how common is it that those close to you want you to fail in life

[muffintop09]

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Jealousy is a perfectly normal phenomenon, especially when you two are striving towards the same goal. Say you are interviewing at harvard med and your bff bob just got into howard, and has no more interviews. do u honestly think bob will be happy and hoping you get into harvard. helllz to the no, bob will be wishing you dont get in. its only human nature.
Do you think your friends that went to technical school are happy knowing you will be making 4 times as much as they are in a mere couple of years? nope.

 

[Lbgem]

Jealousy is a perfectly normal phenomenon, especially when you two are striving towards the same goal. Say you are interviewing at harvard med and your bff bob just got into howard, and has no more interviews. do u honestly think bob will be happy and hoping you get into harvard. helllz to the no, bob will be wishing you dont get in. its only human nature.
Do you think your friends that went to technical school are happy knowing you will be making 4 times as much as they are in a mere couple of years? nope.

That would be frenemies imo. I think part of being a good friend is being happy for each other and helping each other out. I have been happy for friends that do really well and are going for the same goal (say med school, cause it's really unlikely that you took Bob's spot). Exactly the same goal to where it's either you or him, hm...let me think about that one.

That said, I do have a super competitive streak to the point where my friends won't play Monopoly with me...

 

[sunset823]

I love this thread...

similar experience....you'll make new friends who are similar to you and won't be jealous. As far as relatives....I can't even remember the last time I talked to one of my douche cousins or weird aunts. So you are not stuck with your relatives. Look at it this way....fewer calls in the future to take care of little cousin Jimmy ear pain in the middle of the night.

my parents are awesome and have been completely supportive of me through good and bad, and I'm very close to them, but I can't say the same for my 'other' relatives. So far I'm doing a hell of a job avoiding them, I haven't seen any of them in 4 and a half years and counting...to eternity. It's pretty likely they won't even know what part of the country I live in after med school. I've purposely boycotted all weddings, religious/cultural ceremonies, or anything else involving large family gatherings. (Granted, I'm busy and have better things to do than go to weddings of people I barely know anyway, but this is an added incentive).

I recently got to meet several of my old high school friends. They are about the same age as me. They still live at home, and work minimum wage jobs. No sign of any prospects on the horizon.

I mostly kept my mouth shut and listened to them, in case I'd come across as being arrogant. I couldn't relate to them anymore. I really didn't know what to say.

The reason is that I had a friend walk away from our friendship. He straight out told me that he was tired of being jealous of me. Tired of me succeeding at everything, while he floundered. What am I supposed to say to that? Sorry that I actually studied in high school and college?

As for friends - I don't have that many friends who went into a medical career, but I do have friends who have done great things in the careers they chose (Rhodes, Marshall, etc.), so I don't really count myself as that great, just sort of average. I just like to associate with really smart people. However, I grew up in a pretty poor blue collar town and some of my close friends from back in the school daze are married with kids and declaring bankruptcy in this economy, and that I really cannot relate to. I try to be supportive, but since I don't know the least bit about what they are experiencing (being single, traveling extensively, switching one bedroom apartments every year), at some point I just gave up trying.