Girlfriend doesn't know I've been accepted, dug myself into a deep hole.

[Lucca]

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Rub it in her face and tell her that now when you get married she will have to be the stay at home parent that takes care of the kids and cleans the house while you are off saving the world and living your dream

Spoiler: Mindy Project

Literally the Mindy Project season finale

 

[Demosthenes1]

Medical school > GF

Liesssss.
Med school won't hold you when you're crying after coming down from post-Anatomy exam Adderall use

 

[JustAPhD]

Wow, I am really shocked at all the responses telling the OP to tell the truth, come clean, even knowing that his girlfriend will dump him for the dishonesty.

I'm gonna be the only one here to spit some truth: When you've dug a hole too deep to climb out of, sometimes you have to keep on digging until you come out on the other side. OP, you're best bet is to keep the lie going. Tell her you got into an SMP at the med school you decide to attend. If you are lucky, she'll have to live somewhere else next year for whatever her plans are. Best case scenario: the long distance proves too much for your relationship and you split ways and never have to deal with this. Worst case scenario: she falls to pieces, makes no plans for the future, and comes to live with you at your school of matriculation. Things aren't over at this point. You live the double life which should be easy as a SMP is probably as busy as a first year med student. If your gf then gets accepted into the med school you're at and you finally have to confront this head on, you tell her that you did so awesome in the SMP that they made a special exception and allowed to you to move straight to the second year class. This may sound extraordinary to her at first, so just remember this: It's not a lie, if you believe it.

Thread title next year:
"Girlfriend found out I've been in Med School and not a SMP for the past year---she's at my door with a shotgun please help"

 

[whatever5]

Wow, I am really shocked at all the responses telling the OP to tell the truth, come clean, even knowing that his girlfriend will dump him for the dishonesty.

I'm gonna be the only one here to spit some truth: When you've dug a hole too deep to climb out of, sometimes you have to keep on digging until you come out on the other side. OP, you're best bet is to keep the lie going. Tell her you got into an SMP at the med school you decide to attend. If you are lucky, she'll have to live somewhere else next year for whatever her plans are. Best case scenario: the long distance proves too much for your relationship and you split ways and never have to deal with this. Worst case scenario: she falls to pieces, makes no plans for the future, and comes to live with you at your school of matriculation. Things aren't over at this point. You live the double life which should be easy as a SMP is probably as busy as a first year med student. If your gf then gets accepted into the med school you're at and you finally have to confront this head on, you tell her that you did so awesome in the SMP that they made a special exception and allowed to you to move straight to the second year class. This may sound extraordinary to her at first, so just remember this: It's not a lie, if you believe it.

This lie sounds way too high maintenance. Way easier to pretend to get a late cycle II and acceptance.

 

[whatever5]

I agree. We don't know the whole story. There is always a tendency for people to assume that the woman is the crazy neurotic vindictive one. If you read the earlier posts those words were used to describe a person we don't know. That is why I chose to offer an alternative point of view. Then one person said something about keeping a girl distracted by buying her designer clothes.... Just another one of those things that's just annoying and a little misogynistic.

Agreed and point taken.

 

[Donald Juan]

This lie sounds way too high maintenance. Way easier to pretend to get a late cycle II and acceptance.

Good idea, and thank God someone else wants to offer something constructive to the OP, rather than "lol ur screwed dude" and "your relationship must not mean much if you weren't honest!"

Anybody else have some good suggestions? We're supposed to be some of the smartest people in the world, I'm sure we can think of a way to weasel out of this one with minimal chance of failure.

 

[wagonwheel23]

@Donald Juan I'm coming to you the next time I find myself in a sticky situation.

 

[ortnakas]

Exactly -- The OP believed his GF would react badly to his success and would make some sort of scene. Either he's right and she's awful. Or he's wrong and is a wimp of the highest order.

This sums it up.

And if sitcoms (and certain ABC soap opera dramas) have taught us nothing else, it's that trying to make up for lies with more lies rarely ends well. I'd come clean as soon as possible. "I didn't want to make you feel worse, but I actually got into med school" MIGHT work. "I never told you about getting accepted but actually I'm moving for med school next month," definitely won't.

 

[ImmunoLove]

Exactly -- The OP believed his GF would react badly to his success and would make some sort of scene. Either he's right and she's awful. Or he's wrong and is a wimp of the highest order.

This. Tell her immediately. Deal with what happens.

 

[ImmunoLove]

Good idea, and thank God someone else wants to offer something constructive to the OP, rather than "lol ur screwed dude" and "your relationship must not mean much if you weren't honest!"

Anybody else have some good suggestions? We're supposed to be some of the smartest people in the world, I'm sure we can think of a way to weasel out of this one with minimal chance of failure.

Imo research/PhD smarts >> MD smarts. Not to start something, but MDs are far from "some of the smartest people in the world". Smarter than average, absolutely, but smarter than other "smart people", debatable. I know a lot of idiot MDs from top 5s, and far fewer idiot researchers from those very institutions. MDs are also the only "smart bunch" to find themselves consistently in these stupid situations. That said, I want to be an MD(PhD), so what's that say about me? Likely not much good, Haha.

 

[Lawpy]

Imo research/PhD smarts >> MD smarts. Not to start something, but MDs are far from "some of the smartest people in the world". Smarter than average, absolutely, but smarter than other "smart people", debatable. I know a lot of idiot MDs from top 5s, and far fewer idiot researchers from those very institutions. MDs are also the only "smart bunch" to find themselves consistently in these stupid situations. That said, I want to be an MD(PhD), so what's that say about me? Likely not much good, Haha.

Can't have meaningful research results without doctors running the clinical trials, so MD smarts >>> research/PhD smarts

 

[ImmunoLove]

Can't have meaningful research results without doctors running the clinical trials, so MD smarts >>> research/PhD smarts

Oh lawper, I see how it is 🙂

(Hopefully you know that's not how it works).
<3

 

[Krupke]

The OP never said that his gf is overly sensitive or neurotic. She will probably be very happy for him, but that doesn't mean it won't still sting a little for her and wouldn't make her feel a little more fearful for her future. The OP just wanted to avoid making her feel insecure and he didn't want to feel guilty himself for having an acceptance when she doesn't.

It was an awkward situation and OP took the coward way out by avoiding the conflict. Doesn't make him shady or her crazy.

Just step up OP and explain to her how you didn't want her to feel disappointed in herself and that you felt guilty

 

[Brorthopedic]

I agree. We don't know the whole story. There is always a tendency for people to assume that the woman is the crazy neurotic vindictive one. If you read the earlier posts those words were used to describe a person we don't know. That is why I chose to offer an alternative point of view. Then one person said something about keeping a girl distracted by buying her designer clothes.... Just another one of those things that's just annoying and a little misogynistic.

 

[Lucca]

OP is super banned and was super trolling lol

 

[El Curandero]

While you should realistically tell her the truth I would probably end up lying to her about it and telling her you just got some interviews ect. lol...

 

[aalamruad]

Imo research/PhD smarts >> MD smarts. Not to start something, but MDs are far from "some of the smartest people in the world". Smarter than average, absolutely, but smarter than other "smart people", debatable. I know a lot of idiot MDs from top 5s, and far fewer idiot researchers from those very institutions. MDs are also the only "smart bunch" to find themselves consistently in these stupid situations. That said, I want to be an MD(PhD), so what's that say about me? Likely not much good, Haha.

No, you don't know a lot of idiot MDs from top 5s...

 

[ImmunoLove]

No, you don't know a lot of idiot MDs from top 5s...

Yeah, because you know me personally and my exposure to MDs at top 5s. Buzz off.

 

[aalamruad]

Yeah, because you know me personally and my exposure to MDs at top 5s. Buzz off.

Couldn't care less who you are personally. You don't get into a top 5 if you're an idiot.

 

[JustAPhD]

No, you don't know a lot of idiot MDs from top 5s...

Yeah, because you know me personally and my exposure to MDs at top 5s. Buzz off.

I think you two are comparing apples to oranges. The majority of PhDs and MDs tend to think differently from my experience. Let's agree we're all smart! No sense in competing against each other when we depend on one another in a variety of ways.


Now those MD/PhDs? Well they just throw a wrench into everything! 😛

 

[ImmunoLove]

Couldn't care less who you are personally. You don't get into a top 5 if you're an idiot.

HAHAHA. The only people dumber than those idiot top 5s are the bigger idiots who believe that. Go away. I'm done chatting with you.

 

[ImmunoLove]

I think you two are comparing apples to oranges. The majority of PhDs and MDs tend to think differently from my experience. Let's agree we're all smart! No sense in competing against each other when we depend on one another in a variety of ways.


Now those MD/PhDs? Well they just throw a wrench into everything! 😛

Agreed! (But actually this premie is making a totally different argument which doesn't contradict mine, but whatever...)

 

[aalamruad]

I think you two are comparing apples to oranges. The majority of PhDs and MDs tend to think differently from my experience. Let's agree we're all smart! No sense in competing against each other when we depend on one another in a variety of ways.


Now those MD/PhDs? Well they just throw a wrench into everything! 😛

You're right, although I'm not even comparing MDs and PhDs. Just pointing out that this girl's full of it

 

[ImmunoLove]

You're right, although I'm not even comparing MDs and PhDs. Just pointing out that this guy's full of it

*girl. Your powers of deductive reasoning are astounding.

Though I do agree you should take everything on SDN/internet with a grain of salt, so you get a point for that.

And I'll let you in on a secret: I'm located at two top 5s...

Now to have coffee. Please stop with the flame wars- they're not fun if you're over 30.

 

[TBV]

HAHAHA. The only people dumber than those idiot top 5s are the bigger idiots who believe that. Go away. I'm done chatting with you.

I swear some of the dumbest people I know, I met in med school.

 

[aalamruad]

*girl. Your powers of deductive reasoning are astounding.

Though I do agree you should take everything on SDN/internet with a grain of salt, so you get a point for that.

And I'll let you in on a secret: I'm located at two top 5s...

Now to have coffee. Please stop with the flame wars- they're not fun if you're over 30.

fixed.

Maybe our definitions of "idiot" are just slightly different 😛

Agreed, I'll grab a cup too, my friend 🙂

 

[ImmunoLove]

fixed.

Maybe our definitions of "idiot" are just slightly different 😛

Agreed, I'll grab a cup too, my friend 🙂

Don't worry, it happens. I'm old(er) and been around the block. So let's just leave it at that. Now please, go become a rockstar MD and show idiot MDs everywhere how it's done. I'm not being facetious-- those pedigrees have nothing on you/anyone.

 

[aalamruad]

Don't worry, it happens. I'm old(er) and been around the block. So let's just leave it at that. Now please, go become a rockstar MD and show idiot MDs everywhere how it's done. I'm not being facetious-- those pedigrees have nothing on you/anyone.

I'm on my way 😀

 

[ROSC]

This is AWESOME, just tell her nonchalantly. "Oh yea btw, I had an interview back in October, didn't want to tell you for fear of crushing your spirits. Along while simultaneously reserving my rights, and freedoms as a soon to be single man to observe the eye candy of possible classmates next year. So, my suggestion to you is either get into med school yourself, and gain some leverage of your own; or suck it up, and start getting on the D like its no bodies business.Reason being is I can only imagine how stress full these next few years will be on me".

 

[Me.D.]

OP is super banned and was super trolling lol

OP most likely got banned for blatantly violating TOS. Lol for future reference if you want to make a burn account to ask a question don't admit that you have multiple accounts.... #lessonsfromstreampaw