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Hello. I never thought I would have this problem, but I thought that maybe I could get some helpful advice in the surgical forum. I'm the only woman in an otherwise all-male fellowship program (in IM). I really like the guys - everyone is very cool here and there is a good atmosphere overall. I also feel like the faculty here are the most supportive I've worked with (better than med school or residency). However, sometimes I just still feel like I'm socially "out of it". I mean, I just don't have all the same interests that the guys have and I honestly am not going to be able to do all the stuff they do. I'm pretty athletic but still if there is some sort of social event that involves sports (basketball game, foot race, etc.) obviously I'm going to lose big time, every time. I actually think it's nice that the fellows (and sometimes attendings too) actually do stuff together outside of work, but I just feel like I don't fit in and sometimes that I'm going to be a 3rd wheel if I show up at these things. I mean, I seriously doubt that a bunch of single guys going clubbing or to play golf, etc. really want me along. On the other hand, I don't want to seem unfriendly or that I'm not interested in being friends.
Wow, that sounded like a big time whine-fest. I honestly don't think this is anyone's fault (other than mine, maybe). I just have never been in this position before (since IM residencies all have tons of women). I think thing are exacerbated also by the fact that I moved out of state to somewhere where I knew nobody and had no social support system, and then started working kind of a lot of hrs (not surgical hours, but still not cakewalk work hours). I'm honestly just looking for advice on how I can make things better.
Wow, that sounded like a big time whine-fest. I honestly don't think this is anyone's fault (other than mine, maybe). I just have never been in this position before (since IM residencies all have tons of women). I think thing are exacerbated also by the fact that I moved out of state to somewhere where I knew nobody and had no social support system, and then started working kind of a lot of hrs (not surgical hours, but still not cakewalk work hours). I'm honestly just looking for advice on how I can make things better.