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We just just ban Lingerie.
You shut your ***** mouth!
We just just ban Lingerie.
I think the worst part of all of this is that the joke wasn't even good.
I would have to assume, based on the phasing of the comment, that it was repetition of a joke from the old British TV show "Are you being Served" in which a man, when asked where he is wanting to go, jokes about going to the ladies lingerie floor. The punchline being the "irony" and satire of be being a man and would not really being going there (i.e .sarcasm). I wouldn't expect people to instantly recognize this, and it may have poor joke judgement on his part, but to make this some kind of ridiculous #mettoo moment is ludicrous and undermines the whole issue of subtle misogyny in our culture, which I agree is real.
I have a few opinions on this..
1) men should prabably avoid talking about underwear with woman on elevators, even if meant as a joke. Just plain better for everyone that way. Stare forward and step off when the door opens on your floor.
2) this should have dealt with informally and directly, in the form of “I don’t like that joke” or “don’t talk about underwear in enclosed spaces with women you don’t know- it could make them uncomfortable.
This reeks of “point proving” rather than an honest reaction meant to right a wrong and address a truly unsafe situation.
I was speaking to my wife about this this morning. She leans HEAVILY to left on such issues (she’s got a degree in woman’s studies from the college in Amherst that isn’t UMass or Amherst College) and she was kinda pissed by this, making the point that this woman’s response sends a message that woman are so weak that they can’t deal with a stupid (and harmless) joke from an old man without feeling vulnerable.
If you don’t get the joke, it’s just a weird dude talking about underwear (lingerie=underwear). Otherwise I agree with you- this should just be a story about some weird old guy in an elevator.The "joke" was not about underwear. This was misplaced satire that in any other year people would have had the common sense to either ignore or make a passing comment about "some goofy dude" on on elevator they were on with once.
Good God, whatever happened to good stories?! My family lives in Cincii, and this is would be one of many good Thanksgiving stories to tell about your goofy or ****ed up neighborhood in which you lived. Its a new age and such, but let get real here folks!
It’s also worth noting that harassment is pretty much universally defined as a repetitive behavior. Eg why asking a coworker out once is not harassment. But, universities consistently believe that their little honor courts can act however they want.
That's a pretty crazy Pandora's box.
Agreed. Been on those before.Ah. The title ix courts? Yeah that’s ah!t show.
Would something appalling entertain you?I'm bored. Entertain me, SDN denizens.
If you were here you’d see that i am putting a toy on my head, acting like I can’t find it, then pretending to sneeze and acting surprised when it falls into my lap.I'm bored. Entertain me, SDN denizens.
If you were here you’d see that i am putting a toy on my head, acting like I can’t find it, then pretending to sneeze and acting surprised when it falls into my lap.
Usually part of a 90791 or 96118What billing code is that under?
I don’t know why I think you’re in NYC?
Wow.
What a jackass.
I do note that the airforce base hospital apparently doesn't condone "exposure" therapy.
That's not true. Just look at all these studies supporting the efficacy of paying a veteran's spouse to be their caregiver:Good to know that they don't condone the most efficacious form of therapy for PTSD. Although the military and VA also pay for EMDR and acupuncture. For organizations that were supposedly leading the charge with EBT/ESTs, they've taken a huge step back in eschewing what works for a variety of placebos.
Tl;dr: I feel like I've sucked at being a PhD student this year and I don't get how people feel energized by this experience. Is this burnout?
Tl;dr: I feel like I've sucked at being a PhD student this year and I don't get how people feel energized by this experience. Is this burnout?
There are times in life where keeping things afloat is the best you are going to do and that is alright. You're in the end of first year? You have the luxury of time and my guess is that you are a low priority compared to keeping things moving for those on the other end. There are going to be many points going forward where it will feel like you are treading water. Learn to enjoy those times a bit more as those are often the times you should be enjoying life and conserving energy for future periods of high production rather than stressing over when that period will arrive. Just remember that what you need to do is survive not necessarily always kick behind.
This is certainly your prerogative, and I think most of us can respect your choice not to share some details. I do want to point out, however, that if you aren’t presenting all the information, then any advice you get here is based on incomplete data and should be approached cautiously....(there's some context that I won't get into)