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As an M1 I am thinking wayyyy ahead here, but as a married & somewhat older student who is hoping to start a family in the near future, I am curious to hear some perspectives
My husband is entering med school next year so he is a year behind me. We will either couples match, or I will be a year ahead and he will try to match me geographically (we're hoping to be in NY anyway, somewhere with a lot of options). The dean at my school recommends staggering it, saying that my being somewhere already provides far better leverage, and couples matching is so risky.
My question is for fellowships... we are each interested in fields that require one (I KNOW it is early and we could well end up changing our minds, but better to begin understanding the process just in case)... what is the process like for married couples matching into a fellowship at the same time? Would this also be a situation in which it may be better to stagger by a year (me one year ahead, he follows me)?
It just makes me anxious if I'm always a year ahead, because if we end up having children in the next few years as is our hope, that would obviously complicate things--if it was just the two of us we could spend a year long distance, but probably not a good idea if kids are involved.
Please be kind... I've seen some animosity in threads about balancing family/motherhood and medicine lol. We are living near family and will be able to afford some help, so childcare isn't as big of an issue as keeping the family together geographically
Thanks!!
Edit: In case my concerns seem unclear, see bolded last sentence. I want to hear perspectives on how hard/easy it is to stay geographically together, especially if we have kids. Is it better to stagger or match together, for both residency and fellowship
My husband is entering med school next year so he is a year behind me. We will either couples match, or I will be a year ahead and he will try to match me geographically (we're hoping to be in NY anyway, somewhere with a lot of options). The dean at my school recommends staggering it, saying that my being somewhere already provides far better leverage, and couples matching is so risky.
My question is for fellowships... we are each interested in fields that require one (I KNOW it is early and we could well end up changing our minds, but better to begin understanding the process just in case)... what is the process like for married couples matching into a fellowship at the same time? Would this also be a situation in which it may be better to stagger by a year (me one year ahead, he follows me)?
It just makes me anxious if I'm always a year ahead, because if we end up having children in the next few years as is our hope, that would obviously complicate things--if it was just the two of us we could spend a year long distance, but probably not a good idea if kids are involved.
Please be kind... I've seen some animosity in threads about balancing family/motherhood and medicine lol. We are living near family and will be able to afford some help, so childcare isn't as big of an issue as keeping the family together geographically
Thanks!!
Edit: In case my concerns seem unclear, see bolded last sentence. I want to hear perspectives on how hard/easy it is to stay geographically together, especially if we have kids. Is it better to stagger or match together, for both residency and fellowship
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