How do you cope?

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I have been dying to ask this question, since I started this journey of being a vet, I feel like I am being very selfish, I feel like I neglected my own dog. I don't have much time with my dog anymore, he spends long hours at home alone. Now that I volunteer at the clinic, I can no longer spend my weekend with him anymore, how about you guys? I can't even imagine what it would be like when I start school as well.
 
I have been dying to ask this question, since I started this journey of being a vet, I feel like I am being very selfish, I feel like I neglected my own dog. I don't have much time with my dog anymore, he spends long hours at home alone. Now that I volunteer at the clinic, I can no longer spend my weekend with him anymore, how about you guys? I can't even imagine what it would be like when I start school as well.

Fabulous question, as i have been wondering the same thing. I waited years to get dogs again after being a pilot and ended up getting two the minute i started working out of my home office. 5 years later and going off to vet school, i worry about the same thing. It's even played into my vet career aspirations...much more inclined to own my own practice so i can set the rules and have the little buggers at work. If i had a spouse at home, i would feel differently about this, I suppose. I need a househusband!!!

i really look forward to hearing some responses/advice on this subject. Already feeling guilty, guilty.....
 
With my older dog, it doesn't bother me at all. She just sleeps all the time and when I come home she looks at me like "oh, were you gone?" And goes back to sleep. But it is really hard with my younger dog. He's a 3 y/o Boxer/Pit/Lab with tons of energy. I absolutely hate it when I'm gone all day and have to study when I am at home. He'll lay a toy at my feet and just stare at me with longing eyes. It's only going to get worse when I start clinics and my days will be even longer. Mine gets lots and lots of toys and I spend as much time with him as I can.

Frequency often goes farther than length of time. 15 minute walk before class, 20 minutes of fetch when you get home, even five minutes of brushing while your dinner is in the microwave or during study breaks, etc. Those are some of the little things I do. I've also considered finding an older kid that wants to make a few extra bucks by playing with my dog a couple of time a week - it'd probably be cheaper than some of the toys I've bought!
 
I think everyone probably feels guilty..I know I do. But honestly, I couldn't imagine going through school without my dog. She's always there when I get home, and she reminds me exactly why I'm doing what I'm doing- especially now, with another year before some hands on experience.
It's all about balance and prioritizing, I guess. I know that she's at home, so it means that instead of studying at school, I study at home. She also forces me to take study breaks, and helps me keep my sanity.
If I have alot of exams during the week, or it's really intense, she might get shorter walks than normal, and then as soon as my exams are over, I'll take her hiking, or running, or something else that I know she enjoys to make up for it.
There's no easy solution, but there's time during school for what's important to you.
 
I have working dogs, and so anytime either of us has an injury, or life gets chaotic, I have to 'return to basics.'

So, no matter what, if they are healthy, they get half an hour of exercise in the morning. Walk, run, swim, fetch (if I am injured) which is important for me as well, as it helps keep me healthy. It does mean I am up earlier, but I find it does me a lot of good. Also, if I really need to study, I can take along note cards with 'topics' on them and review while on the go. That is pre-breakfast.

Breakfast is then served in a food puzzle. You can buy some of these (kong, premeir, and starmark all have options available) or you can make your own (google canine behavior enrichement or wolf behavior enrichment.) We made most of ours. If we aren't in the house, food is always fed in some sort of food puzzle. We rotate the puzzles just to keep the dog's more occupied. Mental energy translates into better behavior and more restful.

If I know it will be a long day away from home (more than 9.5 hours) I arrange to have someone stop by, let the dogs out, and distribute a chew or bones or just a different set of toys (we keep toys in bins and rotate what is available which helps keep the toys fun and novel.)

After I return home we have another exercise session, about 15 minutes, generally a walk or fetch or tug and often including a brief training session (clicker training) where I use their food as treats. This is a good relaxer for me, and I finish feeding them while I prep my own dinner. Then we settle in for the evening, often with a different set of toys (toss the ones down into a bin, and grab another bin....we have about 20 small stackable bins on a shelf for this.) Dogs occupy themselves while I study. At least every hour I take a 5-10 minute break to get up, move around, get a soda, and I try to make these high energy aciivity with my pets. We play tag and tug a lot. I have trained all of my dogs to settle down and be calm on cue, just in case they are too riled. We end the evening with a last 10 minute game, then off to bed.

I do have multiple dogs, and I do feel that our dogs, which are paired up pretty well, entertain each other. As I write this, my two big dogs are laying back to back. My medium dogs are in the other room chewing on bones, and the two small dogs are chasing each other around.

I do believe that getting a dog to work mentally, along with regular physical activity, will help them rest better and be calmer in general, and will give some quality, even if there isn't quantity.
 
What kind of working dogs do you have Sumstorm?
 
Just air scent search and rescue. One is pretty tradiional, a shepherd, the other is an american cocker. Cocker is also disaster trained.
 
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