Yeah, I think you just need to stay off SDN for a bit. On SDN it sometimes seems like if you don’t go to a top 20 school, you aren’t anything special. Just be proud of what you accomplished knowing that thousands of people would love to be in your position. Everyone can’t be at a “top 20” school and most people aren’t at one, it’s just the fact that the top 20 kids are the ones that are more likely to be “proud” and feel the need to talk about it more.
This isn’t just in med school admissions, this happens in undergrad/high school academics, parents talking about their kids with other parents, athletics, etc. At times people want validation and the ability to feel great about themselves. Sometimes in the process, they make other people feel down if they aren’t at the same level, whether it is intentional or not. That is just life.
In the past, I wouldn’t feel good enough about myself because someone was always better than me. But I realized that you don’t need to be perfect to accomplish your dreams. I’ve never been “the best,” but I think I’ve done well for myself and I’m proud of what I’ve done. In the grand scheme of things like general people’s opinions (that’s what this comes down to) do not matter. Be happy for others and try your best in your everyday life. In YOUR life, it matters what YOU do. What do you make of the opportunities that you are given? Some people want things to happen, some people wish that things could happen, and some make it happen. Try to do the latter, and the med school you go to will be irrelevant. Yes some schools are better than others/provide more opportunities, but there isn’t some unbreakable barrier that says you can’t go to XYZ residency just because you aren’t at a top 20.