dealing with distraction of significant other in med school?

[sharksRfriends]

I'm just wondering how other people manage to deal with the distraction of your girl/boyfriend or spouse while in school ... I am starting medical school soon and my long-term boyfriend and I both moved several hundred miles for me to attend school. He is shy and doesn't know anyone and I am worried about being able to balance studying and my relationship. I don't want him to be a distraction but I also need to spend time with him, for him and for me. Any others who have gone through this have advice?

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[Semicolon]

I'm just wondering how other people manage to deal with the distraction of your girl/boyfriend or spouse while in school ... I am starting medical school soon and my long-term boyfriend and I both moved several hundred miles for me to attend school. He is shy and doesn't know anyone and I am worried about being able to balance studying and my relationship. I don't want him to be a distraction but I also need to spend time with him, for him and for me. Any others who have gone through this have advice?

I would think one of the first steps would be to stop viewing your significant other as a "distraction"; they will be another significant part of your life. Of course, you will be mostly focused on school, but you will definitely have time to spend together throughout the year. Try to allot at least a few hours during the usual week (during the weekend, let's say) and use that as quality time with your SO. Your ability to maintain your relationship rests on individual willpower, both yours and his. Remember that he will be dealing with a very stressed student!

Many people in my class have kept their relationships strong, and it is definitely possible. You may just need to find what works for you. Finding a balance is not easy. Don't let statistics decide the future for you; just look within yourself. 🙂

 

[thepoopologist]

I'm just wondering how other people manage to deal with the distraction of your girl/boyfriend or spouse while in school ... I am starting medical school soon and my long-term boyfriend and I both moved several hundred miles for me to attend school. He is shy and doesn't know anyone and I am worried about being able to balance studying and my relationship. I don't want him to be a distraction but I also need to spend time with him, for him and for me. Any others who have gone through this have advice?

I think as long as you have sexual relations with him before you study he will not bother you the rest of the day.

 

[Honze55]

I think as long as you have sexual relations with him before you study he will not bother you the rest of the day.

hahahaha literally laughed out loud

 

[Klemptor]

I think as long as you have sexual relations with him before you study he will not bother you the rest of the day.

Thepoopologist is quite correct.

 

[VCU07]

I have read some very wise things, but no more so than the poopologists comments above. Funny thing is that it would probably work lol. This is one lucky guy...

 

[slbn7d]

Well I'd say 50% of the students in my class who came into med school with relationships broke it off within the first two years, including 4 divorces. You probably won't have to worry about it for too long.

 

[DarkHorse22]

Well I'd say 50% of the students in my class who came into med school with relationships broke it off within the first two years, including 4 divorces. You probably won't have to worry about it for too long.

you sound as though you were one of them...

 

[kopitar]

My chick and I are doing the long distance thing the first year- thought that would be more successful than the neglect I would put on her bringing her out to a rural town and ignoring the bajesus out of her- I hear a lot of the failures of moving out with SO's but not much about the successes of the long distance deal- we'll see what happens

 

[Spooner13]

OP, it can definitely be done. During a normal week, I think it's a good idea to set out a couple of hours that are just for spending time with your significant other. But it's important to keep a schedule. If you schedule out 2 hours to watch a movie, don't let that turn into 5 hours.

Also, there will be times when you can multitask. You're going to have to eat dinner anyways, so try to reserve that daily time with your boyfriend,even if it's not for a long time. And you guys will be able to spend a lot of time together when you are studying for your OMM practicals. You can practice on him a lot.

Some schools have a significant others club. You should check into that. Might be a good way for him to meet people who are in the same boat he is.

 

[kdhmed]

So maybe I'm being overly optimistic but right now I work a 9-5 (like med school may be) and my gf serves nights 5 or so shifts a week. This has been going on for the past 7 months and has worked fine. I'm hoping to get my studyin out of the way by 11ish on normal nights and have a few hrs to relax with her. this is also our first time living together so having both of us out of the house at separate times will prob keep us from killing eachother.

I think the main thing is to just make sure he's busy and finding things to do. Work, hobby, gym, etc. And yes, if you pleasure him, he will stay.

 

[sharksRfriends]

Thanks for the advice, everyone. I just know I'd much rather spend all my time with him than study, so setting limits will be the hardest part for me.