Don't be that guy/girl who brags to classmates about Step 1

[golfman]

I still don't have my score, but it's a little annoying to see some of my classmates brag about Step 1 scores on Facebook/other sites. It's equally annoying to have someone just randomly tell you in school their awesome Step 1 score without you asking.

Maybe I'm a little sensitive, but there are a lot of sensitive people out there. Don't be that guy/girl who just wants to brag all of the time. Makes plenty of people feel bad with scores that they normally would have been happy with. If you got a 260, you beat 95% of people. You start bragging and you will have a lot of people start to dislike you.

That being said, I have no problem with announcing scores on a public forum like this or telling people if they ask you. I just think it's tacky to post it on Facebook, a Blog, or randomly tell your classmates without them asking or caring.

Just my two cents. And some of my fellow classmates are annoyed with a few braggers in my class that are throwing their scores around everywhere.

If you did great, congrats. But be humble about it.

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[vr123]

Again, it's a reflection on me (and you!).

I don't agree that what some med students do is a reflection on all med students as a whole. The only thing that reflects a person is their own behavior. A profession doesn't define your personal values or your morals or what type of person you are. We all heard about the med student who committed murder and there are several examples of med students who turned out to be pedophiles. This obviously doesn't mean that all med students have criminal tendencies. I think most educated people understand this. The people who would judge you based on how other medical students behave are probably the same people who would say all African Americans are robbers because they've seen many getting arrested on TV or that all people of Arabic descent are terrorists, and you really shouldn't care what those people think.

 

[IDBasco]

Again, it's a reflection on me (and you!). I'm just calling out what I feel is a toolish behavior. Not jealousy - I'm 100% content with my score so if people are happy with their score (whether it be 190, 230, or 275) as well - good for them. You just don't need to post it as your facebook status.

It has been said earlier in this thread (or another thread) - the people who do the best really don't need to attention ***** elsewhere - they're comfortable enough with themselves that most people don't need to know how well they're doing.

It isn't a reflection on me.

 

[pianola]

eh, it's all in how you say it, anyway. it's not WHAT you say, it's how you say it.

haha, I'm particularly fortunate because I foresee myself getting a score no one will envy! ;-) That way I will never appear like a toooool 👍😍👍

 

[ent ent]

Which is another way of saying "I'm not going to adapt my behaviour in order to accommodate someone else's feelings".

Which is pretty much what I said I take issue with. I would prefer to adapt my behaviour in order to avoid hurting someone's feelings, at least when it comes to talking about performance related things, because I value their feelings. Frankly I don't get much out of telling "facebook friends" (who I think we all know encompass people who aren't friends, simply acquaintances or classmates) much of anything, so why would I risk making someone feel lousy for such a small payoff? If refraining from broadcasting the news to a broad audience feels like walking on eggshells to you, we have different definitions of that. 🙂 I would prefer to share good news (or bad) with my close friends face to face or on the phone or email or whatever, and leave it at that - that's all I need to celebrate and get my jollies.

And that's all I have to say on the matter. Not trying to have the last word, I just think both sides have been thoroughly explained, I don't think either one of us is going to change our minds, and you seem fairly passionate about this. 😛

i completely agree with you! facebook is not a private way to share details about your life!

i would feel so awful if i broadcasted my high score, just to find out that some of my close friends got unexpectedly low scores, even if they are proud of what i accomplished.

 

[DocDanny]

Which is another way of saying "I'm not going to adapt my behaviour in order to accommodate someone else's feelings".
Which is pretty much what I said I take issue with. I would prefer to adapt my behaviour in order to avoid hurting someone's feelings, at least when it comes to talking about performance related things, because I value their feelings.
And that's all I have to say on the matter. Not trying to have the last word, I just think both sides have been thoroughly explained, I don't think either one of us is going to change our minds, and you seem fairly passionate about this.

No, I'm not going to go out of my way to try to protect EVERYONE'S feelings. Have you ever tried to do that? It's exhausting. Where do you draw the line? Can't post about getting into med school because some pre meds you know did not. Can't post about travelling to Tahiti because someone didn't have money. Can't brag about getting your dream job, or getting married to a successful lawyer or whatever. There will always be some people are always going to see something as bragging when you talk about yourself, IF THEY DON'T HAVE THAT YET.
I'm not going to walk on eggshells, terrified I might offend someone if I say or do something. If they get pissed I post my score of 215 or so on Facebook, screw it. They'll have to get over it. That's what it comes down to. Different people have different opinions of what is socially acceptable or not. If something as pissant as this REALLY pisses someone off that bad, they are the ones with a problem.

Again, this has nothing to do with me feeling bad or feeling jealous. This is me feeling ashamed/calling people out for attention whoring. What every individual medical student does is a reflection on medical students as a whole, which includes me.

Again, it's a reflection on me (and you!). I'm just calling out what I feel is a toolish behavior.

It's not a reflection on YOU. You and I are different people. Why do you have to feel ashamed because of what other people do? Is that even healthy psychologically?

What medical students do is NOT a reflection on medical students as a whole. There are people in my class who get themselves too drunk to stand and piss their pants. There are others who cheat on the people they are in a relationship with. There are people with attitude and professionalism problems. I am NOT ashamed of THEM, because they are not ME. Their actions have nothing to do with me, or who I am,

Obviously, I don't really think it is toolish behavior. It isn't even that big a deal. Facebook statuses stay up for what? 12 hours? But if you DO think its a toolish thing to do, you REALLY don't need to feel ashamed of me. Please?😛

 

[xanthomondo]

Just curious, when you hear the term "pre-med", you don't have a stereotyped individual pictured in your head?

 

[JustSomePreMed]

You fail, Justsomepremed.

Nah I'm good.

 

[JustSomePreMed]

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[FranklinBluthMD]

i completely agree with you! facebook is not a private way to share details about your life!

i would feel so awful if i broadcasted my high score, just to find out that some of my close friends got unexpectedly low scores, even if they are proud of what i accomplished.

If they are your close friends, they should see your score and be happy for you, regardless of your own score. Even when someone told me they got a higher score than me, I was so happy for them. Being proud and sharing your achievement isn't toolish. There is a line:

A. Posting a facebook status or gmail status or twittering the day you get your score? - I think that is perfectly acceptable, especially if you are someone who facebooks about everything in their life.

B. Creating a facebook, friending all your classmates, and then just posting a status because you need people to know = tool county, USA.

I actually got home early so I got to check my scores in the privacy of my own home, but had I been on campus/in the hospital/in church/doing anything when I got my score, my joy over passing and doing well would have come out and I don't think that has anything to do with how I empathize or relate or care for people who may not have done well. I would have done the same dance and yell I did in my own home in the halls of my medical school and just as many fist pumps, Tiger Woods style. I may look like a tool doing all of those things, but that is just because I'm funny looking, not because what I was doing was toolish.

 

[FutureDoc4]

I am just blown away by how many people feel its "okay" to just post your score on facebook.

It is absolutely fine to say:

"yeaah!!! I passed STEP 1" as a facebook status.

But, NOT ONE of my classmates was toolish enough to actually post their score.

My question to those that think that's 'acceptable' social behavior:

Did you post your scores of big exams? For example, shelf exams on your facebook profile? If not, why not? Isn't that the EXACT same thing?

There is a thing called social grace people. Learn it. Live it.

 

[JustSomePreMed]

I am just blown away by how many people feel its "okay" to just post your score on facebook.

Keep in mind most medical students are lacking in the whole "social grace" thing, and many (in my encounters, at least) have led a very, very sheltered life.

 

[vr123]

I am just blown away by how many people feel its "okay" to just post your score on facebook.

There is a thing called social grace people. Learn it. Live it.

Obviously it's not unanimous that posting your scores on facebook is bad. Some people think it's fine and other people don't. You are not the authority on social grace and your assertion that you are and everyone who thinks otherwise doesn't understand what "social grace" is can be construed by many as just as, if not more, toolish and arrogant than what you are accusing others of doing here.

 

[DRJJ1]

I am just blown away by how many people feel its "okay" to just post your score on facebook.

It is absolutely fine to say:

"yeaah!!! I passed STEP 1" as a facebook status.

But, NOT ONE of my classmates was toolish enough to actually post their score.

My question to those that think that's 'acceptable' social behavior:

Did you post your scores of big exams? For example, shelf exams on your facebook profile? If not, why not? Isn't that the EXACT same thing?

There is a thing called social grace people. Learn it. Live it.

IM POSTING MY ENTIRE TRANSCRIPTS FOR EVERY SCHOOL I WENT TO AND MY BLOOD WORK AND MY HT AND WT WEEKLY I DON T THINK THAT IS TOOLISH AND I CAN DO IT CAUSE I LIKE TO

 

[FutureDoc4]

Obviously it's not unanimous that posting your scores on facebook is bad. Some people think it's fine and other people don't. You are not the authority on social grace and your assertion that you are and everyone who thinks otherwise doesn't understand what "social grace" is can be construed by many as just as, if not more, toolish and arrogant than what you are accusing others of doing here.

By your logic. Just because I think its "okay" (socially graceful), to meet a new attending and call him by his first name, means its okay and therefore socially graceful (there are def a minority of medical students that think this way btw)

"its okay" because we all have our own understanding of social grace and humility.

WRONG.

You will look like a tool. Maybe, when you look at yourself, you think "its okay" but to everyone else around you, you look like an idiot.

Social grace is adapted by the majority. I didn't sit down and decide to "write the book"

But, its pretty common sense, to say" "hey, maybe I shouldn't going around calling attendings by their first name when I meet them " (obv some will say its okay, but you should never assume).

or hey, "maybe I shouldn't go around telling everyone how awesome I am with my Step 1 score"

It seems like people have their head so far up their own arse, they can't see everyone else around them thinking "what a t-bag"

 

[doc29]

omg some people DO post their scores on facebook!!! A few days ago, one of my friends posted her step 1 score on fb, and she kept updating her status 3 times!!😱

 

[golfman]

Someone should create a poll to see what the majority of SDNers think about this issue. I was going to but can't find the exact wording I want to make this a fair/legit poll.

 

[vr123]

By your logic. Just because I think its "okay" (socially graceful), to meet a new attending and call him by his first name, means its okay and therefore socially graceful (there are def a minority of medical students that think this way btw)

"its okay" because we all have our own understanding of social grace and humility.

WRONG.

You will look like a tool. Maybe, when you look at yourself, you think "its okay" but to everyone else around you, you look like an idiot.

Social grace is adapted by the majority. I didn't sit down and decide to "write the book"

But, its pretty common sense, to say" "hey, maybe I shouldn't going around calling attendings by their first name when I meet them " (obv some will say its okay, but you should never assume).

or hey, "maybe I shouldn't go around telling everyone how awesome I am with my Step 1 score"

It seems like people have their head so far up their own arse, they can't see everyone else around them thinking "what a t-bag"

I hardly think this is a majority issue when it seems there are just as many people here thinking it is OK to post your scores as not OK. Have you done a poll of every med student? Then how do you know the majority agree with you? Just because your friends and the people you hang out with think so doesn't mean everyone else thinks the same.

Social grace is context dependent. Most of the people I know have no problem sharing their scores. These people would look at you funny if you said sharing your score makes you a tool. Maybe you think we're all tools, great. We'd think you're overly sensitive, uptight, and arrogant. Seems like you don't care what we think, so why should we?

 

[FranklinBluthMD]

I wouldn't post my score because the scores are nonsense that no one would understand anyway. But if someone posted "KICKED STEP 1'S BUTT!!!" or even some clever take on the "so you're going to be a dermatologist" line all the attendings have used when asking us about our Step 1 grades on our rotations since we got our scores, I'm okay with that. I'd reply on my friends post and congratulate. It isn't a question of social grace - being happy and proud is okay. It isn't a black and white issue - again I reference sports, I don't think it is a lack of grace to celebrate with teammates, in public, when you win an important game. And that is usually in front of the team that just lost the game. There is a line, but I don't think it is simply posting on facebook v. not posting on facebook. The way you use facebook and the content of the message determine the toolness.

Tool: 260 ON THE USMLE! ONE OF THE TOP SCORES IN THE NATION! AND ON THE 8TH DAY GOD CREATED ME!!!!!

NonTool - Step 1 = Rocked.

Disclaimer again: I did not and am not posting my score on facebook - I don't use facebook often so it would be out of character for me to post about it since I don't post about anything.

 

[kryptik]

Someone should create a poll to see what the majority of SDNers think about this issue. I was going to but can't find the exact wording I want to make this a fair/legit poll.

maybe one of the mods can edit the thread and include the poll

 

[FutureDoc4]

I wouldn't post my score because the scores are nonsense that no one would understand anyway. But if someone posted "KICKED STEP 1'S BUTT!!!" or even some clever take on the "so you're going to be a dermatologist" line all the attendings have used when asking us about our Step 1 grades on our rotations since we got our scores, I'm okay with that. I'd reply on my friends post and congratulate. It isn't a question of social grace - being happy and proud is okay. It isn't a black and white issue - again I reference sports, I don't think it is a lack of grace to celebrate with teammates, in public, when you win an important game. And that is usually in front of the team that just lost the game. There is a line, but I don't think it is simply posting on facebook v. not posting on facebook. The way you use facebook and the content of the message determine the toolness.

Tool: 260 ON THE USMLE! ONE OF THE TOP SCORES IN THE NATION! AND ON THE 8TH DAY GOD CREATED ME!!!!!

NonTool - Step 1 = Rocked.

Disclaimer again: I did not and am not posting my score on facebook - I don't use facebook often so it would be out of character for me to post about it since I don't post about anything.

This is what I was trying to convey. One is absolutely okay, one....I'll let the "majority" decide.

P.S. I can see vr123 and all his "nontool friends"...:

"hey, that 'toolbag' FutureDoc wouldn't tell me his Step 1 score after I asked him. I told him about my 299, even though he didn't ask, but he wouldn't share his score ! What a tool!"

 

[ent ent]

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[vr123]

This is what I was trying to convey. One is absolutely okay, one....I'll let the "majority" decide.

P.S. I can see vr123 and all his "nontool friends"...:

"hey, that 'toolbag' FutureDoc wouldn't tell me his Step 1 score after I asked him. I told him about my 299, even though he didn't ask, but he wouldn't share his score ! What a tool!"

For your information I only share my scores with my good friends, and they do the same for me because we actually help each other study and care about how our friends do. That's how good friends are.

Also, I can see what you'd say: "How dare those guys talk about getting scores higher than mine?? What tools! I'm so much better than them because I don't talk about my scores at all. I'm so much more cultured than them. Hey look, that guy posted on facebook that he failed. HAHAHA what a loser, I'm so much better than him too."

 

[FranklinBluthMD]

of course you worked hard for your score. but what if your friend worked even harder and s/he got lower than you? i would feel awful pushing that in their face with my status update, EVEN IF they SHOULD happy for me. but i don't expect that. the only person i need to satisfy is myself.

the bottom line is that if you want people to respect and like you, it'll be much harder if you're always telling the world about all the great things you do. that's just how it is. if you don't care that other people may not like you for posting, then whatever, do your thing. i certainly won't dislike someone for their posts, but i'll also never be the person posting.

I think you can still be respect again if it is in character and the way you do it. I never post the details (like the #), but if I do well, I am an excitable person - I may give the fist pump or a woo! if someone is around - it has nothing to do with rubbing it in anyones face and I'm well liked (at least I think so - we could poll my friends/people around me).

LIke I said, if you're the gunner who never talks except to share your grades and your USMLE score, thats toolish. But simply sharing your scores in whatever way isn't inherently toolish - there are degrees. It isn't black and white and I stand by that some people can post their grades, even excitement over their grades, and not be a tool.

 

[golfman]

Let's look at the positive and negatives about posting/not posting your scores on Facebook.

Posting your scores on Facebook
Positives- Everyone can see how smart you are. Or dumb.
Negatives- There is the possibility of annoying/offending many people and you will be known as a complete tool to a large number of people.

Not Posting your scores on Facebook
Positives- You won't offend anybody and you won't look like a tool.
Negatives- People may not know how incredibly gifted/talented you are.


I'll elect not to post my scores on Facebook, as to me it seems like the obvious choice.

 

[vr123]

Let's look at the positive and negatives about posting/not posting your scores on Facebook.

Posting your scores on Facebook
Positives- Everyone can see how smart you are. Or dumb.
Negatives- There is the possibility of annoying/offending many people and you will be known as a complete tool to a large number of people.

Anyone who is annoyed or offended by seeing me succeed at something I worked my butt off for months to prepare for is not my friend. I'm not going to worry about what they think. My score is posted there for my friends and family who want to see it and so I don't have to send out 50 emails and texts when people ask for my score. Everyone else can feel free to ignore.

 

[FutureDoc4]

Let's look at the positive and negatives about posting/not posting your scores on Facebook.

Posting your scores on Facebook
Positives- Everyone can see how smart you are. Or dumb.
Negatives- There is the possibility of annoying/offending many people and you will be known as a complete tool to a large number of people.

Not Posting your scores on Facebook
Positives- You won't offend anybody and you won't look like a tool.
Negatives- People may not know how incredibly gifted/talented you are.


I'll elect not to post my scores on Facebook, as to me it seems like the obvious choice.

perfecto

 

[JustSomePreMed]

Anyone who is annoyed or offended by seeing me succeed at something I worked my butt off for months to prepare for is not my friend.

Paging Dr. Strawman. Dr. Strawman to the OR, stat.

I had plenty of friends post something to the effect of "yes, Step I officially behind me!" or "all the hard work finally paid off!" And that's great, and I have nothing but good vibes sending their way.

But by default, posting your exact number is essentially saying "ok everyone, this is exactly where I stand, how do YOU stack up, huh??" Whether or not that's your intention is not really the important part here, because it is easily construed that way. Conveying your joy for passing and performing at/above your expectations is great. Putting your actual score out there for people who didn't ask (and who really asks anyway? no one besides other med students that I know even have a clue what the numbers mean) is extremely unbecoming. I'd be really embarrassed for anyone who did that.

Fortunately, my classmates so far have been quite good at exercising discretion. Surprisingly.

On here is completely different (Xanthamondo, I'm looking in your direction). This is an anonymous forum where hundreds of us have come together with the EXPRESS PURPOSE of discussing how to better perform on the test and many of us have chronicled our progress. But we're (almost) all just a bunch of random screennames with no faces or identities. In fact, threads like the "post your score" thread are a great way for people to showcase how their studying habits did (or didn't) work for them (although obviously some people just show up to post their scores and then leave). I know there are a few posters whose "this is my score and this is what I did" posts were a main driving force behind how I motivated myself to study. SDN is not real life, and to simply repeat "well if it's ok here why is it not ok in real life?" is to miss some fundamental differences between social networking and anonymous messageboards. For one, Facebook's newsfeed is basically people forcefeeding others their thoughts/musings/Step I scores. While you can adjust whose feeds you see more/less of, you can't control the garbage that spews forth from their keyboards. It's entirely unsolicited.

 

[2012mdc]

I wouldn't post my score because the scores are nonsense that no one would understand anyway. But if someone posted "KICKED STEP 1'S BUTT!!!" or even some clever take on the "so you're going to be a dermatologist" line all the attendings have used when asking us about our Step 1 grades on our rotations since we got our scores, I'm okay with that. I'd reply on my friends post and congratulate. It isn't a question of social grace - being happy and proud is okay. It isn't a black and white issue - again I reference sports, I don't think it is a lack of grace to celebrate with teammates, in public, when you win an important game. And that is usually in front of the team that just lost the game. There is a line, but I don't think it is simply posting on facebook v. not posting on facebook. The way you use facebook and the content of the message determine the toolness.

Tool: 260 ON THE USMLE! ONE OF THE TOP SCORES IN THE NATION! AND ON THE 8TH DAY GOD CREATED ME!!!!!

NonTool - Step 1 = Rocked.

Disclaimer again: I did not and am not posting my score on facebook - I don't use facebook often so it would be out of character for me to post about it since I don't post about anything.

Pretty much agree. There is absolutely no reason to post specifics on such a public place like facebook. Unless your fbook friends are only good friends in real life then there's no reason to get into specifics.

People can congratulate you without knowing your specific score. I completely understand wanting to share excitement and fbook is a great outlet to easily let a lot of ppl who care about it know. I won't go as far as to say it's toolish but it's simply unnecessary. I was very excited to get my score and shared my excitement with my family, my girlfriend, and my close friends who asked.

Friends will congratulate you whether you write "Step 1 - 278! Derm in LA or Derm in NY? : )" or "Very happy about Step 1! So thankful"

I do understand the 2nd statement can upset people who did not do well but they are going to be upset anyways. The 1st statement can upset everyone

 

[golfman]

Anyone who is annoyed or offended by seeing me succeed at something I worked my butt off for months to prepare for is not my friend. I'm not going to worry about what they think. My score is posted there for my friends and family who want to see it and so I don't have to send out 50 emails and texts when people ask for my score. Everyone else can feel free to ignore.

Maybe offended/annoyed wasn't a great choice of words.

But many people will think you are toolish, as we can see from many people posting on the forum.

 

[vr123]

Paging Dr. Strawman. Dr. Strawman to the OR, stat.

I had plenty of friends post something to the effect of "yes, Step I officially behind me!" or "all the hard work finally paid off!" And that's great, and I have nothing but good vibes sending their way.

There are many people on here who think even saying something like "rocked the step 1" or "did awesome on the step 1" is toolish. That is what my comments were directed against mainly.

As for why people want to know your exact score, people whom you studied with and shared your practice test scores want to know how it panned out in the end. I think that's perfectly reasonable.

Also, I don't have that many friends on facebook, only the ones I'm good friends with in real life. I'd imagine it would be different for people who added just about everyone they've ever met or added everyone in their class.

 

[JustSomePreMed]

As for why people want to know your exact score, people whom you studied with and shared your practice test scores want to know how it panned out in the end.

Cool, then give 'em a ring or send them a private message via facebook.

Don't forcefeed your score to everyone who's on your friend list.

 

[FutureDoc4]

There are many people on here who think even saying something like "rocked the step 1" or "did awesome on the step 1" is toolish. That is what my comments were directed against mainly.

As for why people want to know your exact score, people whom you studied with and shared your practice test scores want to know how it panned out in the end. I think that's perfectly reasonable.

Also, I don't have that many friends on facebook, only the ones I'm good friends with in real life. I'd imagine it would be different for people who added just about everyone they've ever met or added everyone in their class.

Looking back through the thread, shows very few (though there are some) people that share this opinion.

This has mostly to do with you sharing your exact score on facebook.

 

[vr123]

This has mostly to do with you sharing your exact score on facebook.

OK, well my opinion on that is I don't see a problem with it, if you want to. Then again, I'm a pretty open person and I don't have a problem sharing anything, really. If someone asks me for my score, I don't have an issue telling them, whether I bombed it or I did well. I'm completely open like that. I just put the information out there, there are people who care to know and the ones who don't care don't need to look and won't look anyway. I don't see how posting something up online is "forcefeeding" as some are saying here. It's not like you walked up to the guy and said it into his face...

 

[2012mdc]

OK, well my opinion on that is I don't see a problem with it, if you want to. Then again, I'm a pretty open person and I don't have a problem sharing anything, really. I just put the information out there, there are people who care to know and the ones who don't need to look. I don't see how posting something up online is "forcefeeding" as some are saying here. It's not like you walked up to the guy and said it into his face...

You mentioned that you only have close friends on fbook so it wouldn't be a big deal for you.

But for someone who has all their classmates on their friend list then it would be close to forcefeeding. A public post will go in the newsfeed and the more ppl that comment on it the more likely it is for more people to see it.

The other side of the coin is that if you're upset about your score and have a lot of classmates on fbook then you probably shouldn't be on fbook on score release day anyway - even benign statements like "happy about Step 1" can upset you if you are already feeling down

 

[vr123]

You mentioned that you only have close friends on fbook so it wouldn't be a big deal for you.

But for someone who has all their classmates on their friend list then it would be close to forcefeeding. A public post will go in the newsfeed and the more ppl that comment on it the more likely it is for more people to see it.

The other side of the coin is that if you're upset about your score and have a lot of classmates on fbook then you probably shouldn't be on fbook on score release day anyway - even benign statements like "happy about Step 1" can upset you if you are already feeling down

I agree. If you're the kind of person who's going to be easily upset by something like that, you should probably stay away from other people who are going to be talking about it. They shouldn't have to be totally somber and not celebrate for your sake.

 

[hazlet]

To add my 2 cents. Most people think saying something like, I did great on the boards!, is fine.

I don't really see what the difference is between that and posting up your actual score? If your actual score is good, doesn't it mean the same thing? So why yes to one and no to the other??

if you're gonna say you did well, why not how well?

This is coming from a guy who'd be happy to pass.

 

[nlax30]

I tend to agree with those on side of posting your score on FB as being borderline toolish in MOST cases. Someone above gave some examples that I agree with. To post that your "rocked" it to everyone is one thing, to start bragging about your 99 is another. I would think the type of people doing that are the type of people that others would EXPECT to do that so it might not be all that unexpected in the end and that act alone is not going to change others' perception of them.

That said, I don't think anyone in my class posted their scores publicly like that. I only shared with a few friends because we are close, studied together and they asked. If someone asks then I'll share, no problem.

It's possible someone can certainly be genuinely excited and post it out of sheer joy while not trying to be a tool or rub it people's face, but I just think that would be the exemption.

 

[Rikkye]

To join in the argument.

I think I could care less if ppl tattoo their scores on their foreheads or stop me in the hallway or tell me their scores even if I'm in the middle of lunch. The point is, they have the right to be happy and they should. They WORK HARD for it by sweating blood and tears, don't rain on their parade no matter now long it is.

If you find it annoying bc your score is lower, grow a thicker skin, If you find it annoying bc you have a higher score and don't want to tell anyone, don't be jealous.

Bottom line, getting a high score is something to be proud and happy about. Unless they directly tell you, "Your score sucks." you need to stop the hating and get over with judging people.

 

[vr123]

To join in the argument.

I think I could care less if ppl tattoo their scores on their foreheads or stop me in the hallway or tell me their scores even if I'm in the middle of lunch. The point is, they have the right to be happy and they should. They WORK HARD for it by sweating blood and tears, don't rain on their parade no matter now long it is.

If you find it annoying bc your score is lower, grow a thicker skin, If you find it annoying bc you have a higher score and don't want to tell anyone, don't be jealous.

Bottom line, getting a high score is something to be proud and happy about. Unless they directly tell you, "Your score sucks." you need to stop the hating and get over with judging people.

You said it perfectly. I agree with every word in your post 👍

 

[JustSomePreMed]

If you find it annoying bc your score is lower, grow a thicker skin, If you find it annoying bc you have a higher score and don't want to tell anyone, don't be jealous.

Why would anyone be jealous of a lower score?

 

[JustSomePreMed]

I don't see how posting something up online is "forcefeeding" as some are saying here. It's not like you walked up to the guy and said it into his face...

It's unsolicited. Your defense of your actions was "my close friends who I studied with want to know how I did." This can easily be achieved by a personal message or a cellular telephone communication transmission.

But putting it in your status update is throwing it out there for everyone to see, whether they wanted to or not. I honestly don't know why you want so bad to end up being "that guy", but every school has a couple.

If you are unable to understand the "forcefeeding" analogy in a non-literal sense, then I don't know what else to tell you.

 

[xanthomondo]

To join in the argument.

I think I could care less if ppl tattoo their scores on their foreheads or stop me in the hallway or tell me their scores even if I'm in the middle of lunch. The point is, they have the right to be happy and they should. They WORK HARD for it by sweating blood and tears, don't rain on their parade no matter now long it is.

If you find it annoying bc your score is lower, grow a thicker skin, If you find it annoying bc you have a higher score and don't want to tell anyone, don't be jealous.

Bottom line, getting a high score is something to be proud and happy about. Unless they directly tell you, "Your score sucks." you need to stop the hating and get over with judging people.

Why is this automatically the knee-jerk argument to posting your score on fb?

"Are you opposed to me posting my score? That's because you jealous and hatin!!!!!!" Give me a break and get over yourselves. You post your score as your status for one reason - to ***** some attention. If you really were that great of friends with someone (either on fb/real life or SDN) you would shoot them a private message or *gasp* even call them (if you're that good of friends) to give them the good news.

I told my closest family/friends my score and percentile, but I didn't do that by posting a status on facebook for everyone to see. I told them in person/on the phone because they were truly interested in how I did.

 

[Rikkye]

Why is this automatically the knee-jerk argument to posting your score on fb?

"Are you opposed to me posting my score? That's because you jealous and hatin!!!!!!" Give me a break and get over yourselves. You post your score as your status for one reason - to ***** some attention. If you really were that great of friends with someone (either on fb/real life or SDN) you would shoot them a private message or *gasp* even call them (if you're that good of friends) to give them the good news.

I told my closest family/friends my score and percentile, but I didn't do that by posting a status on facebook for everyone to see. I told them in person/on the phone because they were truly interested in how I did.

I don't know who your friends are on facebook, but I don't friend with just anyone.

Plus, if you're not their friend, why the hell are you on their friend list, and now you're hating because your "friend" want to share the good news to you? you're contradicting yourself.

 

[Rikkye]

Why would anyone be jealous of a lower score?

You're not jealous of the lower score, you're jealous of the fact that they have the guts to shamelessly announce it.
You might not be publicly announcing your score, but deep down inside, you know you have a superiority complex bc you have the better score. I smell hypocrisy.

 

[JustSomePreMed]

I don't know who your friends are on facebook, but I don't friend with just anyone.

Plus, if you're not their friend, why the hell are you on their friend list, and now you're hating because your "friend" want to share the good news to you? you're contradicting yourself.

Your friend list must look sad and lonely.

There's a difference between friends, pleasant acquaintances, and very good friends who also happen to be medical students and who you studied with and who are very interested in how you did for non-self-indulgent reasons.

 

[golfman]

Can some moderator merge the poll I created with this thread? I have no idea how to do it.

Poll Update- 75% so far think it's toolish to post your score on Facebook. If those that post it on Facebook don't mind 75% of their friends thinking they are tools, then by all means keep slapping those scores up on Facebook.

 

[JustSomePreMed]

You're not jealous of the lower score, you're jealous of the fact that they have the guts to shamelessly announce it.
You might not be publicly announcing your score, but deep down inside, you know you have a superiority complex bc you have the better score. I smell hypocrisy.

Eh, no Peg.

That's the silliest thing I've ever heard. I'm embarrassed as hell for the people who lack foresight and social awareness and go ahead and slap that three digit bad boy on their status update.

 

[jackieMD2007]

I love how everyone is still trying to be "special" even after:

1-being accepted to medical school
2-doing well enough in first and second years to take (and pass!) boards
3-doing well in third year

We can't really tell the pre-meds that they are being ridiculous when some of us are setting a totally bad example in steamrolling other medical students (read: future colleagues).

New Rule: anyone bragging about Step 1 scores in mixed company has to do all of the clinic FOBT cards for the day and take one for the team. You act like an a-hole, you get assigned one.

 

[Rikkye]

Your friend list must look sad and lonely.

There's a difference between friends, pleasant acquaintances, and very good friends who also happen to be medical students and who you studied with and who are very interested in how you did for non-self-indulgent reasons.

Damn, I blame by Cluster A trait.
But I agree, however, the point is don't be facebook friend them if you're irritated with their behavior. Sure you might say, it's toolish or childish, I think they're just freaking happy. The truth is, nobody on that friend list cares except for uptight medical students.

 

[allover]

more importantly why are med students using facebook? only peperoni i know who use it are still in high school.