Do I share that I'm a parent in interviews?

[erg923]

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Fine but not in an interview!

Why?

 

[CheetahGirl]

Fine but not in an interview! If you can fool them long enough to get hired than do what you want.

WHO, JUST WHO, BRAGS ABOUT THEIR CHILDREN IN AN INTERVIEW FOR A CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGY PRE-DOCTORAL INTERNSHIP INTERVIEW?????

Sorry, if I'm yelling but the key word here is "Relevance."

 

[experi_mental]

WHO, JUST WHO, BRAGS ABOUT THEIR CHILDREN IN AN INTERVIEW FOR A CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGY PRE-DOCTORAL INTERNSHIP INTERVIEW?????

Sorry, if I'm yelling but the key word here is "Relevance."

Pregnancy-addled brains do all kinds of things, look at the crazed rantings of yourself and mamaphd for instance.

 

[WisNeuro]

WHY ARE WE YELLING!

LOUD VOICES!

 

[erg923]

Pregnancy-addled brains do all kinds of things, look at the crazed rantings of yourself and mamaphd for instance.

I see. So, the women folk should just keep that kind of thing to themselves, huh? Got it.

This interestingly does not answer my question of why you would find someone connecting the emotionally laden work of a psychologist with their role as a parent so offensive. Whats that about?

 

[CheetahGirl]

Pregnancy-addled brains do all kinds of things, look at the crazed rantings of yourself and mamaphd for instance.

Now you are being disrespectful to women again. And that won't get you very far...especially with the ladies, unless you are one of those individuals who needs to stomp on others to feel good about yourself. Good luck with that.

I have not had a pregnancy-addled brain for several years now...and a similar pregnancy-addled brain fed you too when you were an infant. So if you have mommy-issues, take it somewhere else. This is a collegial board of discussions...which again, you are not contributing thoughtfully to and rather immaturely IMO.

I will be forced to consider you a troll. What an achievement to your anonymous reputation here.

 

[erg923]

WHO, JUST WHO, BRAGS ABOUT THEIR CHILDREN IN AN INTERVIEW FOR A CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGY PRE-DOCTORAL INTERNSHIP INTERVIEW?????

Sorry, if I'm yelling but the key word here is "Relevance."

I did.

 

[CheetahGirl]

Nice, erg923. Took one for the team and elevated the bar of disclosure.

And according to experi_mental, perhaps paving the way for pregnancy-addled brains to do the same. Watch out, interviewers...maternity wards full of primiparous and multiparous individuals (who also are eligible for pre-doctoral internships) will be flooding the gates once they are on to this fact.

Damn, we thought professional schools were saturating the market...wait for the mommy doctors. Scary times, folks.

 

[experi_mental]

Nice, erg923. Took one for the team and elevated the bar of disclosure.

And according to experi_mental, perhaps paving the way for pregnancy-addled brains to do the same. Watch out, interviewers...maternity wards full of primiparous and multiparous individuals (who also are eligible for pre-doctoral internships) will be flooding the gates once they are on to this fact.

Damn, we thought professional schools were saturating the market...wait for the mommy doctors. Scary times, folks.

I hope they do, it will make my job of screening them out all the easier. Cheers!

 

[erg923]

I hope they do, it will make my job of screening them out all the easier. Cheers!

Are you gonna answer the question regarding why you would find this so offensive or off-putting? That sound like personal "bias" that you speak so much about on here, rather than pinpointing any legitimate professional or pragmatic problem with the issue. The avoidance of answering doesn't help you any, either. So, again, whats this about?

My understanding from your posts is that you are still in training, so what exactly would you be "screening them out" of anyway?

 

[CheetahGirl]

Few of you have in fact checked your own biases. You have blown this out of proportion to validate yourselves. I by my contributions to this have demonstrated to OP that she should shy away from revelation of her limitation or, more specifically, if she should reveal should do so without succumbing to the temptation to "brag" about her children or using her experiences as a source of information to counter research lest others like myself who have completed doctoral work should find it in poor taste.

Really? In what? Please do share.

*News Flash* Every human has limitations. Some more than others and apparently quite inherently.


Hey, look at that...it's dinner time. Let me run off to my little "limitations." They need to be fed. (What one person calls a limitation in this completely subjective discussion, many would consider a strength.)

Edit: I'm going to take a little break from SDN for a while. I want my next and 1,000 (!) comment to be my actual dissertation defense victory banana-dancing post, not a discussion about misogyny (not worth it...:troll🙂. I'm strange like that. Cheers back, folks! TTYL.

 

[biscuitsbiscuits]

Pregnancy-addled brains do all kinds of things, look at the crazed rantings of yourself and mamaphd for instance.

I'm pretty sure 'mental has told us everything we need to know about him/her right here. This is starting to sound Trump-like.

 

[experi_mental]

Really? In what?

Gender studies

 

[Pragma]

I would be against it if a woman came off as one of those smug middle aged back-to-schoolers who throw out every article every written if it isn't consistent with her basis of "as a mother, I..."

Ugh this isn't even a common phenomenon. Inductive reasoning gone wild...evidence for gone wild is in the rest of the thread.

 

[experi_mental]

Ugh this isn't even a common phenomenon. Inductive reasoning gone wild...evidence for gone wild is in the rest of the thread.

You know this experimentally, I trust?
You forget yourself madam, how dare you treat me like a woman.

 

[deleted343839]

:troll:

 

[experi_mental]

The sad part is in my school I was considered remarkably egalitarian in contrast to the straight-up misogyny of my supervisors, who could hardly be said to be "novice" in any sense of the word. Dismiss me all you want, but to be known as "that applicant with small kids" will get you a thin envelope at PLENTY of places

 

[erg923]

The sad part is in my school I was considered remarkably egalitarian in contrast to the straight-up misogyny of my supervisors, who could hardly be said to be "novice" in any sense of the word. Dismiss me all you want, but to be known as "that applicant with small kids" will get you a thin envelope at PLENTY of places

Is this suppose to justify some of your beliefs?

I'm not sure why someone in this life circumstance would accept employment in the "plenty of places" you alluded to. On Friday, by so was sick, so I took sick leave to stay home with him. This is common occurrence, and no one seem to bat an eyelash. And really, whats the alternative, right?

 

[experi_mental]

Is this suppose to justify some of your beliefs?

You have no idea what my actual beliefs are.

I am the Socrates of this board, I see myself not as a man of knowledge but a man of wisdom, as I at least possess the humility to challenge my own beliefs, in my cases advocating against them on this board. I come to you as Diogenes the Cynic, in my search for but one honest man amongst the group-thinking hypocrisy and childish reactivity of wisneuro, pragma, mamaphd and cheetah in particular. To date I have yet to find one person in this forum committed to truth over and above the defense of their friends.

 

[erg923]

You have no idea what my actual beliefs are

I see.

I by my contributions to this have demonstrated to OP that she should shy away from revelation of her limitation or, more specifically, if she should reveal should do so without succumbing to the temptation to "brag" about her children or using her experiences as a source of information to counter research lest others like myself who have completed doctoral work should find it in poor taste. You're welcome

Pregnancy-addled brains do all kinds of things, look at the crazed rantings of yourself and mamaphd for instance.

 

[Pragma]

You forget yourself madam, how dare you treat me like a woman.

I mean, it's like he's not even putting any effort into the trolling here. It doesn't make any sense.

Back to the OPs question, which I didn't really comment about earlier. I've known men and women who have kept it quiet about their kids during interviews. Usually those were cases of first time parents and fearing they might interview with someone as unpleasant as our friend in this thread.

I think as a more seasoned parent I wouldn't bat an eye about mentioning it. We've got a great system for managing childcare situations so it is easy to be straightforward about it. I think it would have been harder to articulate as a brand new or soon to be parent.

All that said, I probably wouldn't say anything unless it came up. I know incredibly prolific researchers with kids who still do daycare pickup. It is more about time management than anything else and life happens. As long as people do their jobs and play within the rules for leave time, I haven't met a supervisor that wouldn't work with you. In fact, sone parents may even get some special treatment.

I think the idiots that discriminate against pregnant women and mothers will eventually die out or hopefully get busted for breaking employment laws.

 

[CheetahGirl]

You have no idea what my actual beliefs are.

I am the Socrates of this board, I see myself not as a man of knowledge but a man of wisdom, as I at least possess the humility to challenge my own beliefs, in my cases advocating against them on this board. I come to you as Diogenes the Cynic, in my search for but one honest man amongst the group-thinking hypocrisy and childish reactivity of wisneuro, pragma, mamaphd and cheetah in particular. To date I have yet to find one person in this forum committed to truth over and above the defense of their friends.

I am NOT reviving this old thread, especially since some may not be around to defend themselves. But I could not let someone (who is no longer an SDN user for reasons unknown to me) claim the role of Socrates on this board and have it remain unchallenged....

These words align more with Socrates, and IMO what we subsequently learn by parenting. Some of us are always searching for the truth, and yes, the journey is half the fun.

 

[DRMomma]

FWIW, thanks to the sage advice offered in this thread, if the opportunity presents itself, I intend on sharing. 😉

 

[smalltownpsych]

I am NOT reviving this old thread, especially since some may not be around to defend themselves. But I could not let someone (who is no longer an SDN user for reasons unknown to me) claim the role of Socrates on this board and have it remain unchallenged....

These words align more with Socrates, and IMO what we subsequently learn by parenting. Some of us are always searching for the truth, and yes, the journey is half the fun.

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Maybe he was banned because the mods found out that he wasn't really an ancient Greek philosopher. 😉 I better not start telling people that I am Sigmund Freud.

 

[CheetahGirl]

Yeah, well, if you've ever seen Monty Python...I totally had the Life of Brian running thru my mind with that post.

And remember, smalltownpsych, if it's not one thing, it's your mother.

Maybe he was banned because the mods found out that he wasn't really an ancient Greek philosopher. 😉 I better not start telling people that I am Sigmund Freud.