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Looking for any current or future residents who entered the homeownership arena with a significant other (not spouse) in the equation. Mostly to form a support group! What was your experience like? What are you planning to do?
I will offer up a little to shape out my situation: I will be moving to another state for residency where cost of living is very reasonable. Nearly all the residents I talked to there bought homes. I have a lovely significant other of 1.5 years (have known him for longer) who is excited about moving with me. We have a very stable relationship and get along quite well, just not interested in planning a wedding currently. He has some ghosts in his credit past (although has become very responsible-I know all the details of his financial situation) and may be looking into starting a business (non-medical). He currently makes around 50K/year freelancing, and won't have a problem finding work. Given that and my ability to qualify for a variety of special mortgage options, all of our discussion has revolved around me purchasing the home. We have discussed various options ranging from splitting all expenses to a fixed monthly "rent" on his part. He is very handy and interested in doing some work/improvements on anything I might buy.
I read so many warnings about buying a house with someone you're not married to (although I think our relationship is quite stable compared to even married couples I know- just lacks the apparent weight of being legal). I know that everybody says "this won't happen to me", so I won't bother saying that I feel our situation is unique. I just am looking for some people with real-life experience in this department. I can't be the only one. Thanks
I will offer up a little to shape out my situation: I will be moving to another state for residency where cost of living is very reasonable. Nearly all the residents I talked to there bought homes. I have a lovely significant other of 1.5 years (have known him for longer) who is excited about moving with me. We have a very stable relationship and get along quite well, just not interested in planning a wedding currently. He has some ghosts in his credit past (although has become very responsible-I know all the details of his financial situation) and may be looking into starting a business (non-medical). He currently makes around 50K/year freelancing, and won't have a problem finding work. Given that and my ability to qualify for a variety of special mortgage options, all of our discussion has revolved around me purchasing the home. We have discussed various options ranging from splitting all expenses to a fixed monthly "rent" on his part. He is very handy and interested in doing some work/improvements on anything I might buy.
I read so many warnings about buying a house with someone you're not married to (although I think our relationship is quite stable compared to even married couples I know- just lacks the apparent weight of being legal). I know that everybody says "this won't happen to me", so I won't bother saying that I feel our situation is unique. I just am looking for some people with real-life experience in this department. I can't be the only one. Thanks