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I'm not depressed, this situation has been depressing though. I'm currently in 2 classes that I'm currently getting a D in. I'm studying for my midterm tomorrow and am not too worried about this class because I have one midterm and final left. However, in my other course we have weekly quizzes. I missed one and got a very low grade the other time. With only two quizzes, I am out off luck even if I get 100s on the quizzes and midterm (C+/B- at best). I have no clue what to do. Should I withdraw late or just do my best?

I messed things up so bad and will not be returning to my university next year.
 
I think you should withdraw. You're not in the proper mental state to do your best right now, as demonstrated by your prior threads. You need to talk with a healthcare professional to fully evaluate you to get you back on track.
 
DermViser said:
I think you should withdraw. You're not in the proper mental state to do your best right now, as demonstrated by your prior threads. You need to talk with a healthcare professional to fully evaluate you to get you back on track.
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Thanks, I think so too. Hopefully they grant me the late-drop.
 
HopelessGirl said:
Thanks, I think so too. Hopefully they grant me the late-drop.
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They should if you document and explain the circumstances - health reasons. Take care of your mental health, and follow what your psychiatrist/psychologist says to the letter, even if that involves starting pharmacological therapy. Without your mental health, nothing else comes close to being important. Best of luck to you.
 
DermViser said:
They should if you document and explain the circumstances - health reasons. Take care of your mental health, and follow what your psychiatrist/psychologist says to the letter, even if that involves starting pharmacological therapy. Without your mental health, nothing else comes close to being important. Best of luck to you.
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Thank you again. I accidentally overstated bad grades in my email to the dean when it is completely health related.
 
DK2014 said:
Grades is grades. You can always redeem yourself down the road. Remember always to take care of yourself first and foremost. Your health and body are the most important! 🙂
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Thank you! I miss the gym, I miss being healthy, I miss doing well in my classes, I miss having friends. I'm seeing myself crashing and I can't do anything to stop it so it's a little hard on me.
 
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HopelessGirl said:
Thank you again. I accidentally overstated bad grades in my email to the dean when it is completely health related.
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In the future try not to be impulsive in reacting, bc you can't turn things back. Just explain that this isn't a bad grade problem, and that more and more you are seeing this is due to mental health issues which you need to resolve. That should be fine. If it's an issue, you can always have your parents call to explain this to them after which you can take some time off to resolve this issue and incorporate better coping techniques in your life.
 
DermViser said:
In the future try not to be impulsive in reacting, bc you can't turn things back. Just explain that this isn't a bad grade problem, and that more and more you are seeing this is due to mental health issues which you need to resolve. That should be fine. If it's an issue, you can always have your parents call to explain this to them after which you can take some time off to resolve this issue and incorporate better coping techniques in your life.
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Thanks, this is such a long journey and I wish I didn't have my GPA declining while I'm trying to resolve it. I think I need a solid quarter of non-science classes in the fall because I have no anxiety towards them.
 
HopelessGirl said:
Thanks, this is such a long journey and I wish I didn't have my GPA declining while I'm trying to resolve it. I think I need a solid quarter of non-science classes in the fall because I have no anxiety towards them.
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Just remember, there are so many avenues to be involved in medicine. Not just MD/DO, which is a huge level of delayed gratification - 4 yrs. undergrad + 4 years med school + 3-7 year residency.

There are so many tracks to be involved in healthcare: NP, PA, Dentistry, Pharmacy, etc. in which you can have a relatively good lifestyle and pay. With the way healthcare reform is going, a lot of scope of practice that only physicians had is slowly disappearing, and just the "prestige" or "being the boss" are no longer good reasons (they never really were good reasons) esp. since most physicians will not be in private practice, but rather hospital employees.
 
DermViser said:
Just remember, there are so many avenues to be involved in medicine. Not just MD/DO, which is a huge level of delayed gratification - 4 yrs. undergrad + 4 years med school + 3-7 year residency.

There are so many tracks to be involved in healthcare: NP, PA, Dentistry, Pharmacy, etc. in which you can have a relatively good lifestyle and pay. With the way healthcare reform is going, a lot of scope of practice that only physicians had is slowly disappearing, and just the "prestige" or "being the boss" are no longer good reasons (they never really were good reasons) esp. since most physicians will not be in private practice, but rather hospital employees.
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Very true, as much as I want to be a doctor right now, if this continues, I won't even graduate.
 
HopelessGirl said:
Very true, as much as I want to be a doctor right now, if this continues, I won't even graduate.
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All the more reason to be thoroughly evaluated, find out what the problem is, and get good treatment and management. Being a physician is not a panacea for happiness that many premeds tend to think it is, if you visit the other forums: Allopathic and the specialty forums. Life is not that simple or black & white. You'll see this soon enough.
 
DermViser said:
All the more reason to be thoroughly evaluated, find out what the problem is, and get good treatment and management. Being a physician is not a panacea for happiness that many premeds tend to think it is, if you visit the other forums: Allopathic and the specialty forums. Life is not that simple or black & white. You'll see this soon enough.
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🙂 I'm hopeful.
 
This is actually a smart move. Go and work a few years, and go back when you're ready. Perhaps start at a CC and get some pre-reqs out of the way then. You're not ready now.

I messed things up so bad and will not be returning to my university next year.[/QUOTE]
 
HopelessGirl said:
Thank you! I miss the gym, I miss being healthy, I miss doing well in my classes, I miss having friends. I'm seeing myself crashing and I can't do anything to stop it so it's a little hard on me.
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Hopefully you can pull yourself up from this nose-dive. The best way to go about it, though, is to recenter your locus of control within yourself. It's very easy to feel outstripped by life when you feel like everything is beyond your control, but as you get better you'll see that you do still have a lot within your grasp, such as how you respond to adversity.
 
Withdraw, bad grades hurt you way more than a W.
 
Thank you for all the support. I have a meeting today. I'm sure my adviser will ask me why I didn't drop a couple of weeks ago, any suggestions on what I should say?
 
HopelessGirl said:
I'm not depressed, this situation has been depressing though. I'm currently in 2 classes that I'm currently getting a D in. I'm studying for my midterm tomorrow and am not too worried about this class because I have one midterm and final left. However, in my other course we have weekly quizzes. I missed one and got a very low grade the other time. With only two quizzes, I am out off luck even if I get 100s on the quizzes and midterm (C+/B- at best). I have no clue what to do. Should I withdraw late or just do my best?

I messed things up so bad and will not be returning to my university next year.
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Withdraw, unless doing so will result in financial aid or scholarships being taken away. I don't know if you're on financial aid or not.
 
HopelessGirl said:
I know, but he is well aware these problems didn't develop overnight and I suggested dropping a while ago.
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Sure, but what IS the real reason? It's not only important to be honest on your application so you come off genuine, but it is also important for you to think through your reasons so that you can understand your faults and your motivations to not end up in a similar situation again. At the end of the day, there is no good reason why you didn't drop, it was a mistake. There can be a bunch of bad reasons so you might as well be honest and upfront about whatever mistake you made. Better you frame your mistake in the most constructive light possible than have others make potentially worse assumptions.

Edit: I see your above post. Is that your reason then? Does it no longer apply?
 
kyamh said:
Sure, but what IS the real reason? It's not only important to be honest on your application so you come off genuine, but it is also important for you to think through your reasons so that you can understand your faults and your motivations to not end up in a similar situation again. At the end of the day, there is no good reason why you didn't drop, it was a mistake. There can be a bunch of bad reasons so you might as well be honest and upfront about whatever mistake you made. Better you frame your mistake in the most constructive light possible than have others make potentially worse assumptions.

Edit: I see your above post. Is that your reason then? Does it no longer apply?
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Not really. I'm just confused on how it works because I did and will receive the aid, but when you drop down full-paying students pay less, so I'm not sure how it works for me. Do I pay less or more? Hopefully it just stays the same.
 
HopelessGirl said:
Not really. I'm just confused on how it works because I did and will receive the aid, but when you drop down full-paying students pay less, so I'm not sure how it works for me. Do I pay less or more? Hopefully it just stays the same.
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It all depends on your specific situation and your institution. The responsible thing is to have scheduled a meeting with your Dean and discussed your options rather than speculating. Money is serious and your education is serious. You shouldn't be on this site getting information from people who know nothing about your situation, as a financial aid recipient it is your responsibility to stay on top of the qualification you have to meet and to meet them. If you had known the rules ahead of time and contacted your Dean as soon as you became worried about your performance then the school would have had more options to help you - your mistake is waiting so long. Right now you need to be drafting multiple emails to the financial aid office, your dean, your advisor, and maybe the ombusdperson at your school.
 
kyamh said:
It all depends on your specific situation and your institution. The responsible thing is to have scheduled a meeting with your Dean and discussed your options rather than speculating. Money is serious and your education is serious. You shouldn't be on this site getting information from people who know nothing about your situation, as a financial aid recipient it is your responsibility to stay on top of the qualification you have to meet and to meet them. If you had known the rules ahead of time and contacted your Dean as soon as you became worried about your performance then the school would have had more options to help you - your mistake is waiting so long. Right now you need to be drafting multiple emails to the financial aid office, your dean, your advisor, and maybe the ombusdperson at your school.
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Thanks, I emailed the necessary people and believe FA will remain the same based on how my school works (they determine what you can pay and not taking a full load doesn't change that). We'll see soon!
 
HopelessGirl said:
Thanks, I emailed the necessary people and believe FA will remain the same based on how my school works (they determine what you can pay and not taking a full load doesn't change that). We'll see soon!
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:luck:
 
Get your life back together and go from Hopeless to Hopeful. Have you considered transferring after you get things together?
 
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