to figure things out.

If you really want to date that person, DO IT! I was wondering about dating someone during school and it took me awhile but I stuck with my gut and I don't regret it at all.

 

[Nowehjose]

It is hard. I don’t have as much time as I would like to spend with my gf and our friends. It’s hard for people to understand the time commitment we have to our education.

I don’t believe in ****ting where you eat, but if you want to be the creep/creepet who hits on colleagues have at it. I mean if you hit it off with a female/male classmate do the friends thing first just don’t be overly forward, it looks bad. Three years of awkwardness if things don’t work out is not worth it. My school has a few weirdos, don’t want to be that guy/gal. A few are in relationships to other students so it’s possible. I’m touching on the awkwardness of the person who thinks if a person talks to them they are the one. I recommend dating outside of school, but remember it’s hard for them to appreciate your availability.

 

[Shino’s Beetles]

It is hard. I don’t have as much time as I would like to spend with my gf and our friends. It’s hard for people to understand the time commitment we have to our education.

I don’t believe in ****ting where you eat, but if you want to be the creep/creepet who hits on colleagues have at it. I mean if you hit it off with a female/male classmate do the friends thing first just don’t be overly forward, it looks bad. Three years of awkwardness if things don’t work out is not worth it. My school has a few weirdos, don’t want to be that guy/gal. A few are in relationships to other students so it’s possible. I’m touching on the awkwardness of the person who thinks if a person talks to them they are the one. I recommend dating outside of school, but remember it’s hard for them to appreciate your availability.

Makes sense maybe dating someone who’s not in your class but is also in a different medical program might be the way since they’ll likely appreciate your availability but also if things don’t work out it’s not as bad.

 

[Shino’s Beetles]

Don’t think I can do long distance either since the seldom moments I am available FaceTime probably won’t be sufficient. It failed in undergrad for me and I doubt it would be any better in medical school. Looks like the dating gets smaller and smaller as time passes. I’m sure this goes for both guys and girls.

 

[DexterMorganSK]

Makes sense maybe dating someone who’s not in your class but is also in a different medical program might be the way since they’ll likely appreciate your availability but also if things don’t work out it’s not as bad.

come to Scholl..you will meet plp from almost every other program

 

[Shino’s Beetles]

come to Scholl..you will meet plp from almost every other program

Lol that’s where I’m going

 

[med2345]

I’m a first year and started dating someone right during the middle of the school year. Still mainted very good grades and workout 6 times a week. It’s all time management.

 

[Shino’s Beetles]

I’m a first year and started dating someone right during the middle of the school year. Still mainted very good grades and workout 6 times a week. It’s all time management.

Sounds like you perform miracles as well because I don’t know if I can do all that.

 

[Klge23]

Any thoughts on FWB in general?

 

[Podstar]

Any thoughts on FWB in general?

Whatever floats your boat, just make sure yours and his/her intentions are understood.

 

[Shino’s Beetles]

Any thoughts on FWB in general?

My uncle said ALL podiatrist are hopeless romantics so fwb arent recommenced.

Personally I’d go based off how it went in undergrad years. If it works for you great but for me, even being a manly man, that’s a no dawg.

 

[Podstar]

My uncle said ALL podiatrist are hopeless romantics so fwb arent recommenced.

Personally I’d go based off how it went in undergrad years. If it works for you great but for me, even being a manly man, that’s a no dawg.

Your uncle knows every single podiatrist personally?! Wow!! This post is a LOL, you manly man you.

 

[Shino’s Beetles]

Your uncle knows every single podiatrist personally?! Wow!! This post is a LOL, you manly man you.

I was joking of course my uncle only knows every Podiatrist in the America not the world.

 

[Nowehjose]

Nothing turns a guy/girl on like telling them you are around feet 10 hours a day...

 

[J29622]

Nothing turns a guy/girl on like telling them you are around feet 10 hours a day...

Imagine what you would have to tell that guy/girl if you were in urology or proctology

 

[Shino’s Beetles]

Imagine what you would have to tell that guy/girl if you were in urology or proctology

Proctologist: Hey girl I do butt stuff

Yeah feet aren’t too bad now are they

 

[RNthenDoc]

Proctologist: Hey girl I do butt stuff

Yeah feet aren’t too bad now are they

Proctologists are colorectal surgeons, AKA surgical subspecialists with a median salary of $370,000/year.

I think most spouses might be okay with the butt stuff in exchange for the insane wealth!

 

[DexterMorganSK]

Yeah proper white coat - with MD/DO on at end... sorrrryyy

I get plenty with the DPM candidate on my white coat..thanks.

Good luck with your match in 22.

 

[Nowehjose]

Proctologists are colorectal surgeons, AKA surgical subspecialists with a median salary of $370,000/year.

I think most spouses might be okay with the butt stuff in exchange for the insane wealth!

Pshhh... they don’t treat the silent killer... acral lentiginious melanoma.

I’m basically god. Pedicures, bone stuff, CANCER, and wound care. Who needs $150k more when I can have my ego and a white coat.

 

[HarmonicConvergence]

Yeah proper white coat - with MD/DO on at end... sorrrryyy

lmao what is a proper white coat? Do you need a proper white coat to perform surgery and help patients? Please elaborate

 

[Weirdy]

Yeah proper white coat - with MD/DO on at end... sorrrryyy

You are going to have a lot of humbling moments in your future. I say this with the utmost sincerity.

Best of luck future Doctor of Osteopathic Medicine.

 

[Weirdy]

This thread has run it's usefulness. I've seen better pissing contests in public urinals.

 

[gensurghopeful]

I get plenty with the DPM candidate on my white coat..thanks.

Good luck with your match in 22.

Lol just wanted to break up this naive and immature talk about "getting some" bc you/we have white coats...
Thought I'd light it up with a trigger comment...

 

[RNthenDoc]

The “real” white coat has a PhD on it... Medical professionals stole it from bench scientists to legitimize themselves.

But anyway, yeah, dating is cool.

 

[smq123]

Please keep the discussion to the topic, and keep it civil. Thanks.

OP - I don't know if there's ever a right time to date, just like there's no right time to have children.

Most people do end up dating in school. You spend a lot of time with these people, and it's usually easier to find someone in school because you're surrounded by lots of people - the average class size at most schools is ~50, and that doesn't include the class above or below you. It's harder to find people in residency, where you probably interact with the same small group of people on a regular basis.

Dating during residency is slightly more difficult, mostly because most people that you date during that period are generally not doctors and won't understand your schedule. Explaining a Q4 call schedule to someone who is not in medicine can be difficult. Plus, since you interact with fewer people in residency than you do in school, it's harder to meet people outside of dating apps or websites - and if you match to residency in a small town, even those options might not be very useful.

 

[Shino’s Beetles]

Lol just wanted to break up this naive and immature talk about "getting some" bc you/we have white coats...
Thought I'd light it up with a trigger comment...

I was going to post about how this is disheartening to see coming from a DO hopeful (a field yearning for recognition as a ‘real’ physician). I was then going to post about how podiatrist (as well as MD/DO) are recognized by the government as physicians and then post asking: don’t DOs do manipulation voodoo or something? But I’m not going to be petty and do that. I’m going to take the high road using smq123’s advice and stick to the original reason I made this thread.

From what I learned it seems like the dating scene becomes a little more difficult in medical school with the constraints of a smaller social circles but time management and a positive out look will be your best friend. Thanks for the input guys

 

[gensurghopeful]

I was going to post about how this is disheartening to see coming from a DO hopeful (a field yearning for recognition as a ‘real’ physician). I was then going to post about how podiatrist (as well as MD/DO) are recognized by the government as physicians and then post asking: don’t DOs do manipulation voodoo or something? But I’m not going to be petty and do that. I’m going to take the high road using smq123’s advice and stick to the original reason I made this thread.

From what I learned it seems like the dating scene becomes a little more difficult in medical school with the constraints of a smaller social circles but time management and a positive out look will be your best friend. Thanks for the input guys

Well now I've got to reply... every future foot doc that I know (about 5 or so), are guys/girls that had <492 MCAT's couldn't get into actual medical school. But don't worry you're def needed with this skyrocketing diabetes epidemic in this country.

 

[Weirdy]

Well now I've got to reply... every future foot doc that I know (about 5 or so), are guys/girls that had <492 MCAT's couldn't get into actual medical school. But don't worry you're def needed with this skyrocketing diabetes epidemic in this country.

You should quit while you're ahead man.

I've read through your posts. They're cringy as hell. "OMS-1 here reporting in with 5 hours of sleep."

There is nothing wrong with being proud of what you do, whether you're a DO or DPM.

But you need to realize that bashing the profession next to you gets nothing done and looks even more distasteful in real life.

I've worked with plenty of MD/DO specialists in clinic and have learned a ton. I had a huge inferiority complex going in as a student and someone who wasn't MD/DO. I am more confident now that I have a great relationship with them. There are things they know very well that I do not, and vice versa.

Sure they might have looked down on me initially, but they slowly grew to respect the work and learning I put in each time I am there- despite just being a student.
Every foot and ankle patient they send my way for a workup or to get a second opinion. If there are interesting patients, they always ask if I'd like to hop in and learn.

You've got a huge ego. I truly hope you learn to get over yourself and the name calling before you get into the real world. It looks childish and it's just tiring dealing with people like you man. You can be so much better than this.

If not, best of luck.

 

[I Drink Riesling]

@smq123 Please lock down this thread. The OP has received many helpful answers and the direction of the thread has gotten off course. Thank you!

 

[Shino’s Beetles]

@smq123 Please lock down this thread. The OP has received many helpful answers and the direction of the thread has gotten off course. Thank you!

Agreed

 

[Podstar]

I’ve already reported it 3 times... The mods for our forum are not active enough.

 

[smq123]

Closing. (Sigh)