It isn't gaslighting when it's somebody's own opinion. To counter your point and raise discussion, there are a lot of other jobs that work nights, weekends, and holidays and pay much, much less than EM. From a risk standpoint, what's the true risk that a lawsuit is going to go above your malpractice limits? About as close to zero as it gets. That is looking at risk from only a financial standpoint and doesn't take into account the emotional and mental toll of being sued which are very real effects.
People complain about CMGs but yet people still work for CMGs. People complain about nights, weekends, holidays, etc. but most still work jobs that require them. It's because people put themselves and their family over pretty much anything else. I'm not saying that's a bad thing but it's the reality of our current situation.