yeah, i think it comes down to location. i have some friends at stony brook and they are happy there. but if being 1.5 hours from NYC is a serious concern of yours then perhaps downstate is a better pick. if it were me, i would go to stony. it's a great school, great people, great professors, lots of exciting research in the area (if you are into that sort of thing) and nice suburban environment with green and trees.
i'm would love to be at stony brook.