Etiquette when staying with student hosts

[CerealBox]

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Did most applicants who stayed with student hosts at a medical school normally bring their hosts a present? buy them dinner?
What is the general etiquette when staying with these hosts?

The students are VERY nice for taking in random applicants, especially considering their heavy MS schedules. I hope everyone is greatful and leaves good impressions so that these programs aren't discontinued.

 

[efex101]

dinner/lunch would be nice...most of the folks that I hosted did this...

 

[njbmd]

Did most applicants who stayed with student hosts at a medical school normally bring their hosts a present? buy them dinner?
What is the general etiquette when staying with these hosts?

The students are VERY nice for taking in random applicants, especially considering their heavy MS schedules. I hope everyone is greatful and leaves good impressions so that these programs aren't discontinued.

Hi there,
It is a very nice thing to bring a small token of appreciation to your student host. It can be something like home-baked (or bakery purchased) goodies or something from where you live. Any busy student would appreciate a little token of thanks.

You probably should offer to buy dinner or have something delivered especially if your student host is nearing exam time or busy studying. A little card of thanks is a great thing too since they are opening up their home to you. If they are too busy to dine with you or spend much time with you, still have something delivered to express your appreciation. If you send a note or card of thanks, send a copy to the Dean of Admissions (lets them know that you have manners and lets them know that your student host was helpful).

When I hosted, I tried to have a list of places where students lived and took a little time to drive my applicant around campus and the city. All in all, it took about an hour away from my study time (I really needed the break). I also tried to answer questions as much as possible too. My visiting applicants were great folks and I really wanted to be as helpful as possible. It has to been pretty stressful coming to a strange city for an important interview.

Good luck!
njbmd 🙂

 

[shivalrous]

I know this one chic that would have hookups with her student hosts....not sure exactly how it went about...I thought girls were supposed to get female hosts. 🙄

 

[CerealBox]

I know this one chic that would have hookups with her student hosts....not sure exactly how it went about...I thought girls were supposed to get female hosts. 🙄

Interesting... Just once or multiple times?

 

[jon0013]

Interesting... Just once or multiple times?

hahaha what a skeezer......

 

[duke05]

I don't understand.. her hosts hooked her up admissions-wise, or she hooked up with her hosts? two very different things..

 

[willthatsall]

I bought my host a beer at the bar. He actually picked up my dinner and wouldn't let me pay him back. I offered to pay and get his, but he wouldn't hear it. I guess it just depends on the host. I don't know about sending a thank-you note and making a copy to send to the dean. That looks like you are just doing it to strengthen your chances.

 

[ironey]

Bringing a small hostess-type gift or buying lunch/dinner are all very nice things to do to say "thank you." I hosted students last year and the year before and always appreciated interviewees who made a little gesture of thanks and picked up after him/herself.

I hosted the gamut of irritating, ate my food for dinner, didn't clean her own dishes all the way to applicants who brought their own tea for breakfast and bought me dinner. For one girl, I even wrote an email to the admissions director because she was so cool. I don't think it affected her application (my school doesn't work that way), but I was happy to make the gesture notheless.

 

[vhawk]

I think proper etiquette says if it comes in a bottle with 1.75L marked on it, its acceptable.

 

[OSUdoc08]

Did most applicants who stayed with student hosts at a medical school normally bring their hosts a present? buy them dinner?
What is the general etiquette when staying with these hosts?

The students are VERY nice for taking in random applicants, especially considering their heavy MS schedules. I hope everyone is greatful and leaves good impressions so that these programs aren't discontinued.

Don't be a loser. Show up ready to get drunk with them.

All of my student hosts took me out.

 

[dilated]

Don't be a loser. Show up ready to get drunk with them.

All of my student hosts took me out.

Dude, don't you have to do the interview the next day? If I go out and get wasted I'm going to be in no shape for an 11am interview. I'll probably sit there and play frickin solitaire or something.

 

[OSUdoc08]

Dude, don't you have to do the interview the next day? If I go out and get wasted I'm going to be in no shape for an 11am interview. I'll probably sit there and play frickin solitaire or something.

11am interview?

Boo-hoo

Ethanol is an anti-anxiety medication

Solitaire? Blow off your host---good idea

Lame

 

[willthatsall]

Dude, don't you have to do the interview the next day? If I go out and get wasted I'm going to be in no shape for an 11am interview. I'll probably sit there and play frickin solitaire or something.

I thought the same thing, but peer pressure got to me. I mean, if you go there do you want your host and all the other MSII's to think you are a giant p***y next year? I guess it depends on who your host is, but I couldn't turn down a trip to the bar.

 

[OSUdoc08]

I thought the same thing, but peer pressure got to me. I mean, if you go there do you want your host and all the other MSII's to think you are a giant p***y next year? I guess it depends on who your host is, but I couldn't turn down a trip to the bar.

Especially when there are medical students on the interview committee.

Word travels fast as to who the lame ones are.

 

[dilated]

11am interview?

Boo-hoo

Ethanol is an anti-anxiety medication

Solitaire? Blow off your host---good idea

Lame

Maybe for you "getting drunk" involves having a couple appletinis and watching some matlock. When I get trashed, I am nonfunctional the next day until at least noon and bystanders typically express shock and horror at my hungover appearance when I emerge earlier. In theory a few beers would be OK, but more often "a few beers" is followed by "a few more beers" and then "beer goggles induced body shots".

Maybe I'd better start scheduling afternoon interviews when I'm staying with student hosts.

 

[OSUdoc08]

Maybe for you "getting drunk" involves having a couple appletinis and watching some matlock. When I get trashed, I am nonfunctional the next day until at least noon and bystanders typically express shock and horror at my hungover appearance when I emerge earlier. In theory a few beers would be OK, but more often "a few beers" is followed by "a few more beers" and then "beer goggles induced body shots".

Maybe I'd better start scheduling afternoon interviews when I'm staying with student hosts.

Or you could learn some SELF CONTROL

 

[dilated]

Or you could learn some SELF CONTROL

There's a difference between having a beer or two to be polite and getting drunk. You said go get drunk. Maybe you've got a will of iron, but I always thought impaired judgement was one of the high points of drunkenness

 

[OSUdoc08]

There's a difference between having a beer or two to be polite and getting drunk. You said go get drunk. Maybe you've got a will of iron, but I always thought impaired judgement was one of the high points of drunkenness

You can get drunk with just beer.

That is a different drunk than have shots of liquor after beer, which is what the poster was referring to.

If you get drunk, but take some food, gatorade, advil, multivitamins, and chaser.....you should feel great in the morning.

 

[drmota]

you guys are f*cking weird.
-mota

 

[glp]

Maybe for you "getting drunk" involves having a couple appletinis and watching some matlock. When I get trashed, I am nonfunctional the next day until at least noon and bystanders typically express shock and horror at my hungover appearance when I emerge earlier. In theory a few beers would be OK, but more often "a few beers" is followed by "a few more beers" and then "beer goggles induced body shots".

Maybe I'd better start scheduling afternoon interviews when I'm staying with student hosts.

ditto

 

[tank you]

i dont know what the hell you guys are saying about getting drunk. you have to be an idiot to get wasted the night before an interview.

 

[tank you]

Or you could learn some SELF CONTROL

you know that everyone has different tolerance levels right? so one beer for some = wasted. therefore not a good idea to drink at all 👎

 

[willthatsall]

I don't advise people to get hangovers on interview days, but assuming you have had a drink before you should be able to know the point that you shouldn't go past in order to function the next day. I would say get buzzed, hydrate well, take some tylenol before bed, and enjoy your interview day. Don't drink until you pass out, wake up in a puddle of your own urine, and puke on your shoes walking to your interview. There is a middle ground between not drinking and a night of true debauchery, that is the area that I'm advocating.

 

[vhawk]

No way, you gotta go out and get trashed the night before! Otherwise, what will you have to talk about during your interview? Mine only asked me about undergrad coeds....

Also, interview day is over at 3. No one ever said you needed to be conscious to get on a plane.

 

[OSUdoc08]

you know that everyone has different tolerance levels right? so one beer for some = wasted. therefore not a good idea to drink at all 👎

If you get drunk after one beer, then you either better build up a tolerance before medical school or consider a new career.

 

[aumed22]

I have yet to stay with a student host, but I would be more than happy to go out to the bar, before or after any interview.

 

[CerealBox]

If you get drunk after one beer, then you either better build up a tolerance before medical school or consider a new career.

Why? Does being a doctor require having a tolerance for beer? I don't drink at all (because I have zero tolerance), and I've never considered that a problem with regards to my career choice.

??

 

[ShyRem]

I figure I'll make my hosts a dinner of crepes filled with fruit and bring a bottle of Colorado wine to have with it. I figure a good homemade dinner is always a good reward. Maybe even with homemade cookies. And I'll clean up afterwards. (can you tell I'm a mom?)

As for beer, it whacks out my BG and sends me to the ER with hypoglycemia. Can't have beer.

 

[OSUdoc08]

Why? Does being a doctor require having a tolerance for beer? I don't drink at all (because I have zero tolerance), and I've never considered that a problem with regards to my career choice.

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Have you ever hung out with doctors or medical students on their time off?

 

[CerealBox]

Have you ever hung out with doctors or medical students on their time off?

Yes, at least 3 times/week.
You are absomultely wrong if you are making the assumption that all (or even the majority) or doctors get drunk whenever they have time off.

I know many doctors who don't drink, many who have an occasional cocktail or beer, and one or two who get drunk.

Maybe its cultural/geographical differences.

 

[OSUdoc08]

Yes, at least 3 times/week.
You are absomultely wrong if you are making the assumption that all (or even the majority) or doctors get drunk whenever they have time off.

I know many doctors who don't drink, many who have an occasional cocktail or beer, and one or two who get drunk.

Maybe its cultural/geographical differences.

You should try hanging out in the southwest.

I also hang out with young ER doctors & orthopods----not geriatricians 😴

 

[JustR]

Yes, at least 3 times/week.
You are absomultely wrong if you are making the assumption that all (or even the majority) or doctors get drunk whenever they have time off.

I know many doctors who don't drink, many who have an occasional cocktail or beer, and one or two who get drunk.

Maybe its cultural/geographical differences.

I agree that you don't have to drink to hang around with doctors or even with people who drink alcohol much often. People don't drink alcohol everywhere. There are other places and other type of people who drink much often water and juice rather than alcohol. I have seen some doctors like that.

 

[jj08]

Aside from all this drunk talk, if you have an interview in the middle of the week would the student host expect you to come in the night before your interview or would it be pushing it to come in earlier? Tickets are so friggin expensive for mid-week! 🙁

 

[LaurieB]

Aside from all this drunk talk, if you have an interview in the middle of the week would the student host expect you to come in the night before your interview or would it be pushing it to come in earlier? Tickets are so friggin expensive for mid-week! 🙁

At our school, they only offer one night with a student host, but I've let folks stay longer if they needed to. Just depends on the school's hosting program and your host.

In terms of giving your host something, I never expect anything. But I really appreciate a thank you note or email and I like to hear where people ended up if they didn't come to Loyola. I've had interviewees offer to buy lunch or dinner and I always refuse since the interview process is so damn expensive in the first place. That's just me. You could also bring a small gift as a thank you, but don't feel like you need to do much. People who offer to host typically do it because they want to help out and help you keep your interview costs down.

My 2 cents!
Laurie

 

[ShyRem]

I've been very pleased with Southwest's ticket prices. They're usually cheaper mid-week, too - they say less folks travel then so they're trying to fill up the seats. My Sunday ticket from Denver to Baltimore was like $189 on Sunday - would have been $131 max if I'd traveled on Tuesday instead.

I'm offering to cook dinner for my hosts. Pretty cheap, fun for me, and a no-stresser for them.

 

[jj08]

I'm offering to cook dinner for my hosts. Pretty cheap, fun for me, and a no-stresser for them.

Easy for you to say 😛 ! Your host is your brother!

 

[TheMightyAngus]

So what's the setup like for staying with a host? Do they stick you on the couch/floor? Is it pretty standard to hit the bars with your hosts before the big day? I don't mind buying a round of drinks after the deed, but I'd rather stay focused on the task at hand the night before. Like a boxer: no sex, no booze, no drugs before the fight. Just a good night's sleep.

 

[willthatsall]

So what's the setup like for staying with a host? Do they stick you on the couch/floor? Is it pretty standard to hit the bars with your hosts before the big day? I don't mind buying a round of drinks after the deed, but I'd rather stay focused on the task at hand the night before. Like a boxer: no sex, no booze, no drugs before the fight. Just a good night's sleep.

I doubt you'll be there the night after the interview, will you? It was either the couch or an air mattress for me, which is about what I expected.

 

[dbhvt]

I would say get buzzed, hydrate well, take some tylenol before bed, and enjoy your interview day.

Advil, not tylenol. Seriously. Take tylenol after drinking and you're just making more work for your liver.

 

[ShyRem]

Easy for you to say 😛 ! Your host is your brother!

Actually, only ONE of my hosts is my brother - and he probably won't let me cook for him. He'll want to impress me by cooking for me. No, I'm going to cook for my non-related hosts. 🙂

 

[OSUdoc08]

So what's the setup like for staying with a host? Do they stick you on the couch/floor? Is it pretty standard to hit the bars with your hosts before the big day? I don't mind buying a round of drinks after the deed, but I'd rather stay focused on the task at hand the night before. Like a boxer: no sex, no booze, no drugs before the fight. Just a good night's sleep.

Hitting bars is essential. I did this with all of my hosts (4 interviews.)