Getting married during clinicals?!

[Megustamaiz]

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I need some help here guys! I am in the process of planning a late September/Fall wedding but I can't pick a year yet! I start school this fall, and I know that I can't get married this year because my older brother is getting married at the end of August. My parents also want 1+ years after my brother's wedding to save money for mine, because they're putting down a huge chunk of change for my brother's wedding, so even next year is too early for me! Ay, so this puts me at 3rd or 4th year. I understand that the clinical years will be especially busy, but can somebody please tell me if one year is better than another to get married or rather plan a wedding? Any help would be appreciated. Thanks!

 

[Krazykritter]

I am a MSI this year and I got married the Saturday before my school started on Monday. I can tell you that it was pretty much a pain in the rear as I had to pay an extra months rent on an apartment just so I could gaurantee my spot so we could move in early and not have to worry about that the morning after.

That being said, my wife, her mother, and my mother did most of the planning, but it still required a significant amount of time from me (discussing things I mostly didn't care about). Anyway, I have think that if you were going to get married, the clinical years would be the better time to do it b/c (from what I have heard) as long as you keep up w/ your reading, once you are done at the hospital/clinic for the day, you are done. You don't have to go home and spend every waking moment studying for that next test or Step I.

Just my two cents but I have not been in clinicals yet so...

 

[shminger]

I need some help here guys! I am in the process of planning a late September/Fall wedding but I can't pick a year yet! I start school this fall, and I know that I can't get married this year because my older brother is getting married at the end of August. My parents also want 1+ years after my brother's wedding to save money for mine, because they're putting down a huge chunk of change for my brother's wedding, so even next year is too early for me! Ay, so this puts me at 3rd or 4th year. I understand that the clinical years will be especially busy, but can somebody please tell me if one year is better than another to get married or rather plan a wedding? Any help would be appreciated. Thanks!

Congrats fellow DMUer!

 

[Portier]

That being said, my wife, her mother, and my mother did most of the planning, but it still required a significant amount of time from me (discussing things I mostly didn't care about). Anyway, I have think that if you were going to get married...

HA!

 

[eegerstm]

HA!

I am a third year med student...I got married August on my 3rd year. My school (CCOM) gives you one month vacation over 3rd and 4th year. It is an elective month so what I did was split it and did 2 weeks elective and 2 weeks vaca. I planned my wedding and hoped I would have my elective then. The school was cool about giving me the tract that would work for me. Talk to your dean of students and it can work out. I even went on a 10 day honeymoon! good luck.

 

[Megustamaiz]

I am a third year med student...I got married August on my 3rd year. My school (CCOM) gives you one month vacation over 3rd and 4th year. It is an elective month so what I did was split it and did 2 weeks elective and 2 weeks vaca. I planned my wedding and hoped I would have my elective then. The school was cool about giving me the tract that would work for me. Talk to your dean of students and it can work out. I even went on a 10 day honeymoon! good luck.

My last response didn't post. This forum has been crashing a lot lately. But yes, wow. A 10 day honeymoon! I just want to have at least a full weekend. I will take you advice and talk to the dean of students before I start any heavy planning. I don't know very much about how rotations are ordered at DMU, so my concern is that I will either be in transit between rotations or be in the middle of a rotation that I can't step away from. I guess I'll just have to wait and see, but I'm glad to hear that it can be done! Thank you for sharing!

 

[Shodddy18]

The summer after first year was the perfect time for me. We did it then because we did not think there would be enough time the summer between second and third year... but now that we are already married it looks like there will be time this summer... but we are already married. I think it would be harder durring third and fourth year, or because there is no summer break between. Not enough time... especially if you want to go on a honeymoon.... Europe was fantastic 😉

 

[sophiejane]

Congrats on your engagement!

Take this with a grain of salt because I am twice married and once divorced--the divorce was > 6 yrs before starting med school, (although my "current" husband--as I like to call him when he's in trouble--is the absolute undeniable love of my life) and also because I've watched several marriages dissolve rapidly in my own medical school class...

I suggest you TRY to wait until at least the end of 4th year. See how you guys do the next 4 years. They can be rough ones on a new marriage or even an old one.

I know you don't want to hear that. But trying to add wedding planning to an already stressful 4 years is a recipe for disaster.

Having said that, my second wedding was in the middle of my 2nd year! 😉 (Am I a hipocrite or what?) BUT...I was also 10+ years older than I was on marriage #1 and we had been dating/living together for 4 years before tying the knot.

It was an extremely small and intimate affair for 35 guests. Got my wedding dress online and my sister did all the planning. It was absolutely perfect.

I know you won't follow my advice, and that you'll probably have a big, gorgeous wedding at the beginning of 3rd year, 😉 but just give it lots and lots and lots of thought, before you do.

Best of luck, to both of you!

 

[Claymore]

Can it be late in your MS-2 year? For instance, over Christmas break, Spring Break, or in the summer before MS-3 rotations start? A lot of people in my class (including myself) got married during these times and things worked out well. I did it over Christmas break and was able to take a honeymoon for 6 days following the wedding.

Otherwise, does your school give you a Christmas break during MS-3/4? That might work too. I know you mentioned planning a Fall wedding in your post, but that might be pretty difficult unless your school gives you time off that you can use whenever you want.

 

[Krazykritter]

DMU's X-mas break is kind of short (I think we had just two full weeks) but it could leave you time to get married. The only problem being that you will have plenty of appointments right around finals time where you will be finalizing numbers and other things.