Yogafire69
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Context: I worked in the NICU as an RT. As a black male in a unit mostly comprised of Caucasian females, I know to always be on my best behavior. After 2 years of being professional, compassionate, and respectful to every person I interacted with, I eventually gave them a reason to fire me. HR launched an investigation due to a nurse filing a complaint about me. It was related to a conversation that we had almost a month ago to this date. It was during a time when I was in a rough patch w my gf and I was seeking relationship advice. I asked her if she was still seeing this one guy and she said no. She asked me about my gf and I began confiding in her. I told her that we were going through a rough patch and that I'd been dealing with sexual frustration. Mistake #1: there are things that shouldn't be talked about within the workplace. During our conversation, she didn't cue/hint that she was uncomfortable. She even gave me advice as to what I should do. I didn't think I creeped her out or anything of the sort. The reason why I think she went to HR was that after that night, she would disrespect my time/intellect as an RT. I never confronted her about it but I did distance myself from her. After a month from that conversation, I was called by my supervisor and told that I was being placed on suspension WITH pay. She explicitly told me not to contact any coworkers about the investigation. Mistake #2: I contacted two nurses who I thought I could trust (bad move). One was a friend and the other was a "friend" who I was suspicious of. The uncertainty got the best of me. I was called on a Friday and was thinking all sorts of things over the weekend. Looking back now, If I had nothing to hide, I shouldn't have any reason to be anxious.
Long story short, I was terminated not because of the findings from the investigation, but the fact that I reached out to others when told not to and it was seen as retaliation against the investigation. My supervisor and I have had animosity for a while that stemmed from me being strict with my availability due to school. She wanted me gone. The older charge nurses have wanted me gone since I first started. Despite my kindness, there were reports written about me (like small mistakes) by them as a newly graduated RT. No coaching or teaching, just reports. I'm sure when HR asked them about me, they had nothing nice to say.
What I'm taking away from this is: personal life and work life should stay separated, sex shouldn't even be whispered in the workplace, and dealing with HR is like a court case.
I've completed all the prereqs for medical school and I have the MCAT scheduled for July 15th. I asked a neonatologist about a LOR a month ago before I got fired. Upon getting fired, I emailed him and was completely transparent with how I got fired and that I would still love a LOR from him. My entire med school application centered around being a NICU RT. I'm taking time off to ace my MCAT before I pick up a travel contract. I'm extremely worried bc my GPA isn't the best and the corporation that owns the hospital also owns the ONLY medical school I'm applying to. I'm applying to one school instead of all simply bc I only want this school (its also the only school that doesn't require OCHEM 2. I don't mind taking it, it's just really close to my application/MCAT and I'm definitely not taking it after losing my job). Before all this, I had a sliver of hope that I could get in. Now, I'm not too sure if anyone is able to separate the honorable person who's worked there for two years from the "pervert" who just got fired. I want to remain hopeful that my application isn't completely screwed. What do yall think?
EDIT: After reading other posts, I think my best bet is to apply the next cycle. Due to my only 2 years of clinical experience being in a place where I got fired, I think it's best that I travel and gain clinical experience/LOR from other places. I can also retake some classes (along w O-Chem 2) and raise my GPA in the meantime. Before I was fired, I was basing my application on hope. After getting fired, I understand that hope may just not be enough. I think it's wise to strengthen my first application attempt versus becoming a reapplicant. This route brings ease to my mind, what do you all think?
Long story short, I was terminated not because of the findings from the investigation, but the fact that I reached out to others when told not to and it was seen as retaliation against the investigation. My supervisor and I have had animosity for a while that stemmed from me being strict with my availability due to school. She wanted me gone. The older charge nurses have wanted me gone since I first started. Despite my kindness, there were reports written about me (like small mistakes) by them as a newly graduated RT. No coaching or teaching, just reports. I'm sure when HR asked them about me, they had nothing nice to say.
What I'm taking away from this is: personal life and work life should stay separated, sex shouldn't even be whispered in the workplace, and dealing with HR is like a court case.
I've completed all the prereqs for medical school and I have the MCAT scheduled for July 15th. I asked a neonatologist about a LOR a month ago before I got fired. Upon getting fired, I emailed him and was completely transparent with how I got fired and that I would still love a LOR from him. My entire med school application centered around being a NICU RT. I'm taking time off to ace my MCAT before I pick up a travel contract. I'm extremely worried bc my GPA isn't the best and the corporation that owns the hospital also owns the ONLY medical school I'm applying to. I'm applying to one school instead of all simply bc I only want this school (its also the only school that doesn't require OCHEM 2. I don't mind taking it, it's just really close to my application/MCAT and I'm definitely not taking it after losing my job). Before all this, I had a sliver of hope that I could get in. Now, I'm not too sure if anyone is able to separate the honorable person who's worked there for two years from the "pervert" who just got fired. I want to remain hopeful that my application isn't completely screwed. What do yall think?
EDIT: After reading other posts, I think my best bet is to apply the next cycle. Due to my only 2 years of clinical experience being in a place where I got fired, I think it's best that I travel and gain clinical experience/LOR from other places. I can also retake some classes (along w O-Chem 2) and raise my GPA in the meantime. Before I was fired, I was basing my application on hope. After getting fired, I understand that hope may just not be enough. I think it's wise to strengthen my first application attempt versus becoming a reapplicant. This route brings ease to my mind, what do you all think?
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