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So, my mom informs me tonight that the gossip at the family christmas party this year is that I haven't gotten accepted to medical school yet, but my cousin, the murse, (read male nurse) got into a master's program. They're talking about like its the same freakin thing and that he must be so much smarter than me!!!

I hate the holidays. It's always some stupid pissing contest vying from grandpa and grandma's love and I never participate (b/c I don't really like them anyway) but now, on top of dealing with the application process itself, there's all this family bullsh** telling me that I'm not as good as my murse cousin.

I know this is whiny, but I have enough to deal with right now without having to justify myself all winter break.
 
That's why I don't go around and announce to everyone "I'm a pre-med!" Family gossips are terrible, so I know how you feel.
 
eikenhein said:
If having others think you are smart is the reason you apply to medicine, you better re-evaluate your motives.
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This was totally mean and unnecessary.

I feel for you OP. Family issues suck. I go through the same thing all the time. You just need to suffer through the holidays and go back to your own life and focus on yourself and your own goals.
 
murse - ghey


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eikenhein said:
If having others think you are smart is the reason you apply to medicine, you better re-evaluate your motives.
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I know. Thanks for starting the inevitable flame that I figured this thread would turn into. It's not that I have to be smarter than everyone. It's having to listen to the accusatory insinuations all break long.

Getting into medical school is HARDER than getting into a masters of nursing program, as I’m sure we can all agree. So the comparison, and it's accompanying implication that I am a failure, irks me. That's all.
 
Sarg's kid said:
So, my mom informs me tonight that the gossip at the family christmas party this year is that I haven't gotten accepted to medical school yet, but my cousin, the murse, (read male nurse) got into a master's program. They're talking about like its the same freakin thing and that he must be so much smarter than me!!!

I hate the holidays. It's always some stupid pissing contest vying from grandpa and grandma's love and I never participate (b/c I don't really like them anyway) but now, on top of dealing with the application process itself, there's all this family bullsh** telling me that I'm not as good as my murse cousin.

I know this is whiny, but I have enough to deal with right now without having to justify myself all winter break.
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I know that you want validation from your family (I think it is only natural). As long as you are working hard and know what you want...you will be fine.

Your murse cousin knows wassup!!!! And you are not in competition w/ him, right?

Good luck...Try not to worry about that other stuff (especially since most of your family members will not understand)!!!!!
 
I'm with you OP, family members can be unpleasant, I have my share of those. I hope you have an acceptance to announce to your murse cousin soon. I can't wait till x-mas though; we're doing secret santa this year and a few got names of people they don't like :meanie: . Fabulous!
 
e_phn said:
That's why I don't go around and announce to everyone "I'm a pre-med!" Family gossips are terrible, so I know how you feel.
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yeah, he should just avoid even telling his family that he's trying to become a doctor 🙄 I guess not telling them what's up in his life isn't lying but whatever....
 
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quantummechanic said:
yeah, he should just avoid even telling his family that he's trying to become a doctor 🙄 I guess not telling them what's up in his life isn't lying but whatever....
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actually, telling the family is okay. but as you know, some ppl don't get along w/ everyone in the family..well, shouldn't you avoid telling them that you're a pre-med? they mihgt make fun of you or something when you fail your premed journey. all i'm saying is you have to see who are the right ppl to tell. there are ppl calle "jerks" walking around ( and OP, I'm not calling your family "jerks" or anything....)
 
Depakote said:
Grandparents are great. Enjoy them while you have them...

Summary: Quit bitching.
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not everybody's grandparents are so great. if you're fortunate to have great grandparents well then good for you.
 
I can sympathize, that's why i made sure to tell my parents to keep the premed thing on the down low until I got an acceptance.

There's no need to be upset because they are congraluating your cousin for getting into nursing school. I'm sure your grandparents want to be proud of all their grandkids. And to them, they will want to brag about any sort of achievement, so it may not be that they are pissing at you, but congratulating him on his acceptance. Most people have only a vague inkling about the med school process since few have experience in getting into competitive schools. They are probably not used to how long and random the process is.

Btw, your stats aren't bad, but have you thought about adding more schools and adding more lower tiered schools?
 
DropkickMurphy said:
I just avoid my family whenever possible. It makes things a lot simpler.
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you're kinda like one of those crazy guys whose family doesnt really know much about, at least from following your posts, but ends up being the most mysteriously fascinating lol
 
Yoooo Braaandon Luk! This Is Danny Lee! How Are You Doing You Evil Scientist?!
(we went to HS together)
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Yeah, I feel your pain buddy. Same thing happened to me when my fam. heard I got into Boston College for undergrad. Thay were like... "Oh, that place is expensive... ::silence::"

I get that crap all the time. All I gotta say is keep your head up. Take it like a man and just believe in yourself homeboy. When you do get into Med School, you can just take a crap on your cousins car. :] Then you get the last laugh. Now is the quiet before the storm.

also, maybe he will be working under you... so you can make him do funny things.

Disclaimer: no disrespect to nurses. they embody the foundation of medical service. hats off to you folks.
 
eikenhein said:
If having others think you are smart is the reason you apply to medicine, you better re-evaluate your motives.
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I don't think that was his point. OPs just feeling vulnerable and doesn't need family members' criticisms.

To the OP you may want to toss out your app to some lower tier schools just for some security. Don't feel like you are below your cousin, when you get in to med school and become a doctor the scales will swing the other way.

On a separate note, last year I took a graduate physiology class that had a lot of the nursing masters' students. Whiile the class was hard, all of them struggled just to pass. Let's just say they were not the sharpest tools in the shed.
 
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Um, it is your family's job to try to make you miserable and piss you off. This will prepare you for being married someday.

Glad to help. 😀
 
Robizzle said:
Somebody needs a good masturbation session!
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I agree!
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I feel the same way. My a@$hole uncle wouldn't let it go last Christmas when I told him I didn't have a very good semester. I felt depressed the whole semester and just didn't give a rip about school, but he just kept hounding me about my grades and it made me feel really bad. I know where you're coming from.

P.S. Nurses think they are the @#$% and think doctors are idiots...my mom and sister are nurses and it seems like they never have anything nice to say about docs.
 
Too bad the "murse" is kicking your *ss at this point. Not to bring your confidence down, but you may want to change you attitude about these kinds of things. I hope it makes you feel better by calling a relative a "murse." My brother is a "murse." I'll wager your semi-sized d*ck that he shows more compassion in his career than you ever will.
 
Murse...I love it. :laugh: :laugh:
 
Just buy some of them this DVD for Christmas:

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Your Mom should not have told you that. That's very uncool of her. Anyway, ignore those idiots. Live your life for yourself.
 
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i can sympathize as i failed my first attempt at getting into med school - a huge blow to the ego. you just need to keep you chin up and regain your confidence. know and admit if there were mistakes made in the application process or work to be done on your application. i grew a lot through the experience basically by being honest - first with myself, then others.

and...gaylord actually got a 42R - V14 PS13 BS15

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darn, my tiny url didn't post. just google gaylord focker mcat score and click on the first link (to ebay).
 
Uvault05 said:
Too bad the "murse" is kicking your *ss at this point. Not to bring your confidence down, but you may want to change you attitude about these kinds of things. I hope it makes you feel better by calling a relative a "murse." My brother is a "murse." I'll wager your semi-sized d*ck that he shows more compassion in his career than you ever will.
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While YOU on the other hand, whew, so compassionate. Uvault is an example of compassion to all of us.

Depakote said:
Grandparents are great. Enjoy them while you have them...
Summary: Quit bitching.
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Yeah, My grandparents are manipulative, scheming, rude people. I hate visiting them and don't plan to any more than I have to. Ultimate goal is to move far enough away that I never have to visit.

(My dad's parents are nice enough. I like them and visit often...)
 
I sympathize with the OP. As if this process isn't cruel and miserable enough while you're waiting for an acceptance, it's terrible to have someone misjudge you during it. Honestly, I think you should dismiss what your grandparents say. Don't take it personally. They may not understand how stressful this process actually is, so they let slip obnoxious comments without realizing it. You are more than sum of your acceptances.
 
Getting into an NP program is a personal accomplishment, and it should be celebrated in a family environment. So I think it's right that they're congratulating the guy and letting the family know they're proud of him. Are you sure you're not reading too much into their praise of him and equating it with putting you down, when it's not intended like that?

If it really is them trying to make you feel sheepish, then that's pretty low. Such behavior is generally displayed by parents/grandparents who use guilt and suggestion (read: passive-agressive techniques) to get their kids to do what they want them to do.

This whole "you should feel guilty for lesser academic achievement" thing also tends to run in certain cultural or religious circles... 😉 Maybe that's what's going on too. Who knows.

Good luck with that, anyway... Don't take it personally! Achieve what you set out to achieve and nevermind what people think. 👍
 
rpkall said:
Getting into an NP program is a personal accomplishment, and it should be celebrated in a family environment. So I think it's right that they're congratulating the guy and letting the family know they're proud of him. Are you sure you're not reading too much into their praise of him and equating it with putting you down, when it's not intended like that?

If it really is them trying to make you feel sheepish, then that's pretty low. Such behavior is generally displayed by parents/grandparents who use guilt and suggestion (read: passive-agressive techniques) to get their kids to do what they want them to do.

This whole "you should feel guilty for lesser academic achievement" thing also tends to run in certain cultural or religious circles... 😉 Maybe that's what's going on too. Who knows.

Good luck with that, anyway... Don't take it personally! Achieve what you set out to achieve and nevermind what people think. 👍
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You nailed it. Passive agressive guilt tactics coupled with definate cultural/religious influence. That's exactly what it is. That's what drives me nuts. They guilt me about not visiting every month. They guilt me about not having kids yet (I'm married). They guilt me about not wanting to live close to the giant family (all of them live in Idaho, and it's like a sin that I don't want to join the cloister).

Anyway, Thanks for the support. I wanted to vent and most of the responses have been exactly what I needed. SDN rocks.
 
This thread makes me happy that my family has no idea how this process works.

Conversation with my aunt last week:

Me: Hey, I have great news, I got accepted to XYZ Medical School, I am soooooo relieved, bla bla bla.

Aunt: That's great! So do you have to take an entry exam or do you just go straight to medical school after graduation??

Me: Um...no.**thinking: kill me now**

I get similar responses from everyone in my family. 😳


Back to the topic...

If you have family member who enjoy putting other family members down (there's at least one in every family):

You'll have to learn to ignore them and just remember that one day they will eat their words. Always be nice and when you feel insulted don't be afraid to speak up and say "I don't appreciate what you said," or to correct them. There's no reason why you shouldn't defend yourself (always nicely, there's nothing that makes a person feel worse than being nice to them).
 
To the OP: we all feel your pain. Relatives can be a royal pain if they don't play nicely with others during the holidays.

In high school, everybody scoffed when I told them where I was applying to colleges (mostly Ivies) and went around saying "Ooooh, Harrrrrrrrrvaaaaaaaard." And then they started bugging me about where I was going to go to medical school. I wasn't even sure I wanted to go (took me several years to figure that out). Now that they've figured out that I want to go to medical school, they keep pestering me about what specialty I'm going into (they say stuff like, "go into geriatrics so you can take care of us").

I'm tempted to say to them that I'm going into pediatric nephrology because A) they won't know what that is and B) none of them have children younger than 22. It's oh so tempting.
 
baylormed said:
This thread makes me happy that my family has no idea how this process works.

Conversation with my aunt last week:

Me: Hey, I have great news, I got accepted to XYZ Medical School, I am soooooo relieved, bla bla bla.

Aunt: That's great! So do you have to take an entry exam or do you just go straight to medical school after graduation??

Me: Um...no.**thinking: kill me now**

I get similar responses from everyone in my family. 😳
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Who cares if they are unclear about the process? They didn't insult or degrade you, they are just unclear about something they have no reason to know. More or less most do go to med school right after graduation, so one of her answers was viable. You are making a big deal about absolutely nothing.
 
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Chuckwalla said:
Who cares if they are unclear about the process? They didn't insult or degrade you, they are just unclear about something they have no reason to know. More or less most do go to med school right after graduation, so one of her answers was viable. You are making a big deal about absolutely nothing.
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Who's making a big deal? I said I was GLAD they know nothing about it, precisely because nobody keeps pestering me about it. Those kinds of questions are actually cute...even though I have to explain the same thing over and over again.

Clarification: I did NOT, I repeat, I did not write that post in an angry tone. 😉
 
baylormed said:
Who's making a big deal? I said I was GLAD they know nothing about it, precisely because nobody keeps pestering me about it. Those kinds of questions are actually cute...even though I have to explain the same thing over and over again.

Clarification: I did NOT, I repeat, I did not write that post in an angry tone. 😉
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Really? I because I think kill me now when people say "cute" things too. You have to remember that these people weren't there when you explained it to others and probably don't even know you did. Personally I enjoy being the authority on things people know nothing about. Do yourself and others a favor and NEVER teach.
 
My brother is a nurse applying to an emergency room nurse practitioner program. I know this particular program is not as difficult as getting into medical school, but I would never put him down. Instead he continues to make 60,000 a year while going to school (which is paid for him) and will start at over 100,000 when he graduates.

medical school= 4 years lost wages 240,000 + ~200,000 medical school expenses= $440,000. Of course the OP has a stick so far up his @ss he would be clueless on how to handle the investment capital.

To top it off, did i mention he works three 12 hour shifts/week...who is really the idiot? I know I am not looking forward to the time I will miss with my family.
 
Chuckwalla said:
Really? I because I think kill me now when people say "cute" things too. You have to remember that these people weren't there when you explained it to others and probably don't even know you did. Personally I enjoy being the authority on things people know nothing about. Do yourself and others a favor and NEVER teach.
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Wow, why all the anger??

I'm not even going to try to explain the meaning of a joke to you.
 
So I totally thought the OP probably had an MCAT of 35+ and a great GPA, but instead he has an average MCAT and GPA.:laugh: I found it ironic that one of his so called majors was "nursing". Dude, if you are going to rip on nurses at least have stellar stats and do a little better in those nursing classes.
 
DropkickMurphy said:
I just avoid my family whenever possible. It makes things a lot simpler.
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👍 :meanie:

Just remember unless you're in the same boat, everybody is so f***ing clueless about this whole process 😎 Hang in there. :luck:
 
Chuckwalla said:
Hmm, disagreement is anger? Ok...
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Calling me out then saying I should do myself and others a favor and never teach...sounds pretty angry to me.

Discussion ends here, I don't really want to hear whatever else you have to say.
 
i think everyone here needs a chill pill!
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