In other words, those in medical training (clinical years of med school and most residencies ) should be able to devote their full attention to their training. I don't think a single parent of a young child should be in medical training. Their parent status before and after medical training makes no diffference to me.
Come on guys, get it together, if you're entering residency partner-less (or partnered without backup backup childcare) just put your kids in cryo for a few years. . . everything will be cooler when they wake up, they'll always look young, and they'll thank you for it.
As for 'sick days"
Do I think people should be absent from work due to a child's illness? Generally, no. Have I graciously covered for colleagues who had a sick kid
and a partner but for some reason the partner wasn't able to manage the illness/ER visit on their own - absolutely. Would I want them to do the same for me if I had a kid? Yes. Would I be at the bedside of my parent, sibling, or even (certain) aunt/uncle/cousins if they had a serious illness, and expecting one of my colleagues to graciously cover for me? Absolutely. Our families put up with our long work hours, intense focus on the job (which may occasionally translate into neglect of focus on them), and dedication to patient care (often rather than doing something with them.) The least we can do (as a group of doctors) is to ensure that when they really need us - when they are ill - we will be there for them, and someone will be take care of our patients for us.
I never took a sick day in residency, though I was fortunate to be at a program with a backup call system. I was ill enough to do it once, but it would have required a use of the pull schedule, and I only had five patients and a super supportive staff, so I was in and out in a few hours. I was pulled all three years to cover other people, and in my final year of residency to cover interns more than once. I frequently thought these were "Bogus" reasons for me to be there, but I did the work without complaining (much). I voluntarily spent a week and a half on a service I
hated covering for a resident who was physically well but clearly incapable of devoting adequate attention to the patients at the time. Why? Because, really it is about the patients. If someone is too sick to provide adequate patient care, OR if they're worried about their sick kid (Mom, sibling, spouse) and going to be distracted from patient care, they shouldn't be at the hospital. Even when it's something we think we could 'work through' we have to trust our colleagues to know when they aren't able to do the job adequately, and cover for them when they can't. If it becomes clear that the system is being abused we call foul (or "unprofessionalism!") and determine whether the person is just really not interested in working generally (maybe shouldn't be a doctor/in their current field) or is abusing their colleagues and then should be made to repay the time during their vacation.
This is from a medicine perspective, where there are elective / outpatient months and backup call. In the surgical specialties, I think the above is still true (if someone is ill and can't do the job adequately, they shouldn't be responsible for patients) but I recognize there is much much less lee way to give people time off. Therefore, there must be an even stronger community of trust between colleagues that if someone needs a day off they really NEED it and you figure it out, but everyone tries extra hard not to need one.